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Create the Life of Your Dreams

 

 

“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” —Mother Theresa 

 

 

Give Love to All Living Things & the Earth

There are deep wells of love, wisdom, and strength within each of us. There is no limit to the depths of these reserves. When called upon, the love, wisdom, and strength inside of you will carry you through any nightmare. The challenge is not in knowing that these wells exist within you, but rather in learning how to tap into them. And once you know the secret to tapping into them, you will have access to these reserves when you need them most.

The key to accessing your reserves of love, wisdom, and strength is easy. In order to get to these things, to harness and use them, you must give. The more you give, the more you in turn will receive.

Every living thing deserves to be treated with love and respect. This is the law of the Universe, the law of life, light, and truth. If we fail to treat living things with love and respect, we ourselves are doomed to misery. The energy that we put out into the Universe and the way that we treat other living things come back to us.

We all live in an immediate place — a trailer, a cottage, an apartment building, a mansion, a castle, a grass hut — but none of these places are our true home. Our true home is the Earth. It is our common home. We are all one family living in this home. No matter what dwelling we sleep in at night, the Earth is our common home. The Earth sustains us, protects us, and provides for us. Without it, we would not exist. We would float out into the infinite Universe where we could not breathe. The Earth is our home and therefore, we must treat it with love and respect.

Karma and The Law of Attraction

By now, most people have heard of The Law of Attraction. The theory gained popularity over the last several years after the huge success of the book and DVD, The Secret. The main idea of both The Secret and The Law of Attraction is that whatever you put out into the Universe, you will then attract. By sending out vibrations of abundance into the Universe, you can change every aspect of your life. You can attract prosperity, health, relationships, and happiness.

I agree with this idea in theory; however, it has been greatly abused and distorted. Many so-called Law of Attraction experts have taken advantage of this idea and convinced people that all they need do is sit down, send out “money vibrations” to the Universe, and a check will come in the mail. Or that a woman only need sit down and send out “love vibrations” to the Universe and Mr. Right will come knocking at her door. Those things are not reasonable, they are just not going to happen.

Karma, on the other hand (which is similar to the Law of Attraction) is absolutely, and in all regards, real. Everything that comes out of you — each action, word, thought — is absorbed by the Universe and the living beings around you.

For every action, there is an equal (in size) and opposite (in direction) reaction. This is a law of physics. To put it in more modern terms, if a force acts upon a body, then an equal and opposite force must act upon another body. Just as this concept applies to the physical world, it also applies to the spiritual world.

Have you ever had a sensation when you met a person for the first time? For example, say you are at work and your boss comes around to introduce his new receptionist to you. Her face is neutral and she is pleasant enough but you just get a really terrible feeling about her. This is not an illusion, it is a gut-reaction. You are picking up on her energy.

Energy is real and it exists in both positive & negative forms. Actually, each of us has the ability to read this energy; but for some reason we often try to “silence” our gut-reactions. That is a bad habit. You should always listen to your instincts. We have them for a reason (thousands of years of evolution!) and our species would not be what it is today, without them.

In the same way that you are able to read the energy of others, others are able to read the energy of you. All of this energy is constantly circulating and being absorbed into the Universe and, like a boomerang, eventually makes its way back to its starting point. So whatever you had put out in the beginning is what will come back to you at the end, and sometimes it will have picked up even more energy along the way — good or bad depending on what you put off to start with.

What Are You Giving & Attracting?

There is no limit to the various types of energy, action, thoughts, and words that you can exude to the Universe and to the living beings around you. You can exude hatred, fear, anxiety, rage, greed, or envy. You can exude love, kindness, patience, wisdom, strength, or confidence. And you are giving off any number of these things at every single moment. Even when you are at rest, there is energy flowing from you. Have you ever taken the time to analyze all that you are giving?

Stop now, close your eyes, and just feel yourself existing. Feel the energy that is flowing from you and analyze it. How would you describe it? Next, imagine yourself in different situations — when you are riding in the car, talking with your spouse, watching television. What are you giving off in each of those situations? Are you giving off what you would like to be giving off? Is the energy that you are exuding aligned with your values and beliefs?

All of these questions will lead you to awareness. What you will find is that what you consistently give is also what you consistently attract. This is the true Law of Attraction.

Using The Law of Attraction to Manifest the Life of Your Dreams

Whether you want to call it The Law of Attraction, karma, being a good person, or simply hard word it does not matter. All of these titles are not relevant. What matters most is the life that you live — and not the life that you “think” you live or would “like” to live — but the life that you actually live. I started this post by talking about the three wells that exist deep within you: love, wisdom, and strength. Those should be the key sources that guide your life. If you focus on letting the principles of love, wisdom, and strength guide you, you will effortlessly lead a life of wonder and beauty.

However, it is not enough to simply exist and live well. If you truly want to live the life of your dreams, you must work for it. You will never send enough “vibrations” out into the Universe to fill your bank account with money or land your dream job or move to Fiji to pursue your passion of seashell-hunting. If you want any of these things you must first become aware and align your thoughts, words, & actions with your values. You must show love & respect to all living things and the Earth. And finally, you must apply the brut
e force of hard work &dedication to accomplishing your goals.

 

“Everyone wants to be strong and self sufficient, but few are willing to put in the work necessary to achieve worthy goals.” —Gandhi 

 

 

Once you get started on your path, you will be unstoppable. You are entirely capable of this. You have all of the tools that you need within you. It is time to get started on your journey.

 

 

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    How to Overcome Fear & Stop Resisting

    “To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness.” —Eckhart Tolle

    Stop resisting the will of the Universe. I’ve said this to myself thousands of times. It is perhaps one of the most powerful tools that has led me to peace of mind.

