The Comeback Is Always Stronger Than the Setback…

DenaDecember 30, 2019

Hello, darlings. I am popping in with a little life update and a big announcement. Let’s start with the big announcement first. That is–I’m coming back to blogging! Or I should say, we’re coming back to blogging. But more on that in a bit. Yes, I know that I was basically non-existent in this space last year. That was because I was busy with life and I was also building something new. It’s a lot to try and capture all that has happened in a few paragraphs, but I’ll try.

The last 4 years have been truly wild and tumultuous for me. I left my marriage and my home. I went through a long, painful divorce. I transitioned to life as a single mother. I moved three times. I had two failed relationships. I began a third relationship in which we recently celebrated our one-year anniversary (♥). And finally, we transitioned to life as a blended family. So yes, it’s been a lot. In hindsight I see that there are things I would have done differently, but it is difficult to say that I have regrets because I am so grateful for where I am at now.

On top of all of those external happenings, I went through a tremendous amount of internal work. The end of 2018, particularly from August to September, was one of the most difficult times of my life. I went through what some call “a dark night of the soul” where I was completely broken down. I reached a low point of depression and anxiety that I thought I would never return to. I realized that the trauma that I had endured in the previous decade took a toll on me that I could never have foreseen. It all came crashing down in one final moment. But it took that falling apart for me to be reborn. In that darkness, I saw a light. Like a forest that has been burned to the ground, new life started to rise from my ashes. It was a clean slate. That is when Wild Moon Co. was born, the something new that I have been building that I mentioned earlier.

Wild Moon Co. is what you might call my rebirth. You see, there is another side of me that had been mostly hidden from the world all of my life. It is the wilder side, the darker side, the magic side, the powerful side, the sensual side. Getting in touch with that side of myself was a beautiful and painful journey all its own. In the way that I was raised, I was simply taught to keep that side quiet and hidden. My family on both sides was strict Roman Catholic, where the qualities that are celebrated are sacrifice, martyrdom, servitude, and tradition. These qualities are important, but it is foolish to believe that any person is made up of those qualities alone. When our wild nature is stifled down, it manifests itself in other ways–addiction, mental illness, poor health, to name a few.

In exploring the other side of myself, I have learned that as human beings, we are multidimensional. We need to honor all of the various sides of who we are. Surely there is a place for tradition and sacrifice, but there is also a place for wildness and pleasure. When we carve a life path that allows us to express all of ourselves without shame or fear of judgment, this is where we can find true peace and joy.

To come back to my journey, I spent the last year exploring that other side of myself and in doing so I learned so much. It strengthened my relationship with God. It also strengthened my relationship with others in that I have learned how to say no and how to implement boundaries which I could never do before. And finally, it has strengthened my relationship with myself because I now enjoy a level of self-love and self-acceptance that I never before dreamed possible. Of course none of these things are perfect, life is always a work in progress, but I am grateful for how far I have come and excited about how far I have yet to go.

To bring all of this full circle, this journey has most definitely made me a better mother. Motherhood will always be my greatest blessing, but in the lifestyle that I lived before–sacrificial martyrdom–I was not able to set a good example for my children. I never wanted to teach them to sacrifice their own happiness to make others happy. So I needed to learn how to make myself happy, so that I can teach them to do the same by example. And further, by taking care of myself, I can take better care of them, because we cannot serve from an empty vessel.

All of this is to say that, it’s been a hell of a road, but here I am. I am not done traveling the path of healing–in fact, I recently uncovered a whole new pool of trauma that I need to deal with–but, I am further along than I have ever been and I am so grateful for it. And now, with where I am, I feel ready to return to this space. As you know, this space has evolved over the years as I have. It started out as a self-improvement blog and then turned into motherhood. I cannot say for certain where we go next, but I believe it will be a combination of the two.

For now, the majority of my healing work will live over at Wild Moon Co. and in this space I will focus on motherhood, blended family life, wellness, and sustainable living. And that brings me to my final point which is that very soon my partner, Jimmy, is going to take an active role in this space beside me. He is such a big part of my journey and now, my family, and I am so excited to have him share parts of himself in this space in the coming year and beyond.

Phew, that was a lot. If you’ve read this far, thank you for sticking with it. I am beyond thrilled about this next chapter and all of the magic that it has in store for us. Also, since I am going to be blogging a lot more in 2020, if there are any topics that you’d like to hear about, leave a comment on this post and let me know. Some that I am already working on include:

  • how to start/monetize a blog
  • photography for beginners
  • my yoga practice journey
  • implementing a meditation routine
  • traveling with a large family
  • using plants and herbs as medicine
  • carving out a life for yourself beyond children
  • moving to a plant-based lifestyle
  • praising children to encourage effort
  • plant-based recipes for the whole family
  • travel guides (Ireland, Salem)
  • chicken keeping
  • backyard farming

That’s all for now, sweet friends. Wishing you lots of love and light as we move from 2019 to 2020. I’ll leave you with my favorite quote, “There will come a time when you think that everything is finished. That will be the beginning.” xo

Comments (3)

  • Anonymous

    December 30, 2019 at 6:40 pm


  • Caitie Brion

    January 3, 2020 at 8:59 pm

    Dena. Your post/email comes at a time when it is much needed and appreciated. Your light and perseverance inspire. Sending love and thanks, Caitie

    1. Dena

      January 7, 2020 at 1:23 pm

      Caitie! It is so good to hear from you my long lost friend. I hope we can catch up soon. xo

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