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The Simple Equation for Fitness

Let’s talk about physical health, particularly our physical bodies and body weight, also called fitness. I could write a novel on this topic, you know. I have run the gamut on it. In my lifetime, I have been everything from obese all the way to the picture of health with nearly 0% body fat. And of course, I have been everywhere in between those two places, as well.

Fitness and Healing

14 years ago when I first started writing about health and wellness online, the landscape was vastly different. Social media was still fairly new and wellness influencers were not constantly in your face as they are today. Back then I started writing because I had an important story to tell. I had overcome a lifetime of mental illness and borderline obesity, and I had gotten healthy. When I look back at the first exhaustive post that I wrote on this topic here, Spiritual Wealth = Physical Health, I can see that I had a pretty good understanding of how I got healthy and why, but I was still young and I had a lot more to learn. Back then, I still did not grasp the depth of my personal trauma. Memories of some of the most traumatic childhood experiences that I endured would not surface for another 10 years, so I could not possibly understand, back then, how deep my wounds were and how all of that tied into my ability to be healthy.

The equation for fitness is extraordinarily simple. Anyone can get fit, lose or gain weight, lose or gain muscle, and so on, very easily, by following a very simple equation. And I will share that equation with you in this post. However, the reason why it isn’t just “that simple” is because for many people, lack of knowledge, broken belief systems, trauma and mental illness all factor into the equation, too. Knowing the “simple equation” to achieve fitness is completely worthless if you live in a body that is still working through trauma and living with a mind that is yet incapable of understanding the roadblocks in your path.

You can achieve fitness by following simple equations and taking simple actions, but if you are not also working on healing your personal traumas, no changes will be lasting. You will do more harm than good if you prioritize fitness over true, holistic healing.

Before I proceed, let me reiterate–as you embark on a plan to achieve fitness, weight loss, muscle gain or any other physical aspiration, make certain that you are already on a holistic healing path; or, make sure that you are embarking on a holistic healing path simultaneously. You will never have one without the other. Fitness and healing go hand-in-hand, and even the most well-adjusted, mentally healthy people in this world have healing to do.

The Simple Equations for Fitness

Of course fitness is a relative term. We all have a our own definition of what fit looks like and feels like. So we can take that into consideration. But for the vast majority of people, fitness goals fall into 1 of 3 primary areas: 1. to lose weight, 2. to gain weight/muscle or 3. to maintain fitness.

The Equation for Weight Loss or Gain
First, let’s talk about the equation for losing weight. To lose weight, you must burn more calories than you consume. See, I told you it was simple. That is the equation to lose weight. You must simply burn more calories than you consume. What are calories? Calories are units of energy that are released when your body breaks down (digests and absorbs) food. The more calories a food has, the more energy it can provide to your body. If you eat more calories than you burn in a given day, your body will store the extra calories as body fat and you will gain weight. If you eat less calories than you burn in a given day, your body will burn body fat and you will lose weight. If you eat just as many calories as you burn in a given day, you will maintain your weight.

As I said, and as you can now see, it is incredibly simple. The challenge for most people is that they are just eating and not paying attention to this process. Most people don’t know how many calories they eat in a day and how many calories they burn in a day. If you become aware of these things and simply start eating the correct amount of calories, and burning the correct amount of calories, you will lose weight. People complicate this matter and consider what kind of food they’re eating, what diet they follow, and so on. But all of those things are irrelevant when it comes to weight. You will gain or lose weight according to the amount of calories that you eat and burn, it doesn’t matter what kind of food it is.

To illustrate, let’s say you burn about 2,000 calories a day, which is the average for most people. If you eat 1,500 calories a day, and you burn 2,000, you will lose weight because that is a 500 calorie deficit. It doesn’t matter if you eat 1,500 calories worth of vegetables, 1,500 calories worth of meat, or 1,500 calories of chocolate or anything in between. Calories are calories. Yes, the food choices that you make will effect your health in other ways, but that is a conversation for another day. I’ve also written about this in the past, see these past posts for more: Whole Foods and Raw Foods. But if your goal is to lose weight, remember that calories are calories no matter where they come from. If you are only burning 2,000 calories a day, but you are eating 4,000 calories worth of broccoli a day, you will still gain weight.

