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Announcing: My Book & My Birthday!

Bonjour, darling readers! If I’ve been a bit quiet lately it’s because I’ve taken something of a Spring Break. I’ve been having champagne toasts & gazing at all things blooming & snapping photographs with disposable cameras & hiking in the forest & enjoying the first BBQ of the season! I hope you aren’t missing me too much. 😉

Flowering Tree

This morning I have a couple of important announcements to make. So, here goes…

Big Announcement Numero Uno
I started my first book! If there were a way to digitally make balloons & confetti fall from the ceiling and horns blow and crowds cheer all of that would be happening right now. This is a monumental announcement for me. This book has been stewing in my brain for two whole years. It’s the culmination of every lesson that I’ve learned in my twenty-seven years on this planet: my journey to overcome anxiety & depression; my losing seventy pounds; and my two years of blogging. Yea, it’s going to be huge. 🙂 And I am ridiculously beside myself with excitement about it.

I’ve not landed on a title yet, but I can share a few secrets with you already.

  • First, the book will include all of the tools that I used to overcome anxiety & depression. It tells the story of how I transformed—from unhappy & unhealthy to unstoppable & incredible. And better yet, it shows you how you can do it, too.
  • Second, so far the book is thirteen epic chapters!
  • Third, the book will include never-before-told stories from my journey. And let me tell you, some of these stories are mucho juicy!

Big Announcement Numero Dos
In a few short hours, at 1:09 a.m. it will be my birthday! Alright, well maybe this one isn’t such a big announcement. I am just so happy to celebrate my birthday this year. I can’t believe it’s already been a whole year since we last celebrated!

Twenty-six has been one heck of a year—sometimes difficult, but mostly dazzling. I am left entirely grateful for all of it. I can’t wait to see what twenty-seven has in store for me.

Thank you to you—my precious readers & friends—for your presence, love, and inspiration. I am a lucky gal. If you are so inclined to grace me with some birthday goodness, you can donate securely by clicking this nifty yellow button:




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I am signing off for now. The next couple of days will find me celebrating in a party hat, getting tons of birthday hugs & kisses (hopefully!); and eating entirely too much sushi for my own good. 😉

In love & light,
Dena

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    My Journey to Financial Freedom | Part 1: The Fall

    Three years ago, I was nearly $60,000 in debt. I had a Bachelor’s degree that didn’t appear to be worth its weight in salt and a job that couldn’t cover a fraction of my monthly bills. I was terrified.

    Today, I am closer to complete financial freedom than I ever dreamed possible. Last week, I paid off my last remaining credit card balance. This two-part post is a celebration of this incredible milestone in my journey.

    In part one, I will explain how I got to that terrible place. In part two, I will explain how I’m getting out of it (and how you can do it, too).

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    A financial prison is the worst sort of prison to be stuck in. A financial prison does not have steel bars or a prison warden. You will not get sent to financial prison for committing a crime. There is only one person that can sentence you to financial prison. That person is you.

    There are two primary types of financial prisoners:

    1. There are those in financial prison who got there because they truly did not know any better. This type eventually realizes the error of their ways and breaks free.

    2. There are those who knowingly commit themselves to financial prison. This type is well aware of the consequences of living beyond her means; but she does it anyway.

    Of course there are also those who fall somewhere in the middle, like me… (Cue dream sequence.) It all started when I was 18. The guidance counseling systems in my high school and college were either completely inadequate or I simply refused to pay attention. I can’t honestly remember which it was, though I think it was the former. Either way, I was screwed.

    Before me, no one in my family had ever been to college so I didn’t receive much advice. I was thrilled to be out of high school and ready for the next step. I took my SATs one time and applied to one school. My parents, being average folks, made just enough money to prevent me from receiving financial aid; but not enough money to be able to pay my full tuition. For me, this meant loans: “lovely” student loans from “lovely” Sallie Mae.

    My mother co-signed and it was a cinch from there. Each semester I filled out a relatively simple form and like magic, Sallie Mae sent me a check. In fact, Sallie Mae was so generous that they allowed me to take out as much “extra” money as I needed every semester. It was fantastic! Yes, I had money to pay for books, meals, and extra curricula. I also had money to go out and binge drink, buy clothes I didn’t need, designer purses, and more. Sallie Mae was wonderful to me. And the best part if it was that there was no need for discussion. No one guided me, no one advised me, and no one asked me any questions. I showed up at the financial aid office a couple of times each year and it was always smooth sailing.

