Let Go of Your Goals & Unleash Your Dreams

DenaFebruary 23, 2010

Dreams are Just as Important as Goals

I’ve written quite a bit about setting & accomplishing goals; overcoming fears; and making the best out of difficult situations. But what I haven’t written enough about is flat out—unleashing your dreams.

Goal setting is a very mathematical process. It goes something like this: Define your goal. Map out the steps necessary to achieve it. Research, develop, act. Work until you get there. This is great, it makes sense, it gets things done. However, goals are full of limitations. In order to accomplish Z, first I need to do X and Y. If I want to be in this place by this date, then I’ve got to accomplish X, Y, and Z by this date. And so on and so forth it goes. We plan and work and strive.

Yes, goal-setting & goal accomplishment are crucial elements to success; but sometimes we have to just let go of our goals and start unleashing our dreams! Throw caution to the wind and go for it. But how?, you ask. Well, you start by defining your dreams & broadcasting them to the world. Today I am going to define my wildest dreams & share them with you.

“Achieving life is not the equivalent of avoiding death.” –Ayn Rand

Why Are We Afraid to Expose Our Dreams?

To be honest, I am a bit nervous about this. I feel like I am exposing a part of myself that I’ve kept hidden. When you keep your wildest dreams to yourself, you’re safe. If no one knows what you want, then no one can hold you accountable. For example, if your best friend has no idea that you dream of moving to Costa Rica to collect butterflies in the rain forest—then she isn’t going to check in with you once a month and ask where you’re at. If you’re father doesn’t know that you dream of quitting your job to build collectible trains and sell them on Ebay—then he isn’t going to be hounding you with questions about it at the holidays. And when you are not faced with those questions you are safe. Your dreams can stay on the back burner while your life passes you by. You are not held accountable. You don’t experience pressure. But, my friend, today is the day that you must realize something critical: It is pressure that makes diamonds!

Broadcast Your Desires to the Universe

Steve Pavlina recently wrote a post called Broadcast Your Desires. In the post, he explains why broadcasting our desires & dreams to the world is the best way to make them a reality. If you can’t broadcast your desires, it’s fair to say that you don’t own them yet. In order to make your desires become real, you’ve got to speak up about them. If you’re going to receive them, then let it be known. If you find it necessary to hide what you desire, that suggests you aren’t ready to receive.

Well, I am ready to receive! I hope that by taking this step in my own life, I will inspire you to take it in your own. Here I go…!

My Dreams

1. Grow evolution you
I want to take this blog to great heights, attract thousands of readers, inspire people around the world. I want to monetize it so that I can devote myself to improving people’s lives full-time. And as a result, I want to become location independent so that I can travel the world, spreading love & light where ever I go.

2. Write a book
I haven’t quite worked out the details of this one yet—it’s a bit ever-evolving. I’ll pin it down soon enough, for now I am just dreaming wildly!

3. Travel to the Great Pyramids in Egypt
I feel intimately connected to the people of ancient Egypt. Perhaps it is the beautiful & mysterious way that Ancient Egypt is depicted in films & literature, whatever the cause, the very idea of it thrills me. I have long dreamed of visiting & exploring the ancient pyramids for myself.

4. Learn to speak French

5. Spend time living & working in Europe
Italy, France, and Belgium all seem such lovely places to me. I’d like to spend at least a few months in each place.

6. Safari in Africa
This is the only dream on the list that I already accomplished. In the Summer of 2006 I studied abroad in Kenya, studying, on safari, and touring. It was a truly incredible experience and I’ll be making a post about it soon.

7. Live in the wilderness
I am insanely attracted to nature. In fact, I am quite convinced that I am a tigress/she-wolf/mermaid trapped in the body of a human woman. I feel most at home in nature—in the mountains, near the sea, anywhere wild. I’ve long dreamed of escaping the civilization circa Into the Wild. It would certainly not be a permanent thing; but I’d love to experience it at least for a few weeks to see how long I’d last.

8. Have or adopt a baby
Last February my sister gave birth to me beautiful Godson, Brian. Ever since then, I’ve heard the ticking of my own biological clock a tad louder than before. I am not in any rush, as you can see I’ve got a lot I want to do before I am quite ready to “settle down” but it is definitely an enormous dream of mine, some day.

9. Spend time on a Native American reservation
I’d like to spend some time living or at least working/volunteering on a reservation. I am passionate about Native American culture and it would be a great honor to serve the Native American people in some capacity and to learn first-hand their cultures, traditions, and needs.

10. Serve on the Board of Directors for a prominent wildlife conservation foundation

11. Visit a monastery in Tibet


These are not all of my dreams, not nearly, but the list could go on and on. For now, these are the ones that I am working toward—in the near & distant—future. It was not nearly as difficult to share them as I thought it would be! This list will be ever-evolving and I will update it as my dreams are accomplished and as they change.

Alright, I did my part. Now it’s your turn! I would love to hear about your big dreams in the comments or if you make your own big dream post please let me know about it.

Comments (3)

  • Brandon

    February 23, 2010 at 3:10 pm

    Wow, so awesome, unreal how are brains meshed there. I love the part about peoples fear in expressing their dreams to the world, I was feeling those doubtful thoughts when I posted. I thought, “oh crap, what if these don’t come true, now they are etched into writing for eternity!” You explained the reason for those doubts eloquently and it’s reassuring having done it knowing that fighting the doubts of others and of ourself is the biggest part of the dream process. So here it goes, reading your list gave me inspiration to dream bigger.

    -Turn my blog into a successful online publication where I can use the immense revenue generated by it to create a global non-profits and give as much as possible to those in need, all while remaining magically Location Indy.

    -Write a book about how going after your wants and spiritual needs is the key to your ideal life, and how dreaming big will change the world.

    -Create a company that seeks to educate the poor youth of the world about controlling the circumstance they were given in life, and how to use life’s challenges to become incredible people.

    -Be the host of a TV show where I am a spiritual adventurer putting myself through challenging experiences throughout the world in order to grow spiritually.

    -Start a video blog where I visit the poorest parts of the world and inform my audience of the situation there, and urge them to donate or fund-raise for various groups I meet in my travels.

    1. Dena

      February 24, 2010 at 10:42 am

      Brandon, these dreams are amazing! And I think you’ve now inspired me to dream bigger, too! It is great that we can inspire each other in this way. I absolutely love your dreams, they are selfless & heroic. I know that you have the power to change the world — you are doing it already. I am so glad that we are on this journey together. Keep up the great work & I’ll be checking in from time to time to make sure you’re making it happen! I hope you’ll do the same.

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