Personally, I have had 3 episodes of substantial weight loss in my life. The first was when I was 21-years-old and I lost 70 pounds after being overweight most of my young life. The second was after my first 2 pregnancies and my divorce, when I was about 32-years-old and I lost about 60 pounds. And the third, is right now, when I am in the process of losing the 30 extra pounds that I gained in my twin pregnancy and the difficult postpartum year that followed. I have already lost 10 of those pounds and I have another 20 to go. Because I am in a mentally healthy place and I am following a simple program that has worked remarkably well for me twice before, this weight loss is happening fairly easily. I will share the exact details of this program in my next post if you are interested.

The Equation for Muscle Gain
The equation for muscle gain is a bit more complicated than the one for weight loss or gain, but in theory it is also simple. Muscle size increases when a person continually challenges the muscles to deal with higher levels of resistance or weight. This process is known as muscle hypertrophy. Muscle hypertrophy occurs when the fibers of the muscles sustain damage or injury. The body repairs damaged fibers by fusing them, which increases the mass and size of the muscles.

So, in order to gain muscle, first you continually challenge the muscles through weight lifting or exercise, and second you eat enough calories, and particularly enough protein. The exact equation for this varies vastly from person to person, but on average, consuming 20 grams of dietary protein during or immediately after exercise stimulates muscle protein synthesis, and leads to optimal muscle growth. If you want to dive further into this equation, just do a quick search and you will find a ton of resources.

The Equation for Maintaining Fitness
Maintaining fitness requires 1. eating the same amount of calories that you burn each day, and 2. continuing to challenge the muscles that you have built through adequate exercise.

And there you have it, the basic equations for weight loss, weight gain, and maintenance, and muscle building and muscle maintenance. Of course these are simple equations in theory, but in practice these ideas can be very complicated. Still, understanding these basics is the first step to establishing any sort of lasting fitness.

As I mentioned earlier, back when I started my own journey to wellness–about 2 decades ago!–the landscape of social media was very different. It was not like it is today where you have supposed “paths to fitness” constantly pushed in your face from every direction. Today someone will try to sell you a pill, a powder, or a plan every minute of the day and each person will swear they have the answer for you.

But the truth is that there is no magic solution! The solution is to educate yourself on what it actually takes to achieve the fitness that you want, and then figure out what you need to do to make it happen. I’ve never gone down the road of muscle building, although I did get pretty strong when I had a solid yoga practice and I would like to do that again soon. So I can’t teach anyone how to build muscle, etc. However I have lost a lot of weight a few times successfully and I can absolutely share the way that I did it. So that will be coming right up in my next post.

If you have any questions on this topic, please send them to me so that I can answer them in my next post, as well. Also, I am considering doing a third post in this series which would talk about trauma and fitness. Let me know if you would be interested in that as well. xo

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    How to Overcome Fear & Stop Resisting

    “To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness.” —Eckhart Tolle

    Stop resisting the will of the Universe. I’ve said this to myself thousands of times. It is perhaps one of the most powerful tools that has led me to peace of mind.

    In the past four years, I overcame depression, anxiety, and I lost sixty pounds. When you overcome a lifetime of anxiety & depression, a lot of things change. For one thing, you begin to enjoy life. Simple things that you hadn’t noticed before fill your heart with joy—Spring, a cold glass of water on a hot day, a good workout, a kind word, a smile. When you are overcome by the effects of anxiety & depression, you do not have time to notice these simple pleasures. (They are often overshadowed by the negative, irrational thoughts swarming inside of your head.)

    Happiness begets happiness, as I like to say. However, even in my increased state of happiness, I knew that something still wasn’t right. It took me awhile to realize what it was. Only after months of careful self-observation did I realize what was happening.

    A hard day at work = I was disgusted, angry, plagued by head aches.
    A frustrating experience at a car dealership = I was furious.
    An upcoming flight and travel arrangements = I was anxious, worried, sick to my stomach.

    I was continually allowing my mind to make me angry, sick, sad, frustrated, etc. Yet, after each of these experiences I learned some valuable lesson or something really important & meaningful happened as a result.

    Hard days at work always lead me to clarity about how myself and my team could be more efficient.
    The frustrating experience at the car dealership actually prevented me from making a terrible mistake and purchasing the wrong car.
    Recent travel and trips have brought me incredible successes in my personal & professional life.

