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It is what you think about.

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It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. —Dale Carnegie

  • If only I had that thing
  • If only I could be more like that person
  • If only I were in that place
  • If only I were doing that

Do you ever catch yourself having these thoughts? Do you ever feel the pull of that green-eyed monster, jealousy? Do you ever find yourself wishing, hoping for something different, something more? Of course you do. We all do.

These thoughts are natural. It is in our nature. It’s alright that these thoughts visit, what matters is how we deal with them.

Stop worrying about all of the things that you are not. Stop worrying about all of the things that you don’t have. Focus on what you are, on what you have, and on what you are yet to be. Be present. Be grateful for the ten thousand beautiful things that exist around you right now.

No matter how bad you think it is, no matter how far down you’ve been; now is the time to get back up. Get back up and shine. So many people have so little and choose joy anyway. Be one of those people. Choose joy.

I always find that the quickest path to joy is gratitude. Give thanks. My list is never-ending but here’s a little glimpse.

Thank you, heaven, for my ears that hear; my feet that walk; my eyes that see; my hands that write; my voice that shares; my mouth that tastes; my heart that loves; my nephew that makes me smile permanently; my friends who lift me up when I can not do it on my own; my family who loves me unconditionally; my fiance who challenges me to constantly grow and loves me the best way he knows how to; my blog that allows me to create positive change in people’s lives. Thank you for the beautiful sunsets, delicious late summer days, the cicadas that sing me to sleep at night. And thank you for the hard times, too, they show me how sweet the sweet ones really are.

In love & light,
Dena

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    Is Your Resume a Hallmark Card?

    This is a guest post by David Pinkley, The Resume Sage.

    How do you describe yourself in your resume: team player?…quick learner?…detailed oriented? Do you really believe those self-proclaimed descriptions? Consider this: so does everyone else. That’s the problem. When it comes to describing ourselves we use the same words as everyone else. I know this because in 15 years working as a professional resume writer and executive recruiter I’ve seen nearly 40,000 resumes. Virtually all of them used works like: high energy, results oriented, uniquely qualified, detailed oriented, out-of-the-box thinker…and the list goes on. I call these Hallmark words.

    What is a Hallmark word? Example: You go to the store to buy a greeting card for your Sweetie whose birthday is approaching. You are overwhelmed because there are so many cards to choose from. You select your first one and it says something like: “May you experience all things bright and beautiful on your special day. Happy Birthday.” It’s a nice try but the message is contrived so we put the card back and pick another. The second one says: “Here’s a card just for you. You’ve always been tried and true. Happy Birthday.” Again, nice words but the message isn’t meaningful. (Who writes this stuff!?) You repeat this process numerous times until you find one with a message that resonates: “It just always felt right…and it always will. Happy Birthday.” Found it. You’re done.

    Hallmark words are words that look great on paper but don’t have any real meaning. It’s the same with resumes. Certain words look great on resumes but they are meaningless. If everyone says they’re a quick learner those words become diluted. (Whether it’s true or not is irrelevant.) Using Hallmark words on your resume will make it seem just as contrived as most greeting cards. The reader (i.e. hiring manager) won’t believe your message and will continue reading other resumes in search of one that resonates.

    The reality is we really don’t know how to describe ourselves. So we borrow words from other resumes and convince ourselves that these words really describe us. We don’t realize they have no meaning. Great resumes find authentic ways to communicate familiar themes. How do you do that?

    If you are really honest with yourself – you probably don’t know what you really do anyway. The only way to discover exactly what makes you unique is to look closely at your job. This takes introspection and self examination; a process most people dread because it seems like hard work – hence why most resumes are homogeneous. This is difficult to do for yourself. Self examination is much easier if you do it with someone else. But that’s another post.

    Blow the dust off your resume and take a look at the words you’ve used to describe yourself. Are they Hallmark words? If they are, you need to recognize that you are not saying anything unique. And no matter how true they are, they are not as meaningful or impactful as you think.

    Have questions? Contact David Pinkley at (704) 358-6000 or david@theresumesage.com. To learn more visit: www.TheResumeSage.com

    David Pinkley is the founder of The Resume Sage, a custom resume writing service. The Resume Sage critiques and writes resumes for accomplished professionals and executives. Those who work with The Resume Sage are purposeful about navigating their careers. They need more than just strong writing skills; they are seeking insights about how to differentiate themselves from their peers/competitors.

    David is a sought-after public speaker and has been featured on local news and NBC’s national news. He earned a B.S. degree from the University of Michigan and started his career in Chicago as a CPA at Ernst & Young and at Bank of America. He has lived and worked as an executive recruiter for 15 years in Charlotte, Raleigh, New York and Hong Kong.

7 Comments

  1. Being thankful for all that life gives us is a sure fire route to joy. Friends, health, family are all important and bring us joy. Key approach to daily life is to sluff off the bad stuff and don’t spend time thinking about it. Concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other and doing good where you can. It’s not spectacular, but, it is the right thing to do and will bring you daily joy.

  2. Such good advice, Dena. I have a long list of things for which I’m thankful. It does get me through the hard times.

    I hope you didn’t shake too much up in New Jersey. xo

    1. hey andra! the earthquake was intense but i was in the car and didn’t feel a thing. this hurricane on the other hand… lots of water and the wind is still blowing. i’m ready for sunshine & calm weather now. 🙂 hope you are safe & well. <3

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