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It’s the Little Things: Creating a Mantra

So far, Spring has been really good to me! I’ve been taking lovely walks in the forest with Matthew & Bella (our dog); spending time chasing my sweet nephew around the park; and taking time to meditate & manifest happiness every day.

It’s also been incredibly busy. I’ve got a lot going on right now. I’m blogging, speaking, coaching, tutoring, and I just launched my 60-Day Spring Fitness Challenge! Phew. With everything going on, it’s been easy for me to feel overwhelmed. I’ve found myself experiencing a lot of of anxiety lately and I even suffered my first panic attack in several years! Not good. Something needed to change.

The other day I came across this quote on Twitter that really spoke to me:

“Take the time to stop and BE the flowers.” —Albert Hoffman

I loved it because it takes the idea of “take time to smell the flowers” one step further. It reminded me that I need to slow down; but it also reminded me that slowing down is not enough. In addition to slowing down, I need to be the change that I wish to see in the world. I spent a few minutes reflecting on that thought. It’s great to have the intention to “slow down, be the flowers, be the change” but the reality is that the craziness of life often gets in the way. When your daily schedule is packed to the gills & you’re racing from one thing to the next, your intention to “slow down” often goes right out the window.

My nephew's first set of wheels!

And that’s when I got the idea to start creating a daily mantra for myself. Mantra is defined as being any sacred word or syllable used as an object of concentration and embodying some aspect of spiritual power. You may be familiar with the mantra: Om. We often hear people repeating the Om mantra during meditation or yoga. A mantra can be anything. It is simply a sound, a word, or a few words that serve as a reminder of your intention.

I use mantras during meditation. When I am meditating I use the word Buddha to help me focus on my breathing. In my head, I say Bu on the inhale and ddha on the exhale. Using a mantra is one of the best ways to focus. It gives your mind a focal point so that it does not drift in a million different directions like it wants to.

Since my anxiety was getting out of hand and my schedule showed no signs of slowing, I decided to begin using a daily mantra to focus & restore balance to my soul. I have been using my mantra for a couple of days now and the results have been astounding! On the day that I created my mantra, shortly after I woke up I sat down to meditate for a few minutes. I cleared my mind and attempted to manifest my mantra for the day. And then it came to me like a flash of lightning: Focus on peace.

My favourite spot in the forest -- the magick pond

A large part of what has been causing my recent anxiety has been a lack of peace—lack of peace in the world, lack of peace among my colleagues/friends, lack of peace everywhere. It was weighing me down. In my meditation, I realized that if I want to see peace around me, then I need to BE PEACE within me. I remembered that our lives move in the direction of our most dominant thoughts. Focus on peace was born.

“There is no way to peace. Peace is the way.” —Unknown

Every time that I feel myself becoming overwhelmed, I close my eyes and repeat my mantra to myself: Focus on peace. It reminds me that I can not control what people are doing around me. I can not control the state of the world. But I can absolutely control what goes on in my mind, my heart, my soul. I choose peace. My mantra serves as a reminder of this. Since creating my mantra, I have not felt a sense of overwhelm. If I begin to feel anxious I repeat my mantra & my peace is restored. I will carry this mantra with me until I am ready for a new one.

Me, Matthew, & Baby Brian

I hope that you will create your own mantra. Sit down for a few moments and think about what you need to be reminded of and then make it your personal mantra. Whenever you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed or losing focus, repeat your mantra to yourself.

This post is also about slowing down & taking time to appreciate the little things in life. It contains a few pictures from the past month of my life taken with a disposable camera. It brings me great joy to look at these photographs and reflect upon all of the little things that make my life exquisitely beautiful. I hope that you will enjoy these snapshots as much as I do. 🙂

What are the little things that bring joy to your life?

In love & light,
Dena

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    3 Super Simple Ways to Reduce Stress, Improve Health, & Live Happy

    Want to know how you can cut your stress in half?

    How about if there were two things you could change that would drastically alter your stress levels for the rest of your life?

    Now I bet you really want to know, right?

    What if I told you that doing these simple things will not only decrease your stress levels, but will also make you happier and decrease your risk of heart attack, ulcers, & high blood pressure?

    Ready for this? Four words: Stop Rushing, Take Vacation.