    Upon observing all of this, it hit me. Even when things seemed terrible, even when I was really upset, eventually the pain of the situation would subside. Moreover, I would come out on the other side wiser, stronger, and grateful. Every thing that happened (happens) to me is a direct result of the will of the Universe (you can call that God, fate, destiny, or any other name you’d like to give it, no matter). Yes, every thing that happens is a direct result of the will of the Universe and an opportunity to learn and grow. In order to live true happiness, I had to stop resisting the will of the Universe. Once I did this, my life changed in incredible (and previously unimaginable) ways. When I stop resisting and simply “go with the flow” I find that I am constantly filled with a deep calmness in my soul. I do not worry or suffer. I simply exist and let all scenarios play themselves out. I understand that even pain is necessary and that ultimately it will carry me to a place of light & peace.

    Fear is Unnecessary

    At the root of every single feeling of discomfort, lies one emotion: fear. Fear is the emotion responsible for all forms of suffering. Sadness, anxiety, worry, rage, hatred, envy, and all other forms of suffering are rooted in fear. However, once you stop resisting the will of the Universe, you will understand that fear and suffering are actually not necessary at all.

    The vast majority of fear and suffering is a result of living in an unreal world and/or allowing negative, irrational thoughts to control our minds. The unreal world is the world of sky rise buildings, electricity, paper money, McDonald’s, television, marketing, vanity surgery, reality TV, etc. The real world is the world of trees, dirt, sun, stars, wind, rain, whole foods, self-love, generosity, family, love, etc. Can you see the difference? Once you remove yourself from the suffocating chains of the unreal world, and begin living in the real world, you will find that most of the fears that you experience are completely unnecessary. The vast majority of anxieties that we suffer from are made-up.

    – fear of judgment
    – fear of failure
    – fear of humiliation
    – fear of public speaking
    – fear of making a mistake
    – fear of travel
    – fear of forgetting something
    – fear of being alone and so on

    Once you realize that these fears are made-up in the unreal world, they can hold no power over you. All of the above are irrational anxieties. None of those things would actually put your life in danger or expose you to any harm. The only place that they can affect you is in your head. But you must remember that you have control over what goes on in your head! You can use cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to end the suffering.

    Eventually, you will realize that true fear might have a place in your life, but that is only when you are truly in danger. Perhaps while being chased by a bear or masked murderer, while falling from a cliff, etc. Yes, in those instances, your fear is justified and it can help you by creating adrenaline, increased strength, quicker reflexes and cognitive ability. But other than those “real” true fear situations, there is really no need for fear and certainly no need for emotional suffering.

    Live Without Resistance or Fear

    Once you learn to stop resisting the will of the Universe and to live without fear, you will experience an entirely new & improved sort of living. You will find that all of the things that you once desired, but were afraid to seek, are actually within your reach. For example, I was emotionally crippled by irrational anxiety for the first half of my life. This made it impossible for me to speak in front of people. I could not ask a question in a class of twenty, let alone get up in front of a group of people to speak. My anxiety over public speaking was so great, that it crippled me. I once experienced a debilitating panic attack at a dinner party of five family friends! But… that is ancient history.

    Now, my former self is hardly recognizable. I have spoken in front of groups of sixty people or more with grace and confidence. I know that my fear is irrational & unnecessary, so I overcome it. Sure, my heart rate may increase, I might sweat a bit—but I do not let it stop me! I remind myself that that the fear is not real and I move forward to success.

    You are entirely capable of achieving the same same sort of success in your own life—personal & professional. Whatever your fear is, you can overcome it.

    “You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you.” —Wayne Dyer

    To allow fear to rule your life, is not to live at all. So stop resisting the will of the Universe and stop allowing fear to rule your life. Begin living, truly living, right now. There is nothing in your way. What is your greatest fear? Can you believe that it is unnecessary? What would you do if you had no fear in your heart at all? How different could your life be?

    The only time you run out of chances is when you stop taking them!

    I am now offering personalized coaching sessions to individuals suffering from anxiety &/or depression. If you are interested in scheduling a session or would like to learn more, please contact me at denabotbyl[@]gmail[.]com for details and rates. Include CBT Session in the subject line.

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