
This is a guest post by David Pinkley, The Resume Sage.
How do you describe yourself in your resume: team player?…quick learner?…detailed oriented? Do you really believe those self-proclaimed descriptions? Consider this: so does everyone else. That’s the problem. When it comes to describing ourselves we use the same words as everyone else. I know this because in 15 years working as a professional resume writer and executive recruiter I’ve seen nearly 40,000 resumes. Virtually all of them used works like: high energy, results oriented, uniquely qualified, detailed oriented, out-of-the-box thinker…and the list goes on. I call these Hallmark words.
What is a Hallmark word? Example: You go to the store to buy a greeting card for your Sweetie whose birthday is approaching. You are overwhelmed because there are so many cards to choose from. You select your first one and it says something like: “May you experience all things bright and beautiful on your special day. Happy Birthday.” It’s a nice try but the message is contrived so we put the card back and pick another. The second one says: “Here’s a card just for you. You’ve always been tried and true. Happy Birthday.” Again, nice words but the message isn’t meaningful. (Who writes this stuff!?) You repeat this process numerous times until you find one with a message that resonates: “It just always felt right…and it always will. Happy Birthday.” Found it. You’re done.
Hallmark words are words that look great on paper but don’t have any real meaning. It’s the same with resumes. Certain words look great on resumes but they are meaningless. If everyone says they’re a quick learner those words become diluted. (Whether it’s true or not is irrelevant.) Using Hallmark words on your resume will make it seem just as contrived as most greeting cards. The reader (i.e. hiring manager) won’t believe your message and will continue reading other resumes in search of one that resonates.
The reality is we really don’t know how to describe ourselves. So we borrow words from other resumes and convince ourselves that these words really describe us. We don’t realize they have no meaning. Great resumes find authentic ways to communicate familiar themes. How do you do that?
If you are really honest with yourself – you probably don’t know what you really do anyway. The only way to discover exactly what makes you unique is to look closely at your job. This takes introspection and self examination; a process most people dread because it seems like hard work – hence why most resumes are homogeneous. This is difficult to do for yourself. Self examination is much easier if you do it with someone else. But that’s another post.
Blow the dust off your resume and take a look at the words you’ve used to describe yourself. Are they Hallmark words? If they are, you need to recognize that you are not saying anything unique. And no matter how true they are, they are not as meaningful or impactful as you think.
Have questions? Contact David Pinkley at (704) 358-6000 or david@theresumesage.com. To learn more visit: www.TheResumeSage.com
David Pinkley is the founder of The Resume Sage, a custom resume writing service. The Resume Sage critiques and writes resumes for accomplished professionals and executives. Those who work with The Resume Sage are purposeful about navigating their careers. They need more than just strong writing skills; they are seeking insights about how to differentiate themselves from their peers/competitors.
David is a sought-after public speaker and has been featured on local news and NBC’s national news. He earned a B.S. degree from the University of Michigan and started his career in Chicago as a CPA at Ernst & Young and at Bank of America. He has lived and worked as an executive recruiter for 15 years in Charlotte, Raleigh, New York and Hong Kong.
Should I stay with my husband and be miserable, to make my kids happy??
Dear Dena, we have known each other for awhile. Though we have never met in person I feel that I gotten to know you pretty well from online. I was just wondering where is the best place that you have traveled to and why??
Dena,
I just came across your old blog today while whiling away the hours at work. I loved your topics on minimalism and have a question.
There are lots of stuff in my house that needs thrown away, sold, or donated and I am excited to start cleaning out.
However, I have a rather LARGE library of books. I buy them all the time, many of them I believe I will read again, many (like Fight Club) I’ve read dozens of times. There are books through I know I can donate to the library or sell, however they may not be enough.
I have this crazy thought in my head that when I get older (I’m 30 now) and have a house, I want a room filled with books with a couch in the middle of the room so I can be surrounded by what I love.
How do I let go of that dream and get rid of some of these books? Or is that dream something that is desired?
Thanks!
Jeremy
@ Jeremy – Thank you so much for finding me! This is a great question. I will post a response soon. 🙂
Somehow along the way with the technology of facebook, texting, emails, blackberry bm’s we seem to be loosing the precious connection of talking directly to our friends, family, partners… Oh and forget about actually visiting in person.
In additon, many times words are taken out of context thru texts or emails, taken the wrong way and misunderstood to a damaging point. Its sad in a way, that its so much easier to just send a text or put a post on facebook than to reach out and touch someone with a phone call or visit.
I also believe that through this modern way of communicating with each other I see it causing unnessary fights, break-ups, causing controversy–Well, its so easy to say something mean or nasty in a text and simple press send, than it is to confront someone face to face and work it out… Don’t get me wrong there is alot of good in it all too. Dena, I’m not sure where I’m going with this, thats your job, lol. Its just heavy on my mind and needed to vent… Maybe a future post…well, thanks for listening. Peace, Cindy
Dear Dena,
When is the right time to tell a friend that she shouldn’t marry someone that she’s engaged to? From my understading, their relationship is healthy and full of love, but I know deep down that there is someone else better for her. Please provide some advice before I do something outrageous.
For example:
Priest: ..If anyone has any objections to why this couple should not be wed this day, speak now or forever hold your peace..
Me: (slowly standing up with my hand raised..) I love you. I never told you that before because I was afraid. I’m still afraid now. As your friend, I don’t want to see you end up with the wrong person. I don’t know if we would even work out, but I’d like to give it a chance. What do you say – just one cup of coffee?
– Dre $w@gg