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Do what you can with what you’ve got.

Sometimes Most times, life doesn’t pan out exactly as we plan it. Stuff happens. The dog gets sick. A tire blows out on the way there. Your flight gets cancelled. Your hair turns shockingly pink instead of golden blonde. The band never shows up. You accomplish just two items on your twenty-item to-do list. And so on…

But don’t worry, love. Every little thing is gonna be alright.

When you look back on the course of your life, you’re not going to remember the “catastrophes.” The flat tire, the pink hair, and the missed deadline won’t matter.

What will matter? What will you remember?

  • The first kisses
  • The slow dances
  • The belly laughter
  • The victories
  • The love, oh, yes, mostly the love.

Today I want to give you permission. This is a free-pass to let go. Let go of whatever is troubling your little heart. Shake it off. Forgive. Forget. Smile. Focus on the love. In the end, nothing else matters.

Do what you can with what you’ve got. Let the rest of it go.

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    Is Your Resume a Hallmark Card?

    This is a guest post by David Pinkley, The Resume Sage.

    How do you describe yourself in your resume: team player?…quick learner?…detailed oriented? Do you really believe those self-proclaimed descriptions? Consider this: so does everyone else. That’s the problem. When it comes to describing ourselves we use the same words as everyone else. I know this because in 15 years working as a professional resume writer and executive recruiter I’ve seen nearly 40,000 resumes. Virtually all of them used works like: high energy, results oriented, uniquely qualified, detailed oriented, out-of-the-box thinker…and the list goes on. I call these Hallmark words.

    What is a Hallmark word? Example: You go to the store to buy a greeting card for your Sweetie whose birthday is approaching. You are overwhelmed because there are so many cards to choose from. You select your first one and it says something like: “May you experience all things bright and beautiful on your special day. Happy Birthday.” It’s a nice try but the message is contrived so we put the card back and pick another. The second one says: “Here’s a card just for you. You’ve always been tried and true. Happy Birthday.” Again, nice words but the message isn’t meaningful. (Who writes this stuff!?) You repeat this process numerous times until you find one with a message that resonates: “It just always felt right…and it always will. Happy Birthday.” Found it. You’re done.

    Hallmark words are words that look great on paper but don’t have any real meaning. It’s the same with resumes. Certain words look great on resumes but they are meaningless. If everyone says they’re a quick learner those words become diluted. (Whether it’s true or not is irrelevant.) Using Hallmark words on your resume will make it seem just as contrived as most greeting cards. The reader (i.e. hiring manager) won’t believe your message and will continue reading other resumes in search of one that resonates.

    The reality is we really don’t know how to describe ourselves. So we borrow words from other resumes and convince ourselves that these words really describe us. We don’t realize they have no meaning. Great resumes find authentic ways to communicate familiar themes. How do you do that?

    If you are really honest with yourself – you probably don’t know what you really do anyway. The only way to discover exactly what makes you unique is to look closely at your job. This takes introspection and self examination; a process most people dread because it seems like hard work – hence why most resumes are homogeneous. This is difficult to do for yourself. Self examination is much easier if you do it with someone else. But that’s another post.

    Blow the dust off your resume and take a look at the words you’ve used to describe yourself. Are they Hallmark words? If they are, you need to recognize that you are not saying anything unique. And no matter how true they are, they are not as meaningful or impactful as you think.

    Have questions? Contact David Pinkley at (704) 358-6000 or david@theresumesage.com. To learn more visit: www.TheResumeSage.com

    David Pinkley is the founder of The Resume Sage, a custom resume writing service. The Resume Sage critiques and writes resumes for accomplished professionals and executives. Those who work with The Resume Sage are purposeful about navigating their careers. They need more than just strong writing skills; they are seeking insights about how to differentiate themselves from their peers/competitors.

    David is a sought-after public speaker and has been featured on local news and NBC’s national news. He earned a B.S. degree from the University of Michigan and started his career in Chicago as a CPA at Ernst & Young and at Bank of America. He has lived and worked as an executive recruiter for 15 years in Charlotte, Raleigh, New York and Hong Kong.

7 Comments

  1. yep, life is sometimes a strange dance with a cobra and sometimes it is just right. When you have friends that you care about, family that you love and live each day with the Golden Rule as your guide, it’s hard to go wrong.

    Is there stuff to worry about, sure, but, it really doesn’t matter all that much when compared to all the good stuff. Just enjoy.

  2. isn’t this the truth….if we all could just realize…we can only do with what we have…your so right

  3. That’s a nice start to my day 🙂

    How much do I have to donate to evolutionyou for you to post a photo of the dyed pink hair gone wrong?

    Continue to inspire, Dena!

  4. “Doing the best I can with what I have” is one of my favorite sayings. It also reminds me that I do NEED to do the best I can with what I have got and not worry about what others may think. Thank you for your positive message and for reminding us to stop focusing on the negative garbage and to remain positive no matter what.

    1. @ Lou – “life is sometimes a strange dance with a cobra” I LOVE IT! Somehow I’ve never heard this one before, but boy, doesn’t that say it all. 😀 I love your commitment to the Golden Rule. With that in the front of our minds, we are bound for success in this life.

      @ Roberta – Exactly! It seems so simple in theory, but when it comes to the trials we face each day, it’s hard to remember. We have to constantly remind ourselves about what is TRULY important. xo

      @ Andrew – HAHA! You wanna know the truth? It’s not pink this time, but way too dark. I tried to save a couple bucks by using a different brand and … TA DA. Not what I wanted. But I’m rollin’ with the punches. You’ll get a look in my next video post. 😉 lol

      @ Mint – I love when that happens. So glad this was helpful to you, darling. <3

    2. @ James – Thank you so much, my friend. I am truly grateful that you appreciate the positivity in the message. Your thoughtful response means so much to me.

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