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If you cannot put your heart into it, take yourself out of it.

evolutionyou.net | Lead with Heart

Einstein said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results. I agree. Fact: Most people are insane. The cure for this insanity is awareness. (In fact, awareness is the cure for most things.)

There is a pattern among living things—we do what we know. In the morning my cat wails like a wounded baby until I give her attention. The vines on my cucumber plant pull themselves toward the sun. I worry about everything.

None of us creatures take note of what we are doing. Even if we’re not getting the results we’re after. Even if it’s making us miserable. Even if we’re doing the same thing over and over and getting nowhere. We just do it because it’s what we know.

Living things require a catalyst for change. The catalyst can be trial and error, evolution, or necessity. Examples:

  1. If my cat scratches at my door for twenty minutes and I ignore her, eventually she will try something else.
  2. Animals evolve over time to better adapt to their environment. The Hudson river has become so toxic that the small fish that inhabit it have grown immune to the toxicity. Moreover, in the past decade they’ve actually evolved to thrive on that toxicity.
  3. The natural habitat of black bears in New Jersey has been almost entirely destroyed. There is little left for them to eat, less fish, less plant life, etc. To avoid starving, they’ve become scavengers. We can’t leave our garbage out overnight.
  4. Our cucumber plants crave sunlight. If we put a potted plant half in the shade, half in the sun, the plant will literally pull itself into the light.

But there is a difference—something that separates us (humans) from the rest of the living things. That difference is awareness. We are not doomed to the fate of the cat, the fish, the bear, the cucumber plant. If we practice awareness we can create positive change in our lives without impetus, without a catalyst. We can observe the world around us, the things that happen to us, and we can knowingly, willfully alter our paths.

We do not have to wait until it’s necessary, until there is no other choice, until we are miserable, unhealthy, afraid, and desperate. We can create positive change now.

What is it for you? What are you doing over and over again, even though you are craving a different result?

The answer that you’ve been searching for is not so far away. The result that you’ve been hoping for is actually within reach. The key to all of this is simple. Live with your heart. Lead with your heart. If you cannot put your heart into it, then take yourself out of it.

The soul is a tiny thing that brings us peace and joy when we let it swim/fly. —Mark Nepa

Stop doing things that you hate to make other people happy. Stop sabotaging your dreams because you are afraid of failure. Stop making excuses and avoiding the hard work that will make your goals a reality. Stop worrying. Stop the insanity of doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results.

Today is the day. It’s the only day that matters.

In love & light,
Dena

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    3 Simple Changes That Will Save Your Life

    This post could save your life. These 3 simple lifestyle changes saved mine. Today I am going to simply share facts with you. These facts (if you let them) will dramatically improve your quality of life. Making these changes can even increase your life span.

    1. Stop Smoking

    FACTS: According to the American Heart Association, cigarette smoking is the most important preventable cause of premature death in the United States, accounting for 440,000 of the more than 2.4 million annual deaths.

    Cigarette smoking causes lung cancer. In fact, smoking tobacco is the major risk factor for lung cancer. In the United States, about 90% of lung cancer deaths in men and almost 80% of lung cancer deaths in women are due to smoking. People who smoke are 10 to 20 times more likely to get lung cancer or die from lung cancer than people who do not smoke. The longer a person smokes and the more cigarettes smoked each day, the more risk goes up.

    Smoking also causes cancer of the voice box (larynx), mouth and throat, esophagus, bladder, kidney, pancreas, cervix, and stomach, and causes acute myeloid leukemia. Source.

    FACTS: One year after passing smoking bans, communities in North America and Europe had 17 percent fewer heart attacks compared to communities without smoking restrictions, and the number of heart attacks kept decreasing with time, according to a report in Circulation: Journal of the American Heart Association. Source.

    FACTS: If you quit smoking, you will:

    1. Prolong your life. According to the American Heart Association, smokers who quit between ages 35-39 add an average of 6-9 years to their lives. Smokers who quit between ages 65-69 increase their life expectancy by 1 – 4 years.

    2. Reduce your risk of cardiovascular disease. Quitting smoking reduces the risk of repeat heart attacks and death from heart disease by 50 percent or more. Quitting smoking also reduces your risk of high blood pressure, peripheral artery disease and stroke.

    3. Reduce your risk of developing a variety of other conditions including diabetes, lung cancer, throat cancer, emphysema, chronic bronchitis, chronic asthma, ulcers, gum disease and many other conditions.

    4. Feel healthier. After quitting, you won’t cough as much, have as many sore throats and you will increase your energy.

    5. Look and feel better. Quitting can help you prevent face wrinkles, get rid of stained teeth, improve your skin and even get rid of the stale smell in your clothes and hair.

