Carousel — 04.30.10

Recently a friend of mine made a great post about this Henry Ward Beecher quote: “The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.” In the post, she explained that while she loved the quote, she felt badly about using it because, at that time, she couldn’t extract any happiness from her life. She decided that it was time to start working on the present so that she could have a better future.

I’d like to share my response to her post because I think that it is important to understand that extracting happiness from common things and focusing on the present are inextricably bound together.

“While at first, the two things you’ve described here seem to be separate (extracting happiness from common things AND focusing on the present); I actually think that they are very much the same.

We must extract happiness from common things in the present moment. Marvel at the morning dew on your windowsill. Be in reverence of the sunlight poking through the cloudy morning. Enjoy the smell of fresh coffee brewing when you get into the office. And so on and so forth.

Every single moment is a tiny miracle. Once we realize this, we will automatically live happiness. We choose what we focus on and when we focus on the beauty that is all around us—we choose happiness.”

Yes, happiness is a choice & by understanding that every moment is a small miracle, we will live happiness.

This morning I marveled at every little thing—I enjoyed the precious moments that I spent flossing my teeth; I was in awe of the gorgeous, intricate feathers on the wings of the black bird poking through our trash; I thanked the Universe for the bright prisms of light that came through the crystal hanging from my rear-view mirror. Yes, everything is a miracle! Every day is a gift and that is why we call it the present.

And with that, let’s get onto this week’s Carousel.

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Every Friday, I post my favourite links, posts, & resources from around the Web. Expect to learn, grow, & be inspired.

1. Winnie the Pooh’s Guide to a Happier Life: Two of the best things ever in one place—a happy life & Winnie the Pooh. Yes & yes, please!

2. Health Care Reform Changes Coming: This is in no way intended to be political or to spark any debate. However, I think that Baker’s remarks are thoughtful and the graphic is beautifully done & informative.

3. Deniability & PowerPoint makes us stupid: Yesterday, I participated in a webinar where Penelope Trunk interviewed one of the great brilliant minds of our era—Mr. Seth Godin.

I was thrilled when one of my questions was featured during the interview. I’ll be writing a full post about that soon, but in the meantime, enjoy these two fantastic posts from Seth.

4. Stop the Spiral of Debt Part 1: Really solid advice here about what you need to know (and do) if you want to get out of debt.

5. Post Pals: Post pals is a place where you can become pen-pals with children who are in hospital or are sick. I found out about it via Gala Darling’s Friday Carousel and thought it was too wonderful not to share.

6. 5 Things Happy People Do: The first one is my favourite—find your most golden self.

7. Die on Purpose: While it sounds morbid at first, this post is actually just beautiful. “I think it’s really helpful to forget you exist, and often. It sounds impossible, but it can be done… There is no sufferer, so there is no suffering. Curiously, beauty survives.”

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Well that’s all for this week’s round-up. I hope that you’ve enjoyed it. May you all be blessed with a wonderful weekend full of love & light.

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    3 Super Simple Ways to Reduce Stress, Improve Health, & Live Happy

    Want to know how you can cut your stress in half?

    How about if there were two things you could change that would drastically alter your stress levels for the rest of your life?

    Now I bet you really want to know, right?

    What if I told you that doing these simple things will not only decrease your stress levels, but will also make you happier and decrease your risk of heart attack, ulcers, & high blood pressure?

    Ready for this? Four words: Stop Rushing, Take Vacation.

    Yes, that’s it. It’s really quite simple, but the results that you will see if you make these changes will amaze you.

    The Problems
    So why is rushing & a lack of vacation such a huge problem? Well, rushing every now and then wouldn’t really be such a problem. But in today’s society, the reality is that we don’t just rush every now and then. We rush all of the time.

    We are constantly hurrying from one thing to the next, multitasking, with our minds in five different places at once. We browse the Web in multiple Windows. We watch television while surfing the Web. We talk on our house phones while texting on our cell phones/iPhones/Blackberrys. While we’re driving to work, we’re planning our days, who we’ll see at each meeting, and what we’re having for dinner. While we’re eating dinner, we’re checking our email, responding to emails, and thinking about what’s on TV that night. While we’re watching TV that night, we’re thinking about everything we’ve got to do tomorrow. You get the picture…

    The Facts
    The United States is one of (if not the) most stressful, fast-paced, uptight societies in existence. The “American way” of rush, rush, rush has huge negative implications. And sadly, the rest of the world is beginning to follow suit. It’s not a good path to be on.

    Here are some statistics about minimum vacation days around the world:

    Austria — 35 days
    Brazil — 30 days
    Finland — 35 days
    Sweden — 32 days
    Ukraine — 24 days
    United States — 7 days
    (Source: http://nationmaster.com)

    7 days? Really? WTF United States!?!?!?

    Every year Expedia.com launches an intense Vacation Deprivation survey to gather the facts & the effects of American Vacation Deprivation.