    Yes, that’s it. It’s really quite simple, but the results that you will see if you make these changes will amaze you.

    The Problems
    So why is rushing & a lack of vacation such a huge problem? Well, rushing every now and then wouldn’t really be such a problem. But in today’s society, the reality is that we don’t just rush every now and then. We rush all of the time.

    We are constantly hurrying from one thing to the next, multitasking, with our minds in five different places at once. We browse the Web in multiple Windows. We watch television while surfing the Web. We talk on our house phones while texting on our cell phones/iPhones/Blackberrys. While we’re driving to work, we’re planning our days, who we’ll see at each meeting, and what we’re having for dinner. While we’re eating dinner, we’re checking our email, responding to emails, and thinking about what’s on TV that night. While we’re watching TV that night, we’re thinking about everything we’ve got to do tomorrow. You get the picture…

    The Facts
    The United States is one of (if not the) most stressful, fast-paced, uptight societies in existence. The “American way” of rush, rush, rush has huge negative implications. And sadly, the rest of the world is beginning to follow suit. It’s not a good path to be on.

    Here are some statistics about minimum vacation days around the world:

    Austria — 35 days
    Brazil — 30 days
    Finland — 35 days
    Sweden — 32 days
    Ukraine — 24 days
    United States — 7 days
    (Source: http://nationmaster.com)

    7 days? Really? WTF United States!?!?!?

    Every year Expedia.com launches an intense Vacation Deprivation survey to gather the facts & the effects of American Vacation Deprivation.

    Check out these stats:

    Notice that despite earning the least amount of annual vacation days, Americans will still leave an average of 3 days unused! This goes to show that so many Americans don’t even use the little vacation time that they get! Not good.

    Why is Vacation So Important?
    Let’s talk about mental health.

    • 34% of Americans say they come back from vacation feeling better about their jobs and are even more productive.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling rested and rejuvenated after vacation.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling reconnected with family after vacation.

    It’s no big secret that work can be stressful. Even if you absolutely adore your career, you still have the occasional (or frequent) challenging day. If you refuse to take a breather every now & then, you are putting your mental health and your relationships at risk.

    Obesity, heart disease, high blood pressure, ulcers, anxiety, depression, and so on are all symptoms of stress. Stress causes cortisol to build up in your body, the cortisol is then stored as dangerous fat. In addition to all of the physical symptoms of stress, there is the issue of rushing around. When you are rushing nonstop from place to place, it’s easy to stop for fast-food because you don’t make the time to cook nutritious meals for yourself and your family.

    If you look at the rates of obesity around the globe, you probably won’t be shocked to see where the United States fits in.

    That’s right, numero uno. Not a good place to be in this case. Americans are the most obese individuals in the world. A sad fact to note considering that we are also some of the richest people, with some of the most vast & diverse availability to nutritious & wholesome food. (Please watch Food, Inc. for more information on this topic.)

    Turning the Tide
    The facts are straightforward. Constant rushing & vacation deprivation will cause you harm. Here are 3 super simple ways that you can combat these harmful habits.

    1. Practice efficient time management. Keep a calendar and don’t overbook yourself, no exceptions. We all have a ton of stuff that we want to get done, but we have to prioritize. Choose the tasks that mean the most to you and will provide you with the best ROI (return on investment). Don’t commit to anything that doesn’t benefit you, your career, your family, or your friends in a big way. Your time is precious and you should treat it as such.

    2. Use your vacation time, all of it. No matter how many days that your company allots for vacation, make sure and use it. If your company tends to be on the real stingy side with vacation, don’t be afraid to set a confidential meeting with your HR director to point out the importance of sufficient vacation time. Sufficient vacation time is mutually beneficial — you will feel better and thereby, your performance will improve. Win – Win!

    Likewise, if you work for yourself, make sure to pencil in enough time for R & R.

    3. Breathe. When you are rushing, you are most likely breathing shallow. Shallow breathing causes rapid heart rate & conversely, deep breathing causes a slower heart rate. Take time to observe your breathing throughout the day. If you find yourself shallow breathing, take a deep breath in through your nostrils. Let the air flow through your chest & deep into the pit of your stomach. Allow your stomach to expand, like a balloon, as it fills with air. Then slowly exhale through your nose and expel all of the air from your body. Breathe in deeply again, allowing the air to fill your stomach as before. Each time you inhale, take in the positive energy & light around you. Let it fill & calm your soul. Each time you exhale, push out your negative energy & fear. Continue to do this until you feel calm.