    6. Improve your sense of taste and smell.

    7. Save money. Source.

    FACTS: What Happens When You Quit:

    After 20 minutes
    o You stop polluting the air
    o Your blood pressure and pulse decrease
    o The temperature of your hands and feet increases

    After 8 hours
    o The carbon monoxide level in your blood returns to normal
    o Oxygen levels in your blood increase

    After 24 hours
    o Your risk of heart attack decreases

    After 48 hours
    o Nerve endings adjust to the absence of nicotine
    o Your ability to taste and smell begin to return

    After 2 weeks to 3 months
    o Your circulation improves
    o Your exercise tolerance improves

    After 1 – 9 months
    o Coughing, sinus congestion, fatigue and shortness of breath decrease
    o Your overall energy level increases

    After 1 year
    o Your risk of heart disease decreases to half that of a current smoker

    After 5 – 15 years
    o Your risk of stroke is reduced to that of people who have never smoked

    After 10 years
    o Your risk of dying from lung cancer drops to almost the same rate as a lifelong non- smoker
    o You decrease the incidence of other cancers — of the mouth, larynx, esophagus, bladder, kidney and pancreas

    After 15 years
    o Your risk of heart disease is reduced to that of people who have never smoked

    If you smoke again (called a relapse) do not lose hope. Seventy-five percent of those who quit relapse. Most smokers quit three times before they are successful. If you relapse, don’t give up! Review the reasons why you wanted to become a nonsmoker. Plan ahead and think about what you will do next time you get the urge to smoke. Source.

    2. Maintain a Healthy Body Weight

    QUESTION: How many people get cancer by being overweight or obese? How many die?

    FACTS: In 2002, about 41,000 new cases of cancer in the United States were estimated to be due to obesity. This means that about 3.2 percent of all new cancers are linked to obesity.

    A recent report estimated that, in the United States, 14 percent of deaths from cancer in men and 20 percent of deaths in women were due to overweight and obesity.

    Colon cancer occurs more frequently in people who are obese than in those of a healthy weight. An increased risk of colon cancer has been consistently reported for men with high BMIs.
    Source.

    FACTS: Research has shown that as weight increases to reach the levels referred to as “overweight” and “obesity,” the risks for the following conditions also increases:

    * Coronary heart disease
    * Type 2 diabetes
    * Cancers (endometrial, breast, and colon)
    * Hypertension (high blood pressure)
    * Dyslipidemia (for example, high total cholesterol or high levels of triglycerides)
    * Stroke
    * Liver and Gallbladder disease
    * Sleep apnea and respiratory problems
    * Osteoarthritis (a degeneration of cartilage and its underlying bone within a joint)
    * Gynecological problems (abnormal menses, infertility) Source.

    3. Eat Whole Foods, Not Processed

    FACTS: The statistics are alarming:

    – One in three people will get cancer at some time in their life

    – Heart disease is the leading cause of death

    – Poor nutrition and physical inactivity together are the second
    actual cause of preventable death in the United States

    On the other hand new evidence shows that:

    – Eating five or more fruits and vegetables per day cuts cancer
    risk in half

    – People who eat more fruits and vegetables have a 30% lower risk
    of premature heart attack than people who eat a few

    – About 25% fewer strokes are projected for adults who eat 8 or
    more servings of fruits and vegetables per day

    – Fruits and vegetables may help keep blood sugar down and control diabetes.” Source.

    FACTS: Processed meat consumption results in 67% increase in pancreatic cancer risk.
    Source.

    FACTS: Inorganic phosphates are found in a variety of processed foods, including meats, cheeses, beverages and bakery products. They are added to increase water retention and improve food texture. Studies suggests a diet high in inorganic phosphates could speed growth of cancerous tumors and contribute to the development of tumors in those predisposed to the disease. Source.

    FACTS: Carcinogens in foods that may be naturally-occurring, caused by preparing or cooking certain foods, or added to it, include safrole, estragole and benzene. Processed foods such as sausages, bacon and canned meats contain high amounts of the preservative nitrite, another known carcinogen. Other carcinogens to look for in food products include:

    * acetaldehyde
    * acetamide
    * azo color and compounds
    * benzidine
    * bis (2-Chloromethyl) ether
    * cadmium
    * chlorinated parraffin waxes
    * 3,3-dichlorobenzidine
    * dichloromethane
    * hexachlorobenzene
    * polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons
    * polychlorinated dibenzodioxins
    * polychlorinated dibenzofurans
    * sillica
    * trichloroethylene

    Though it is impossible to avoid every known carcinogen, to decrease risk of cancers and other illnesses, a balanced diet with more unprocessed, whole foods can decrease risk of some cancers and other diseases such as type two diabetes and heart disease. Source.

    FACTS: Nutrients in Whole Foods that Protect Against Cancer:

    1. Vitamin A: Strengthens the immune system. Essential for mineral metabolism and endocrine function. Helps detoxify. True vitamin A is found only in animal foods such as cod liver oil; fish and shellfish; and liver, butter and egg yolks from pasture-fed animals. Traditional diets contained ten times more vitamin A than the typical modern American diet.

    2. Vitamin C: An important antioxidant that prevents damage by free radicals. Found in many fruits and vegetables but also in certain organ meats valued by primitive peoples.

