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I’d Rather Have Peace

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Roman & I went for a walk today for the first time in awhile. We’d been a bit home-bound lately. First I was sick with that kidney thing and then I was prepping for our Halloween party. So we ventured out today and I was taken back by the difference a couple of weeks makes. Last time we were out it felt like summer & today there was a harsh chill in the air. The leaves are changing quickly. Nature is drying up & falling away as winter approaches. Winter approaches… Those words sound threatening somehow. Getting through the cold, harsh winter up here will be a challenge, that’s for sure. I think we’re up for it though. For now, I am enjoying these last bits of autumn as much as possible. We’ll have plenty more lovely walks before the snow falls & the ground turns to ice, dirt, and slush.

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Lately I’ve had a few instances where I’ve had to decide between “being right” and “having peace.” Which is to say that I’ve been faced with some types of confrontation. I’ve been thinking a lot about it and I’ve realized how drastically I’ve changed over the years. When I was younger, drama was such a part of my life that, in some ways, I thrived on it. There were always arguments with friends or enemies to be had. There was always something to disagree over with family. Romantic relationships were a breeding ground for drama & pain. The older (and wiser?) that I get, the further I carry myself away from all of that. I have ended many relationships and transformed the ways that I spend my time. I have worked hard to create a life of relative peace and joy. There are still occasions where conflict arises — that’s life, you can’t always avoid it. But what I’ve learned is that sometimes — when it does pop up — I can still choose peace. Sometimes that means that I won’t “be right.” I won’t “win the fight,” so to speak. But I’m really okay with that. I’d rather have peace. It’s been a slow transition to this place. It’s taken a lot of personal reflection and I’ve had to work really hard to ignore my ego. I have always thought of kindness as one of my most important values and I am finding more ways to live it now. I am really glad to be here.

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The longer that I live, the more that I believe that there is nothing more important than peace. For me, peace comes from avoiding & extinguishing conflict. It also comes from practicing gratitude and being content with all of my blessings. They say that happiness isn’t getting what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got. I couldn’t agree more.

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Happy Wednesday, loves. Here’s hoping that your day is full of beauty & joy. xo

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    Let Go of Your Goals & Unleash Your Dreams

    Dreams are Just as Important as Goals

    I’ve written quite a bit about setting & accomplishing goals; overcoming fears; and making the best out of difficult situations. But what I haven’t written enough about is flat out—unleashing your dreams.

    Goal setting is a very mathematical process. It goes something like this: Define your goal. Map out the steps necessary to achieve it. Research, develop, act. Work until you get there. This is great, it makes sense, it gets things done. However, goals are full of limitations. In order to accomplish Z, first I need to do X and Y. If I want to be in this place by this date, then I’ve got to accomplish X, Y, and Z by this date. And so on and so forth it goes. We plan and work and strive.

    Yes, goal-setting & goal accomplishment are crucial elements to success; but sometimes we have to just let go of our goals and start unleashing our dreams! Throw caution to the wind and go for it. But how?, you ask. Well, you start by defining your dreams & broadcasting them to the world. Today I am going to define my wildest dreams & share them with you.

    “Achieving life is not the equivalent of avoiding death.” –Ayn Rand

    Why Are We Afraid to Expose Our Dreams?

    To be honest, I am a bit nervous about this. I feel like I am exposing a part of myself that I’ve kept hidden. When you keep your wildest dreams to yourself, you’re safe. If no one knows what you want, then no one can hold you accountable. For example, if your best friend has no idea that you dream of moving to Costa Rica to collect butterflies in the rain forest—then she isn’t going to check in with you once a month and ask where you’re at. If you’re father doesn’t know that you dream of quitting your job to build collectible trains and sell them on Ebay—then he isn’t going to be hounding you with questions about it at the holidays. And when you are not faced with those questions you are safe. Your dreams can stay on the back burner while your life passes you by. You are not held accountable. You don’t experience pressure. But, my friend, today is the day that you must realize something critical: It is pressure that makes diamonds!

