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It is what you think about.

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It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. —Dale Carnegie

  • If only I had that thing…
  • If only I could be more like that person…
  • If only I were in that place…
  • If only I were doing that…

Do you ever catch yourself having these thoughts? Do you ever feel the pull of that green-eyed monster, jealousy? Do you ever find yourself wishing, hoping for something different, something more? Of course you do. We all do.

These thoughts are natural. It is in our nature. It’s alright that these thoughts visit, what matters is how we deal with them.

Stop worrying about all of the things that you are not. Stop worrying about all of the things that you don’t have. Focus on what you are, on what you have, and on what you are yet to be. Be present. Be grateful for the ten thousand beautiful things that exist around you right now.

No matter how bad you think it is, no matter how far down you’ve been; now is the time to get back up. Get back up and shine. So many people have so little and choose joy anyway. Be one of those people. Choose joy.

I always find that the quickest path to joy is gratitude. Give thanks. My list is never-ending but here’s a little glimpse.

Thank you, heaven, for my ears that hear; my feet that walk; my eyes that see; my hands that write; my voice that shares; my mouth that tastes; my heart that loves; my nephew that makes me smile permanently; my friends who lift me up when I can not do it on my own; my family who loves me unconditionally; my fiance who challenges me to constantly grow and loves me the best way he knows how to; my blog that allows me to create positive change in people’s lives. Thank you for the beautiful sunsets, delicious late summer days, the cicadas that sing me to sleep at night. And thank you for the hard times, too, they show me how sweet the sweet ones really are.

In love & light,
Dena

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    Let Go of Your Goals & Unleash Your Dreams

    Dreams are Just as Important as Goals

    I’ve written quite a bit about setting & accomplishing goals; overcoming fears; and making the best out of difficult situations. But what I haven’t written enough about is flat out—unleashing your dreams.

    Goal setting is a very mathematical process. It goes something like this: Define your goal. Map out the steps necessary to achieve it. Research, develop, act. Work until you get there. This is great, it makes sense, it gets things done. However, goals are full of limitations. In order to accomplish Z, first I need to do X and Y. If I want to be in this place by this date, then I’ve got to accomplish X, Y, and Z by this date. And so on and so forth it goes. We plan and work and strive.

    Yes, goal-setting & goal accomplishment are crucial elements to success; but sometimes we have to just let go of our goals and start unleashing our dreams! Throw caution to the wind and go for it. But how?, you ask. Well, you start by defining your dreams & broadcasting them to the world. Today I am going to define my wildest dreams & share them with you.

    “Achieving life is not the equivalent of avoiding death.” –Ayn Rand

    Why Are We Afraid to Expose Our Dreams?

    To be honest, I am a bit nervous about this. I feel like I am exposing a part of myself that I’ve kept hidden. When you keep your wildest dreams to yourself, you’re safe. If no one knows what you want, then no one can hold you accountable. For example, if your best friend has no idea that you dream of moving to Costa Rica to collect butterflies in the rain forest—then she isn’t going to check in with you once a month and ask where you’re at. If you’re father doesn’t know that you dream of quitting your job to build collectible trains and sell them on Ebay—then he isn’t going to be hounding you with questions about it at the holidays. And when you are not faced with those questions you are safe. Your dreams can stay on the back burner while your life passes you by. You are not held accountable. You don’t experience pressure. But, my friend, today is the day that you must realize something critical: It is pressure that makes diamonds!

    Broadcast Your Desires to the Universe

    Steve Pavlina recently wrote a post called Broadcast Your Desires. In the post, he explains why broadcasting our desires & dreams to the world is the best way to make them a reality. If you can’t broadcast your desires, it’s fair to say that you don’t own them yet. In order to make your desires become real, you’ve got to speak up about them. If you’re going to receive them, then let it be known. If you find it necessary to hide what you desire, that suggests you aren’t ready to receive.

    Well, I am ready to receive! I hope that by taking this step in my own life, I will inspire you to take it in your own. Here I go…!

    My Dreams

    1. Grow evolution you
    I want to take this blog to great heights, attract thousands of readers, inspire people around the world. I want to monetize it so that I can devote myself to improving people’s lives full-time. And as a result, I want to become location independent so that I can travel the world, spreading love & light where ever I go.

    2. Write a book
    I haven’t quite worked out the details of this one yet—it’s a bit ever-evolving. I’ll pin it down soon enough, for now I am just dreaming wildly!

    3. Travel to the Great Pyramids in Egypt
    I feel intimately connected to the people of ancient Egypt. Perhaps it is the beautiful & mysterious way that Ancient Egypt is depicted in films & literature, whatever the cause, the very idea of it thrills me. I have long dreamed of visiting & exploring the ancient pyramids for myself.

    4. Learn to speak French

    5. Spend time living & working in Europe
    Italy, France, and Belgium all seem such lovely places to me. I’d like to spend at least a few months in each place.

    6. Safari in Africa
    This is the only dream on the list that I already accomplished. In the Summer of 2006 I studied abroad in Kenya, studying, on safari, and touring. It was a truly incredible experience and I’ll be making a post about it soon.

    7. Live in the wilderness
    I am insanely attracted to nature. In fact, I am quite convinced that I am a tigress/she-wolf/mermaid trapped in the body of a human woman. I feel most at home in nature—in the mountains, near the sea, anywhere wild. I’ve long dreamed of escaping the civilization circa Into the Wild. It would certainly not be a permanent thing; but I’d love to experience it at least for a few weeks to see how long I’d last.

    8. Have or adopt a baby
    Last February my sister gave birth to me beautiful Godson, Brian. Ever since then, I’ve heard the ticking of my own biological clock a tad louder than before. I am not in any rush, as you can see I’ve got a lot I want to do before I am quite ready to “settle down” but it is definitely an enormous dream of mine, some day.

    9. Spend time on a Native American reservation
    I’d like to spend some time living or at least working/volunteering on a reservation. I am passionate about Native American culture and it would be a great honor to serve the Native American people in some capacity and to learn first-hand their cultures, traditions, and needs.

    10. Serve on the Board of Directors for a prominent wildlife conservation foundation

    11. Visit a Buddhist monastery in Tibet

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    These are not all of my dreams, not nearly, but the list could go on and on. For now, these are the ones that I am working toward—in the near & distant—future. It was not nearly as difficult to share them as I thought it would be! This list will be ever-evolving and I will update it as my dreams are accomplished and as they change.

    Alright, I did my part. Now it’s your turn! I would love to hear about your big dreams in the comments or if you make your own big dream post please let me know about it.

7 Comments

  1. Being thankful for all that life gives us is a sure fire route to joy. Friends, health, family are all important and bring us joy. Key approach to daily life is to sluff off the bad stuff and don’t spend time thinking about it. Concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other and doing good where you can. It’s not spectacular, but, it is the right thing to do and will bring you daily joy.

  2. Such good advice, Dena. I have a long list of things for which I’m thankful. It does get me through the hard times.

    I hope you didn’t shake too much up in New Jersey. xo

    1. hey andra! the earthquake was intense but i was in the car and didn’t feel a thing. this hurricane on the other hand… lots of water and the wind is still blowing. i’m ready for sunshine & calm weather now. 🙂 hope you are safe & well. <3

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