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Our Family

You’ll notice a new page located in the menu of the site, titled “Our Family.” I figured that I should do an introduction to our little family for new readers & friends. The page will live here & I’ll update it from time to time as we change & grow. Here’s what it looks like for now.

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livelovesimple.comDena (Mama) — I am the keeper of this little blog. I am currently twenty-nine years old and my birthday is the fifth of May. I am a Taurus. I am a full-time stay-at-home mom and a part-time photographer & blogger. You can check out my little photography business at Firefly Jar Photography. My life has been an incredible journey so far. I grew up in a sweet little town in northern New Jersey. I have great parents and a younger (by two years) sister.

My life took a turn when I was around fifteen-years-old. While dealing with childhood/teenage obesity and teenage hormones, I became depressed and severely anxious. My depression and anxiety would haunt me for many years. I tried various medications and forms of therapy from ages 15-21. Finally, when I was twenty-one, I met a therapist who introduced me to a therapy that would change my life — Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). With the tools that CBT gave me, my life quickly transformed. Within a few years, I lost sixty pounds, found happiness, and began to live the life that I had always wanted. You can read my entire journey in my e-book, Beat Depression: The Journey from Darkness to Light.

Today — after many years of struggling to “find myself” — I am finally living the life that I have always dreamed of living. In 2012 I married the man of my dreams and eleven months later I gave birth to the sweetest little boy this side of heaven. We live in a little house on a little mountain in northern New Jersey. There are beautiful hiking trails all around us. It’s perfect. We have lots of hard times just like everybody else but we always work to find the light in every darkness. I am so grateful for my beautiful & blessed life.

livelovesimple.comMatthew (Papa) — My husband, Matthew, has had many incredible adventures throughout his life, too. He is the middle of five children. He grew up in the next town over from me — in fact we went to high school together. His greatest love in life (besides his family) is his dirt bike. He absolutely loves to ride, it’s his passion. Career-wise, Matthew has always been a carpenter. A couple of years ago he joined the union and now he does heavy, industrial carpentry (think bridges, skyscraper foundations, shore walls, etc.). There are so many beautiful, juicy details about his life that I would just love to share — but Matthew is much more private than me and I respect that. Maybe one day I’ll get him to agree to an interview. 😉

livelovesimple.com Roman James — Oh, my little love. What can I say? This boy is the moon and the stars and the sky and the sun and the sea. He is our everything, our whole world. We spent nine beautiful months awaiting his arrival, dreaming about his sweet little face, and then on May 7th, 2013 he joined us. It was the most wonderful day of our lives. We still cannot get over him. We often stop and marvel at what a treasure he is. We are convinced that he is the cutest, the smartest, and the sweetest little guy that there ever was. We adore him and cannot wait to watch him grow.

livelovesimple.com Bella — Bella is our sweet girl. We got Bella when she was just a tiny puppy from a local rescue. She is almost five-years-old and she fills our lives with so much joy. She has always been our little girl and she is just the sweetest. She loves to hike, chase squirrels, and sleep in our bedroom. She will jump into anything that is wet — streams, lakes, puddles — you name it! She loves to have her belly scratched and to rub her back on warm grass. She’s not great with “new” friends but we’re working on that.

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    3 Super Simple Ways to Reduce Stress, Improve Health, & Live Happy

    Want to know how you can cut your stress in half?

    How about if there were two things you could change that would drastically alter your stress levels for the rest of your life?

    Now I bet you really want to know, right?

    What if I told you that doing these simple things will not only decrease your stress levels, but will also make you happier and decrease your risk of heart attack, ulcers, & high blood pressure?

    Ready for this? Four words: Stop Rushing, Take Vacation.

    Yes, that’s it. It’s really quite simple, but the results that you will see if you make these changes will amaze you.

    The Problems
    So why is rushing & a lack of vacation such a huge problem? Well, rushing every now and then wouldn’t really be such a problem. But in today’s society, the reality is that we don’t just rush every now and then. We rush all of the time.

    We are constantly hurrying from one thing to the next, multitasking, with our minds in five different places at once. We browse the Web in multiple Windows. We watch television while surfing the Web. We talk on our house phones while texting on our cell phones/iPhones/Blackberrys. While we’re driving to work, we’re planning our days, who we’ll see at each meeting, and what we’re having for dinner. While we’re eating dinner, we’re checking our email, responding to emails, and thinking about what’s on TV that night. While we’re watching TV that night, we’re thinking about everything we’ve got to do tomorrow. You get the picture…

    The Facts
    The United States is one of (if not the) most stressful, fast-paced, uptight societies in existence. The “American way” of rush, rush, rush has huge negative implications. And sadly, the rest of the world is beginning to follow suit. It’s not a good path to be on.

