Carousel — 04.30.10

Recently a friend of mine made a great post about this Henry Ward Beecher quote: “The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.” In the post, she explained that while she loved the quote, she felt badly about using it because, at that time, she couldn’t extract any happiness from her life. She decided that it was time to start working on the present so that she could have a better future.

I’d like to share my response to her post because I think that it is important to understand that extracting happiness from common things and focusing on the present are inextricably bound together.

“While at first, the two things you’ve described here seem to be separate (extracting happiness from common things AND focusing on the present); I actually think that they are very much the same.

We must extract happiness from common things in the present moment. Marvel at the morning dew on your windowsill. Be in reverence of the sunlight poking through the cloudy morning. Enjoy the smell of fresh coffee brewing when you get into the office. And so on and so forth.

Every single moment is a tiny miracle. Once we realize this, we will automatically live happiness. We choose what we focus on and when we focus on the beauty that is all around us—we choose happiness.”

Yes, happiness is a choice & by understanding that every moment is a small miracle, we will live happiness.

This morning I marveled at every little thing—I enjoyed the precious moments that I spent flossing my teeth; I was in awe of the gorgeous, intricate feathers on the wings of the black bird poking through our trash; I thanked the Universe for the bright prisms of light that came through the crystal hanging from my rear-view mirror. Yes, everything is a miracle! Every day is a gift and that is why we call it the present.

And with that, let’s get onto this week’s Carousel.

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Every Friday, I post my favourite links, posts, & resources from around the Web. Expect to learn, grow, & be inspired.

1. Winnie the Pooh’s Guide to a Happier Life: Two of the best things ever in one place—a happy life & Winnie the Pooh. Yes & yes, please!

2. Health Care Reform Changes Coming: This is in no way intended to be political or to spark any debate. However, I think that Baker’s remarks are thoughtful and the graphic is beautifully done & informative.

3. Deniability & PowerPoint makes us stupid: Yesterday, I participated in a webinar where Penelope Trunk interviewed one of the great brilliant minds of our era—Mr. Seth Godin.

I was thrilled when one of my questions was featured during the interview. I’ll be writing a full post about that soon, but in the meantime, enjoy these two fantastic posts from Seth.

4. Stop the Spiral of Debt Part 1: Really solid advice here about what you need to know (and do) if you want to get out of debt.

5. Post Pals: Post pals is a place where you can become pen-pals with children who are in hospital or are sick. I found out about it via Gala Darling’s Friday Carousel and thought it was too wonderful not to share.

6. 5 Things Happy People Do: The first one is my favourite—find your most golden self.

7. Die on Purpose: While it sounds morbid at first, this post is actually just beautiful. “I think it’s really helpful to forget you exist, and often. It sounds impossible, but it can be done… There is no sufferer, so there is no suffering. Curiously, beauty survives.”

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Well that’s all for this week’s round-up. I hope that you’ve enjoyed it. May you all be blessed with a wonderful weekend full of love & light.

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    Let Go of Your Goals & Unleash Your Dreams

    Dreams are Just as Important as Goals

    I’ve written quite a bit about setting & accomplishing goals; overcoming fears; and making the best out of difficult situations. But what I haven’t written enough about is flat out—unleashing your dreams.

    Goal setting is a very mathematical process. It goes something like this: Define your goal. Map out the steps necessary to achieve it. Research, develop, act. Work until you get there. This is great, it makes sense, it gets things done. However, goals are full of limitations. In order to accomplish Z, first I need to do X and Y. If I want to be in this place by this date, then I’ve got to accomplish X, Y, and Z by this date. And so on and so forth it goes. We plan and work and strive.

    Yes, goal-setting & goal accomplishment are crucial elements to success; but sometimes we have to just let go of our goals and start unleashing our dreams! Throw caution to the wind and go for it. But how?, you ask. Well, you start by defining your dreams & broadcasting them to the world. Today I am going to define my wildest dreams & share them with you.

    “Achieving life is not the equivalent of avoiding death.” –Ayn Rand

    Why Are We Afraid to Expose Our Dreams?

    To be honest, I am a bit nervous about this. I feel like I am exposing a part of myself that I’ve kept hidden. When you keep your wildest dreams to yourself, you’re safe. If no one knows what you want, then no one can hold you accountable. For example, if your best friend has no idea that you dream of moving to Costa Rica to collect butterflies in the rain forest—then she isn’t going to check in with you once a month and ask where you’re at. If you’re father doesn’t know that you dream of quitting your job to build collectible trains and sell them on Ebay—then he isn’t going to be hounding you with questions about it at the holidays. And when you are not faced with those questions you are safe. Your dreams can stay on the back burner while your life passes you by. You are not held accountable. You don’t experience pressure. But, my friend, today is the day that you must realize something critical: It is pressure that makes diamonds!