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    Slow down, be in the now.

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  1. I find myself speeding through my day as well. I need to slow down.. The little things that bring a smile to my face is watching my son explore and play. He is 18 months old and he does the cutest things he makes me laugh!!

    1. @ Michelle – Your little boy is so sweet! I love when your share photographs of him — such a precious angel. I am sure that he brings immense joy to your life. It is so beautiful watching you unfold as a mother. You are a special person with a most beautiful soul. I am always grateful for your friendship.

      @ Dawn – If you are unable to clarify your thoughts and determine where you need to focus, it is likely because you are unable to meditate. I truly believe that if you can not meditate, even for just 3 minutes — you will not be able to think clearly or focus. The first step is taking just three minutes to meditate. All you need to do is stop what you are doing & close your eyes. The key to meditation is to quiet the mind. The key to quieting the mind is to focus on your breathing.

      Since you are clearly over-thinking, you are most likely breathing shallow. Shallow breathing causes rapid heart rate & conversely, deep breathing causes a slower heart rate. Take a deep breath in through your nostrils. Let the air flow through your chest & deep into the pit of your stomach. Allow your stomach to expand, like a balloon, as it fills with air. Then slowly exhale through your nose and expel all of the air from your body. Breathe in deeply again, allowing the air to fill your stomach as before. Each time you inhale, take in the positive energy & light around you. Let it fill & calm your soul. Each time you exhale, push out your negative energy & fear. Continue to do this until you feel calm.

      Once you have done this ten times, you will feel your heart rate slow. As you are focused on your breathing, you will notice that all of the noise in your head finally becomes quiet. Now you are in a position to focus on your true essence. When your mind is in this quiet space focus intensely on the darkness behind your closed eyes. Your true spirit will speak to you. It will tell you where you need to place your focus. When you have that knowledge, create your mantra! Make it short, simple, & powerful. I recommend no more than two or three words.

      Let me know if this works!

  2. I have been wanting to do this for sooo long. One of my problems that has made it so difficult is my ability to over think things. I just can’t seem to simplify my desires enough to come up with something that is acturate to what I need.

    Can you offer a suggestion on how to simply clarify my thoughts to determine where it is I truely need to focus, so I can at least start there…

    xoxox Perfect timing as usual btw.

  3. Good morning one and all. This was an excellent blog post and a good reminder of how important it is for us all to slow down and smell the coffee or roses or whatever it is that we should be focusing on. I work full time, do online school at night, attempt to corral two teenagers, am married, attend church, bowl….. The list is endless. I guess you could say I am very busy all the time. I can relate to needing to find peace in the midst of the storm. I am able to find peace when I am driving out to Kiawah every day and I turn off the radio and take time to pray. The JOY of the Lord IS my strength. I guess we all have faith in something or someone. The important thing is that we look within ourselves and that we are aware for our need for peace and tranquility. I have heard that stress kills. Slowing down and reducing the stressors in our life is very important. I hope everyone has a very nice April Fools day and a happy Friday. Hugs to all

  4. I love the idea of having a mantra! I am not sure what mine would be… I think it changes from week to week.

    I like the idea of being flowers, too. Something so beautiful and alive, yet subject to death and dying, as well.

    Cherry blossoms are common in Japanese tattooing (and culture / art history, as well) as a symbol for short-lived beauty. This makes sense from a botanical standpoint, but it’s not difficult to see why someone who lost their child might be drawn to this symbol, too.

    Good luck on all of your engagements. I am sure you will rock all of them!

  5. @ James – Thank you so much for sharing. Your strength, devotion, & compassion are an inspiration to all. You manage to keep your life centered around the important things and for that I am truly grateful to know you. Keep it up & hugs back to you! 🙂

    @ Kristin – I love the image of the Japanese cherry blossoms. There is something so simple & beautiful to them — but also a deep, hidden strength. Reminds me of you. Love you! xoxoxo

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