    Here are some statistics about minimum vacation days around the world:

    Austria — 35 days
    Brazil — 30 days
    Finland — 35 days
    Sweden — 32 days
    Ukraine — 24 days
    United States — 7 days
    (Source: http://nationmaster.com)

    7 days? Really? WTF United States!?!?!?

    Every year Expedia.com launches an intense Vacation Deprivation survey to gather the facts & the effects of American Vacation Deprivation.

    Check out these stats:

    Notice that despite earning the least amount of annual vacation days, Americans will still leave an average of 3 days unused! This goes to show that so many Americans don’t even use the little vacation time that they get! Not good.

    Why is Vacation So Important?
    Let’s talk about mental health.

    • 34% of Americans say they come back from vacation feeling better about their jobs and are even more productive.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling rested and rejuvenated after vacation.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling reconnected with family after vacation.

    It’s no big secret that work can be stressful. Even if you absolutely adore your career, you still have the occasional (or frequent) challenging day. If you refuse to take a breather every now & then, you are putting your mental health and your relationships at risk.

    Obesity, heart disease, high blood pressure, ulcers, anxiety, depression, and so on are all symptoms of stress. Stress causes cortisol to build up in your body, the cortisol is then stored as dangerous fat. In addition to all of the physical symptoms of stress, there is the issue of rushing around. When you are rushing nonstop from place to place, it’s easy to stop for fast-food because you don’t make the time to cook nutritious meals for yourself and your family.

    If you look at the rates of obesity around the globe, you probably won’t be shocked to see where the United States fits in.

    That’s right, numero uno. Not a good place to be in this case. Americans are the most obese individuals in the world. A sad fact to note considering that we are also some of the richest people, with some of the most vast & diverse availability to nutritious & wholesome food. (Please watch Food, Inc. for more information on this topic.)

    Turning the Tide
    The facts are straightforward. Constant rushing & vacation deprivation will cause you harm. Here are 3 super simple ways that you can combat these harmful habits.

    1. Practice efficient time management. Keep a calendar and don’t overbook yourself, no exceptions. We all have a ton of stuff that we want to get done, but we have to prioritize. Choose the tasks that mean the most to you and will provide you with the best ROI (return on investment). Don’t commit to anything that doesn’t benefit you, your career, your family, or your friends in a big way. Your time is precious and you should treat it as such.

    2. Use your vacation time, all of it. No matter how many days that your company allots for vacation, make sure and use it. If your company tends to be on the real stingy side with vacation, don’t be afraid to set a confidential meeting with your HR director to point out the importance of sufficient vacation time. Sufficient vacation time is mutually beneficial — you will feel better and thereby, your performance will improve. Win – Win!

    Likewise, if you work for yourself, make sure to pencil in enough time for R & R.

    3. Breathe. When you are rushing, you are most likely breathing shallow. Shallow breathing causes rapid heart rate & conversely, deep breathing causes a slower heart rate. Take time to observe your breathing throughout the day. If you find yourself shallow breathing, take a deep breath in through your nostrils. Let the air flow through your chest & deep into the pit of your stomach. Allow your stomach to expand, like a balloon, as it fills with air. Then slowly exhale through your nose and expel all of the air from your body. Breathe in deeply again, allowing the air to fill your stomach as before. Each time you inhale, take in the positive energy & light around you. Let it fill & calm your soul. Each time you exhale, push out your negative energy & fear. Continue to do this until you feel calm.

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    Slow down, be in the now.

6 Comments

    1. Thank you!! The photography site is fairly new — it’s so exciting. I’ve got to get around to a post that properly introduces it. 🙂

  1. Nice to meet ya. I’ve actually just announced my desire to turn my passion for photography into a career with the opening of my website. However, I don’t have much on my gallery yet. I’m super new. I really love the name of your biz, Firefly Jar….how cute. Your photos are lovely, too 🙂

    1. Thank you!! How exciting for you. I LOVE photography — I’ve had a camera in my hands since I was a little girl. I got serious about when I visited Kenya in ’06. I just launched FFJ this spring. Dream come true & I can’t wait to check out your work. 🙂

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