    Broadcast Your Desires to the Universe

    Steve Pavlina recently wrote a post called Broadcast Your Desires. In the post, he explains why broadcasting our desires & dreams to the world is the best way to make them a reality. If you can’t broadcast your desires, it’s fair to say that you don’t own them yet. In order to make your desires become real, you’ve got to speak up about them. If you’re going to receive them, then let it be known. If you find it necessary to hide what you desire, that suggests you aren’t ready to receive.

    Well, I am ready to receive! I hope that by taking this step in my own life, I will inspire you to take it in your own. Here I go…!

    My Dreams

    1. Grow evolution you
    I want to take this blog to great heights, attract thousands of readers, inspire people around the world. I want to monetize it so that I can devote myself to improving people’s lives full-time. And as a result, I want to become location independent so that I can travel the world, spreading love & light where ever I go.

    2. Write a book
    I haven’t quite worked out the details of this one yet—it’s a bit ever-evolving. I’ll pin it down soon enough, for now I am just dreaming wildly!

    3. Travel to the Great Pyramids in Egypt
    I feel intimately connected to the people of ancient Egypt. Perhaps it is the beautiful & mysterious way that Ancient Egypt is depicted in films & literature, whatever the cause, the very idea of it thrills me. I have long dreamed of visiting & exploring the ancient pyramids for myself.

    4. Learn to speak French

    5. Spend time living & working in Europe
    Italy, France, and Belgium all seem such lovely places to me. I’d like to spend at least a few months in each place.

    6. Safari in Africa
    This is the only dream on the list that I already accomplished. In the Summer of 2006 I studied abroad in Kenya, studying, on safari, and touring. It was a truly incredible experience and I’ll be making a post about it soon.

    7. Live in the wilderness
    I am insanely attracted to nature. In fact, I am quite convinced that I am a tigress/she-wolf/mermaid trapped in the body of a human woman. I feel most at home in nature—in the mountains, near the sea, anywhere wild. I’ve long dreamed of escaping the civilization circa Into the Wild. It would certainly not be a permanent thing; but I’d love to experience it at least for a few weeks to see how long I’d last.

    8. Have or adopt a baby
    Last February my sister gave birth to me beautiful Godson, Brian. Ever since then, I’ve heard the ticking of my own biological clock a tad louder than before. I am not in any rush, as you can see I’ve got a lot I want to do before I am quite ready to “settle down” but it is definitely an enormous dream of mine, some day.

    9. Spend time on a Native American reservation
    I’d like to spend some time living or at least working/volunteering on a reservation. I am passionate about Native American culture and it would be a great honor to serve the Native American people in some capacity and to learn first-hand their cultures, traditions, and needs.

    10. Serve on the Board of Directors for a prominent wildlife conservation foundation

    11. Visit a Buddhist monastery in Tibet

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    These are not all of my dreams, not nearly, but the list could go on and on. For now, these are the ones that I am working toward—in the near & distant—future. It was not nearly as difficult to share them as I thought it would be! This list will be ever-evolving and I will update it as my dreams are accomplished and as they change.

    Alright, I did my part. Now it’s your turn! I would love to hear about your big dreams in the comments or if you make your own big dream post please let me know about it.

7 Comments

  1. One way that I find happiness is by interacting with my kids. Every little thing they do has an element of happiness. To bad life isn’t that simple anymore.

    Thanks for the shout out too 🙂

    1. @Jeff – Thanks so much for your comment. Yes! Interacting with children is one of the ultimate sources of instant happiness. There is so much that we can learn from their curious, free-spirited nature. My nephew just turned 1 in February & the time that I spend with him is so precious to me.

      You are very welcome for the shout out. I’ve been following your blog from the sidelines for awhile. I found you through Brad @enemyofdebt who is a great friend of mine. One of my close family members is actually in a big knot of financial troubles at the moment I referred him to your blog today and signed him up for your mailing list. 🙂

  2. I’m working hard on this…. animal’s are the easiest thing to be happy about, the belief that they don’t have the same level of thought as us gives them a purity that can only be marveled…. I often visit the street dogs here in Cairo just to say hi and watch them for a while.

    As for other things, I laugh a lot everyday at the smallest of things but this has been gradual and I am on a slow path to enlightenment…. But at least I am on the path.

    Thanks for the post 🙂

    1. @Forest – Hello! So glad we connected on Twitter, don’t know what took me so long! Oh, animals. I really have to get around to writing about my beautiful pets. At my house I have 1 dog, 1 cat, 1 snake, and several fish. At my parents’ house, I have 1 dog & 1 cat. I love all of them so much. There are no words to describe the joy that these animals bring into my life. What I love most about them —> UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. There is so much that we humans can learn from these creatures.

      Thank you so very much for your comment, my friend!

  3. Hi Dena,

    Thank you for your lovely comment and your post! I never really thought of that when I first stumbled onto the quote, that the present and finding happiness would be used in the same context. What you said made me realize the little things in life is precious and we have to savor those moments. =)

    1. @Nadia – Thank you for bringing such beautiful thoughts into my mind. I love your post, your thoughts, and your willingness to open yourself to new ways of thinking. You are truly an inspiration. 🙂

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