    3. Vitamin B6: Deficiencies are associated with cancer. Contributes to the function of over 100 enzymes. Most available from animal foods.

    4. Vitamin B12: Deficiencies are associated with cancer. Found only in animal foods.

    5. Vitamin B17: Protects against cancer. Found in a variety of organically grown grains, legumes, nuts and berries.

    6. Vitamin D: Required for mineral absorption. Strongly protective against breast and colon cancer. Found only in animal foods such as cod liver oil, lard, shellfish and butterfat, organ meats and egg yolks from grass-fed animals. Traditional diets contained ten times more vitamin D than the typical modern American diet.

    7. Vitamin E: Works as an antioxidant at the cellular level. Found in unprocessed oils as well as in animal fats like butter and egg yolks.

    8. Conjugated Linoleic Acid (CLA): Strongly protective against breast cancer. Found in the butterfat and meat fat of grass-fed ruminant animals.

    9. Cholesterol: A potent antioxidant that protects against free radicals in cell membranes. Found only in animal foods.

    10. Minerals: The body needs generous amounts of a wide variety of minerals to protect itself against cancer. Minerals like zinc, magnesium and selenium are vital components of enzymes that help the body fight carcinogens. Minerals are more easily absorbed from animal foods.

    11. Lactic Acid and Friendly Bacteria: Contribute to the health of the digestive tract. Found in old fashioned lacto-fermented foods.

    12. Saturated Fats: Strengthen the immune system. Needed for proper use of the essential fatty acids. The lungs cannot function without saturated fats. Found mostly in animal foods.

    13. Long-Chain Fatty Acids: Arachidonic acid (AA), eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) and docosahexaenoic acid (DHA) help fight cancer on the cellular level. They are found mostly in animal foods such as butter, organ meats, cod liver oil and seafood.

    14. Co-enzyme Q10: Highly protective against cancer. Found only in animal foods. Source.

    In closing: I truly hope that you will begin living these simple lifestyle changes. If you are non-smoker, not obese, and already eating whole foods, then I challenge you to help to spread this message to as many people as you can. All of the suffering and the disease mentioned above is not necessary. It can be prevented.

9 Comments

  1. I’m trying to be more like the cucumber… forever crawling towards the sun.

    I like that.

    And you’re right. Lead with your heart, because today is the day that matters.

    1. Forever crawling towards the sun…

      This is a life well-lived, my friend. Pursuit of happiness, pursuit of light. What else is there? 🙂

  2. It’s like animals and bugs and even vines have this consciousness and brilliant adaptability. I know it’s called “survival”–but I think there is some clear-clean phototropic awareness. We are saturated in self-awareness and it keeps us in puddles of mud.

    I am wholly there when you realize you don’t have to go to rock-bottom to re-boot your awareness. My decision to stop drinking (1yr ago), was a quiet, calm choice. It was a wonderful, whisper–“enjoy the clarity and the tummy of life without beer.” Done. Awareness. Happy.

    Bzzzz,
    M

    1. Brilliant, Mark. Yes–clear-clean phototropic. Perhaps a total lack of awareness? The essence of not knowing (not worrying, not trying) and just being. That nature has the ability to just be, like water. Maybe to embrace awareness is, in actuality, to let it all go? ♥

  3. I like to think that I use my heart in everything I do. Some say it can get me in trouble becasue I am too quick to use my heart. I think it’s led me in the right direction and those logical mind oriented people can bug off. 🙂 Love it Dena and love you!! 🙂

    1. I struggle with it all of the time, Meg. I lead with my heart, as well. So much so that at times I feel like it’s dragging me around–up, down, through the mud. Ya know? This morning, in my person journal, I posed a question. I wondered, “Would my life be easier if I could just stop feeling so much?” And then I answered myself. “Yes. It would. But it would also be more boring and less brilliant.”

      Love you so much! xo

  4. Following the heart is a scary business. I know, because I am in the midst of it. It doesn’t come without some lost sleep and worry, but I know I am on the right path.

    And, I know it will take me where I want to go.

    xo

    1. A scary business indeed. I know all about the lost sleep aspect of it — it picked me up at 3:30 a.m. last night & never put me down. But, like you, I know that it’s worth it.

      We’re exactly where we need to be. Love you so much. xo

  5. Funny I just read a fortune from a fortune cookie:)Its says:
    Life is a tragedy for those who feel,and a comedy for those who think….
    I find it amusing because i am such a feeler,however I am also a thinker…
    So that must be the balance,to have a little of both….
    I find myself aware of the imbalance of my nature,and the continual repeating the same behaviors,I am aware that it gets me no where,and yet i keep hoping for some change..I am aware i could do something different,however I am not aware of what makes my heart happy,besides Love….I have my childrens,and that of my husband,so he says….thats is my sadness…he says,but yet i don’t feel it…there is no show of affection,and that is what drives me crazy….its the same over and over,no new results…so,how do I pull out of something that keeps me half way there?

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