    Broadcast Your Desires to the Universe

    Steve Pavlina recently wrote a post called Broadcast Your Desires. In the post, he explains why broadcasting our desires & dreams to the world is the best way to make them a reality. If you can’t broadcast your desires, it’s fair to say that you don’t own them yet. In order to make your desires become real, you’ve got to speak up about them. If you’re going to receive them, then let it be known. If you find it necessary to hide what you desire, that suggests you aren’t ready to receive.

    Well, I am ready to receive! I hope that by taking this step in my own life, I will inspire you to take it in your own. Here I go…!

    My Dreams

    1. Grow evolution you
    I want to take this blog to great heights, attract thousands of readers, inspire people around the world. I want to monetize it so that I can devote myself to improving people’s lives full-time. And as a result, I want to become location independent so that I can travel the world, spreading love & light where ever I go.

    2. Write a book
    I haven’t quite worked out the details of this one yet—it’s a bit ever-evolving. I’ll pin it down soon enough, for now I am just dreaming wildly!

    3. Travel to the Great Pyramids in Egypt
    I feel intimately connected to the people of ancient Egypt. Perhaps it is the beautiful & mysterious way that Ancient Egypt is depicted in films & literature, whatever the cause, the very idea of it thrills me. I have long dreamed of visiting & exploring the ancient pyramids for myself.

    4. Learn to speak French

    5. Spend time living & working in Europe
    Italy, France, and Belgium all seem such lovely places to me. I’d like to spend at least a few months in each place.

    6. Safari in Africa
    This is the only dream on the list that I already accomplished. In the Summer of 2006 I studied abroad in Kenya, studying, on safari, and touring. It was a truly incredible experience and I’ll be making a post about it soon.

    7. Live in the wilderness
    I am insanely attracted to nature. In fact, I am quite convinced that I am a tigress/she-wolf/mermaid trapped in the body of a human woman. I feel most at home in nature—in the mountains, near the sea, anywhere wild. I’ve long dreamed of escaping the civilization circa Into the Wild. It would certainly not be a permanent thing; but I’d love to experience it at least for a few weeks to see how long I’d last.

    8. Have or adopt a baby
    Last February my sister gave birth to me beautiful Godson, Brian. Ever since then, I’ve heard the ticking of my own biological clock a tad louder than before. I am not in any rush, as you can see I’ve got a lot I want to do before I am quite ready to “settle down” but it is definitely an enormous dream of mine, some day.

    9. Spend time on a Native American reservation
    I’d like to spend some time living or at least working/volunteering on a reservation. I am passionate about Native American culture and it would be a great honor to serve the Native American people in some capacity and to learn first-hand their cultures, traditions, and needs.

    10. Serve on the Board of Directors for a prominent wildlife conservation foundation

    11. Visit a Buddhist monastery in Tibet

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    These are not all of my dreams, not nearly, but the list could go on and on. For now, these are the ones that I am working toward—in the near & distant—future. It was not nearly as difficult to share them as I thought it would be! This list will be ever-evolving and I will update it as my dreams are accomplished and as they change.

    Alright, I did my part. Now it’s your turn! I would love to hear about your big dreams in the comments or if you make your own big dream post please let me know about it.

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  1. I love the photos of your walk! It looks beautiful and peaceful! You even have a picture of a deer! Thank you for sharing! I missed my families annual camping trip and have felt a little miffed because of it. My Dad said he saw some deer walk into the field across from where we camp and I missed it. But, seeing your photos, made me feel a little better! Also, your baby boy is super cute and gorgeous!

    1. Thanks, Rebekah! It was such a beautiful afternoon. Sorry to hear that you missed the family camping trip but so glad that these photos made up for it a little bit. The deer were so beautiful and I didn’t capture it but at one point they were just a few feet from us. So magical! xo

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