    Check out these stats:

    Notice that despite earning the least amount of annual vacation days, Americans will still leave an average of 3 days unused! This goes to show that so many Americans don’t even use the little vacation time that they get! Not good.

    Why is Vacation So Important?
    Let’s talk about mental health.

    • 34% of Americans say they come back from vacation feeling better about their jobs and are even more productive.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling rested and rejuvenated after vacation.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling reconnected with family after vacation.

    It’s no big secret that work can be stressful. Even if you absolutely adore your career, you still have the occasional (or frequent) challenging day. If you refuse to take a breather every now & then, you are putting your mental health and your relationships at risk.

    Obesity, heart disease, high blood pressure, ulcers, anxiety, depression, and so on are all symptoms of stress. Stress causes cortisol to build up in your body, the cortisol is then stored as dangerous fat. In addition to all of the physical symptoms of stress, there is the issue of rushing around. When you are rushing nonstop from place to place, it’s easy to stop for fast-food because you don’t make the time to cook nutritious meals for yourself and your family.

    If you look at the rates of obesity around the globe, you probably won’t be shocked to see where the United States fits in.

    That’s right, numero uno. Not a good place to be in this case. Americans are the most obese individuals in the world. A sad fact to note considering that we are also some of the richest people, with some of the most vast & diverse availability to nutritious & wholesome food. (Please watch Food, Inc. for more information on this topic.)

    Turning the Tide
    The facts are straightforward. Constant rushing & vacation deprivation will cause you harm. Here are 3 super simple ways that you can combat these harmful habits.

    1. Practice efficient time management. Keep a calendar and don’t overbook yourself, no exceptions. We all have a ton of stuff that we want to get done, but we have to prioritize. Choose the tasks that mean the most to you and will provide you with the best ROI (return on investment). Don’t commit to anything that doesn’t benefit you, your career, your family, or your friends in a big way. Your time is precious and you should treat it as such.

    2. Use your vacation time, all of it. No matter how many days that your company allots for vacation, make sure and use it. If your company tends to be on the real stingy side with vacation, don’t be afraid to set a confidential meeting with your HR director to point out the importance of sufficient vacation time. Sufficient vacation time is mutually beneficial — you will feel better and thereby, your performance will improve. Win – Win!

    Likewise, if you work for yourself, make sure to pencil in enough time for R & R.

    3. Breathe. When you are rushing, you are most likely breathing shallow. Shallow breathing causes rapid heart rate & conversely, deep breathing causes a slower heart rate. Take time to observe your breathing throughout the day. If you find yourself shallow breathing, take a deep breath in through your nostrils. Let the air flow through your chest & deep into the pit of your stomach. Allow your stomach to expand, like a balloon, as it fills with air. Then slowly exhale through your nose and expel all of the air from your body. Breathe in deeply again, allowing the air to fill your stomach as before. Each time you inhale, take in the positive energy & light around you. Let it fill & calm your soul. Each time you exhale, push out your negative energy & fear. Continue to do this until you feel calm.

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    Slow down, be in the now.

7 Comments

  1. One way that I find happiness is by interacting with my kids. Every little thing they do has an element of happiness. To bad life isn’t that simple anymore.

    Thanks for the shout out too 🙂

    1. @Jeff – Thanks so much for your comment. Yes! Interacting with children is one of the ultimate sources of instant happiness. There is so much that we can learn from their curious, free-spirited nature. My nephew just turned 1 in February & the time that I spend with him is so precious to me.

      You are very welcome for the shout out. I’ve been following your blog from the sidelines for awhile. I found you through Brad @enemyofdebt who is a great friend of mine. One of my close family members is actually in a big knot of financial troubles at the moment I referred him to your blog today and signed him up for your mailing list. 🙂

  2. I’m working hard on this…. animal’s are the easiest thing to be happy about, the belief that they don’t have the same level of thought as us gives them a purity that can only be marveled…. I often visit the street dogs here in Cairo just to say hi and watch them for a while.

    As for other things, I laugh a lot everyday at the smallest of things but this has been gradual and I am on a slow path to enlightenment…. But at least I am on the path.

    Thanks for the post 🙂

    1. @Forest – Hello! So glad we connected on Twitter, don’t know what took me so long! Oh, animals. I really have to get around to writing about my beautiful pets. At my house I have 1 dog, 1 cat, 1 snake, and several fish. At my parents’ house, I have 1 dog & 1 cat. I love all of them so much. There are no words to describe the joy that these animals bring into my life. What I love most about them —> UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. There is so much that we humans can learn from these creatures.

      Thank you so very much for your comment, my friend!

  3. Hi Dena,

    Thank you for your lovely comment and your post! I never really thought of that when I first stumbled onto the quote, that the present and finding happiness would be used in the same context. What you said made me realize the little things in life is precious and we have to savor those moments. =)

    1. @Nadia – Thank you for bringing such beautiful thoughts into my mind. I love your post, your thoughts, and your willingness to open yourself to new ways of thinking. You are truly an inspiration. 🙂

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