    On top of that, another great thing happened when I was 18! The credit card companies started to send me applications. And that was just as easy. I got one and then another and then another. Whatever I couldn’t cover with those pretty little checks from Sallie Mae, I could simply charge on my credit cards. College was good to me. I joined a sorority, I partied hard, I shopped until I dropped. What more could a girl ask for?

    It wasn’t all fun & games though. I worked through college. I worked at a children’s camp each summer; I was a Spanish teacher for two years; and toward the end of my college career I was a bookseller at Borders bookstore. All of the money I made working was spending money for me. I had Sallie Mae and the credit cards to pay all of my “real” bills.

    When I finally graduated, I was making a cool $8.25 an hour at Borders. I loved it. I was happy… until one day, out of no where, a letter came in the mail. I had a six month grace period and then I would have to start paying back those loans. My paychecks barely covered my minimum credit card payments. How was I going to make loan payments on top of that?

    So I sat down and did something that I’d never done before. I wrote up a budget. It was horrifying when I realized that even if I’d had no other bills, my monthly wages from Borders wouldn’t even cover half of my monthly student loan payments. The jig was up.

    All told, I came out of college with about $45,000 in student loan debt and almost $15,000 in credit card debt. I hadn’t even lived on campus; I commuted from home; my parents paid for some of my tuition; and I only went to a mediocre school. How the hell was this possible?

    All of a sudden Sallie Mae and the credit card companies didn’t seem so lovely anymore. There was one thought that kept repeating over & over in my head: Why didn’t anyone warn me? I felt cheated, betrayed, angry, afraid, and helpless. I wondered what the people in the financial aid office had been doing all that time. I wondered why my high school guidance counselor didn’t press me harder about applying for scholarships or grants. I wondered a lot of things, but mostly I wondered how the hell I was going to get out of the mess.

    I started sending out resumes for jobs with starting salaries that would at least cover my monthly student loan payments. I sent out resume after resume but before long, I realized another harsh reality. That Bachelor’s Degree in English with a Creative Writing Focus wasn’t so great either. Nobody was calling me back. I couldn’t even get an interview.

    The clock was ticking. I was halfway through my grace period. Then one day, one of my best friends mentioned an opening in her office. I looked over the job description and realized that it had nothing to do with what I’d gone to school for. I didn’t even know what it actually was, but the starting salary was more than what I needed. The rest was history.

    I’ve been at my current company for almost three years now. And yesterday I paid off my last remaining credit card balance! Additionally over these few years, I’ve cut my student loan debt almost in half and by next Winter, I will have it down to a quarter of what I started with.

    Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post, where I will share how I am doing it and how you can do it, too.

6 Comments

  1. Ooh, I’m a tad late to the party, but HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Hope you’ve had an amazing one, Dena! And congrats on starting the new passion-filled book!

  2. First, a great Big Happy Birthday!! Hope it’s a great day for you and you celebrate Cinco de Dena.

    I wish you the very best luck on your book efforts, it’s a daunting task and I know from reading your posts that you are definitely up to it. I am sure that it will be a great way to even further focus your thoughts and efforts on how to live a positive and happy life.

    Looking forward to the next update on the Fitness Challenge although you definitely get a pass this week due to the Birthday lollapalooza!!

    1. @ Tessa- Thank you so much for the warm birthday wishes & the good luck! I’ll be needing it for sure. As someone who just came through (is coming through) her own EPIC book launch, I hope you’ll be able to share some advice with me on my own journey. XOXO

      @ Lou – Ah, thank you so much!! Cinco de Dena — I love it. Let’s change the holiday name altogether. 😉 You are right, it IS a daunting task. I’m noticing that and I’ve only just begun. I am trying to be optimistic and remind myself that all good things take time. 😉 It will be a labor of love for certain. Also — SFC post going up shortly. Sorry for the delay!

      @ Brad – Thank you for the birthday wish and not to worry — I am going to keep the fitness challenge in mind while I’m chowing down on that delicious sushi tonight. Thank you so much for the reminder, though. So grateful to know that somebody is here keeping me on track! You’re the best, Brad. 🙂

  3. Happy Birthday Dena! 😀

    Remember not too much Sushi! LOL You’ve got a challenge to complete. haha! Have fun Dena! 😀

    Year 27 is going to be awesome!!

  4. Sorry for the late post, but Congratulations on starting your first book and happy belated birthday!!!

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