    In the past four years, I overcame depression, anxiety, and I lost sixty pounds. When you overcome a lifetime of anxiety & depression, a lot of things change. For one thing, you begin to enjoy life. Simple things that you hadn’t noticed before fill your heart with joy—Spring, a cold glass of water on a hot day, a good workout, a kind word, a smile. When you are overcome by the effects of anxiety & depression, you do not have time to notice these simple pleasures. (They are often overshadowed by the negative, irrational thoughts swarming inside of your head.)

    Happiness begets happiness, as I like to say. However, even in my increased state of happiness, I knew that something still wasn’t right. It took me awhile to realize what it was. Only after months of careful self-observation did I realize what was happening.

    A hard day at work = I was disgusted, angry, plagued by head aches.
    A frustrating experience at a car dealership = I was furious.
    An upcoming flight and travel arrangements = I was anxious, worried, sick to my stomach.

    I was continually allowing my mind to make me angry, sick, sad, frustrated, etc. Yet, after each of these experiences I learned some valuable lesson or something really important & meaningful happened as a result.

    Hard days at work always lead me to clarity about how myself and my team could be more efficient.
    The frustrating experience at the car dealership actually prevented me from making a terrible mistake and purchasing the wrong car.
    Recent travel and trips have brought me incredible successes in my personal & professional life.

    Upon observing all of this, it hit me. Even when things seemed terrible, even when I was really upset, eventually the pain of the situation would subside. Moreover, I would come out on the other side wiser, stronger, and grateful. Every thing that happened (happens) to me is a direct result of the will of the Universe (you can call that God, fate, destiny, or any other name you’d like to give it, no matter). Yes, every thing that happens is a direct result of the will of the Universe and an opportunity to learn and grow. In order to live true happiness, I had to stop resisting the will of the Universe. Once I did this, my life changed in incredible (and previously unimaginable) ways. When I stop resisting and simply “go with the flow” I find that I am constantly filled with a deep calmness in my soul. I do not worry or suffer. I simply exist and let all scenarios play themselves out. I understand that even pain is necessary and that ultimately it will carry me to a place of light & peace.

    Fear is Unnecessary

    At the root of every single feeling of discomfort, lies one emotion: fear. Fear is the emotion responsible for all forms of suffering. Sadness, anxiety, worry, rage, hatred, envy, and all other forms of suffering are rooted in fear. However, once you stop resisting the will of the Universe, you will understand that fear and suffering are actually not necessary at all.

    The vast majority of fear and suffering is a result of living in an unreal world and/or allowing negative, irrational thoughts to control our minds. The unreal world is the world of sky rise buildings, electricity, paper money, McDonald’s, television, marketing, vanity surgery, reality TV, etc. The real world is the world of trees, dirt, sun, stars, wind, rain, whole foods, self-love, generosity, family, love, etc. Can you see the difference? Once you remove yourself from the suffocating chains of the unreal world, and begin living in the real world, you will find that most of the fears that you experience are completely unnecessary. The vast majority of anxieties that we suffer from are made-up.

    – fear of judgment
    – fear of failure
    – fear of humiliation
    – fear of public speaking
    – fear of making a mistake
    – fear of travel
    – fear of forgetting something
    – fear of being alone and so on

    Once you realize that these fears are made-up in the unreal world, they can hold no power over you. All of the above are irrational anxieties. None of those things would actually put your life in danger or expose you to any harm. The only place that they can affect you is in your head. But you must remember that you have control over what goes on in your head! You can use cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to end the suffering.

    Eventually, you will realize that true fear might have a place in your life, but that is only when you are truly in danger. Perhaps while being chased by a bear or masked murderer, while falling from a cliff, etc. Yes, in those instances, your fear is justified and it can help you by creating adrenaline, increased strength, quicker reflexes and cognitive ability. But other than those “real” true fear situations, there is really no need for fear and certainly no need for emotional suffering.

    Live Without Resistance or Fear

    Once you learn to stop resisting the will of the Universe and to live without fear, you will experience an entirely new & improved sort of living. You will find that all of the things that you once desired, but were afraid to seek, are actually within your reach. For example, I was emotionally crippled by irrational anxiety for the first half of my life. This made it impossible for me to speak in front of people. I could not ask a question in a class of twenty, let alone get up in front of a group of people to speak. My anxiety over public speaking was so great, that it crippled me. I once experienced a debilitating panic attack at a dinner party of five family friends! But… that is ancient history.

    Now, my former self is hardly recognizable. I have spoken in front of groups of sixty people or more with grace and confidence. I know that my fear is irrational & unnecessary, so I overcome it. Sure, my heart rate may increase, I might sweat a bit—but I do not let it stop me! I remind myself that that the fear is not real and I move forward to success.

    You are entirely capable of achieving the same same sort of success in your own life—personal & professional. Whatever your fear is, you can overcome it.

    “You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you.” —Wayne Dyer

    To allow fear to rule your life, is not to live at all. So stop resisting the will of the Universe and stop allowing fear to rule your life. Begin living, truly living, right now. There is nothing in your way. What is your greatest fear? Can you believe that it is unnecessary? What would you do if you had no fear in your heart at all? How different could your life be?

    The only time you run out of chances is when you stop taking them!

    I am now offering personalized coaching sessions to individuals suffering from anxiety &/or depression. If you are interested in scheduling a session or would like to learn more, please contact me at denabotbyl[@]gmail[.]com for details and rates. Include CBT Session in the subject line.

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