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A Year of Magical Thinking

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Stay close to nature’s heart, and break clear away once in awhile, and climb a mountain, or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean. –John Muir

It amazes me how quickly and intensely my life changes when I set my mind to positivity and health. When the new year started, I shifted my focus inward. I had been suffering — physically, emotionally, and spiritually — and when I shifted my focus inward, it became clear why I was suffering. Change was necessary. So I changed my diet; started exercising; stopped tolerating negative behavior from others; and spent more time on my self and my happiness. Within days, my world began to shift for the better.

It is not entirely easy. With change comes challenge. As I rid my body & soul of toxins & negativity, there is a cleansing that occurs, a detoxification. It can be uncomfortable but it is necessary for positive change and the benefits appear quickly.

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One of the most important books that I have ever read is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I read it in 2007 and it stays with me to this day. I lent my original copy to a friend and she never returned it. She told me recently that she just couldn’t, that she had begun to live by it and couldn’t part with it. I understood and ordered a new copy for myself today.

The book is wisdom. It contains the most simple and true advice that I’ve ever come across. When I put it into practice, my life literally changes shape. It alters my thoughts. When I live by the four agreements (rules) I am happy and healthy. Here are the four agreements with a brief summary (from the book) of each one.

1. Be Impeccable with Your Word — Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally — Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions — Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best — Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

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I had forgotten about the four agreements. I drifted away from them. Life got in the way and a million other thoughts and focuses took their place. But now, in shifting my focus inward once again, I remember those four agreements and the wisdom that guided my life once before. I am happy that I have found my way back. I am going to dedicate this year to keeping these four agreements close to my heart and in the front of my mind.

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I took these photographs the other morning when I let Bella out for her morning potty run. It’s been so cold that I don’t typically go out with her. But on this morning, I was captivated. The previous night it had rained hard. Soon-after the temperature plummeted and the rain froze to everything forming beautiful ice crystals. When I let her out, the morning sun was shining through the rain drop crystals and it took my breath away. I threw on boots and ventured out with my camera. It was exactly the reminder that I needed. My other goal for the year is to get close to nature. It’s not easy during the long, cold winter — but sometimes the Universe throws me a magical morning like this one and it leaves me in awe and wonder.

  • Focus inward.
  • Practice the four agreements.
  • Stay close to nature.

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Happy Monday, friends. xo

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    3 Super Simple Ways to Reduce Stress, Improve Health, & Live Happy

    Want to know how you can cut your stress in half?

    How about if there were two things you could change that would drastically alter your stress levels for the rest of your life?

    Now I bet you really want to know, right?

    What if I told you that doing these simple things will not only decrease your stress levels, but will also make you happier and decrease your risk of heart attack, ulcers, & high blood pressure?

    Ready for this? Four words: Stop Rushing, Take Vacation.

    Yes, that’s it. It’s really quite simple, but the results that you will see if you make these changes will amaze you.

    The Problems
    So why is rushing & a lack of vacation such a huge problem? Well, rushing every now and then wouldn’t really be such a problem. But in today’s society, the reality is that we don’t just rush every now and then. We rush all of the time.

    We are constantly hurrying from one thing to the next, multitasking, with our minds in five different places at once. We browse the Web in multiple Windows. We watch television while surfing the Web. We talk on our house phones while texting on our cell phones/iPhones/Blackberrys. While we’re driving to work, we’re planning our days, who we’ll see at each meeting, and what we’re having for dinner. While we’re eating dinner, we’re checking our email, responding to emails, and thinking about what’s on TV that night. While we’re watching TV that night, we’re thinking about everything we’ve got to do tomorrow. You get the picture…

    The Facts
    The United States is one of (if not the) most stressful, fast-paced, uptight societies in existence. The “American way” of rush, rush, rush has huge negative implications. And sadly, the rest of the world is beginning to follow suit. It’s not a good path to be on.

    Here are some statistics about minimum vacation days around the world:

    Austria — 35 days
    Brazil — 30 days
    Finland — 35 days
    Sweden — 32 days
    Ukraine — 24 days
    United States — 7 days
    (Source: http://nationmaster.com)

    7 days? Really? WTF United States!?!?!?

    Every year Expedia.com launches an intense Vacation Deprivation survey to gather the facts & the effects of American Vacation Deprivation.

    Check out these stats:

    Notice that despite earning the least amount of annual vacation days, Americans will still leave an average of 3 days unused! This goes to show that so many Americans don’t even use the little vacation time that they get! Not good.

    Why is Vacation So Important?
    Let’s talk about mental health.

    • 34% of Americans say they come back from vacation feeling better about their jobs and are even more productive.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling rested and rejuvenated after vacation.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling reconnected with family after vacation.

    It’s no big secret that work can be stressful. Even if you absolutely adore your career, you still have the occasional (or frequent) challenging day. If you refuse to take a breather every now & then, you are putting your mental health and your relationships at risk.

    Obesity, heart disease, high blood pressure, ulcers, anxiety, depression, and so on are all symptoms of stress. Stress causes cortisol to build up in your body, the cortisol is then stored as dangerous fat. In addition to all of the physical symptoms of stress, there is the issue of rushing around. When you are rushing nonstop from place to place, it’s easy to stop for fast-food because you don’t make the time to cook nutritious meals for yourself and your family.

    If you look at the rates of obesity around the globe, you probably won’t be shocked to see where the United States fits in.

    That’s right, numero uno. Not a good place to be in this case. Americans are the most obese individuals in the world. A sad fact to note considering that we are also some of the richest people, with some of the most vast & diverse availability to nutritious & wholesome food. (Please watch Food, Inc. for more information on this topic.)

    Turning the Tide
    The facts are straightforward. Constant rushing & vacation deprivation will cause you harm. Here are 3 super simple ways that you can combat these harmful habits.

    1. Practice efficient time management. Keep a calendar and don’t overbook yourself, no exceptions. We all have a ton of stuff that we want to get done, but we have to prioritize. Choose the tasks that mean the most to you and will provide you with the best ROI (return on investment). Don’t commit to anything that doesn’t benefit you, your career, your family, or your friends in a big way. Your time is precious and you should treat it as such.

    2. Use your vacation time, all of it. No matter how many days that your company allots for vacation, make sure and use it. If your company tends to be on the real stingy side with vacation, don’t be afraid to set a confidential meeting with your HR director to point out the importance of sufficient vacation time. Sufficient vacation time is mutually beneficial — you will feel better and thereby, your performance will improve. Win – Win!

    Likewise, if you work for yourself, make sure to pencil in enough time for R & R.

    3. Breathe. When you are rushing, you are most likely breathing shallow. Shallow breathing causes rapid heart rate & conversely, deep breathing causes a slower heart rate. Take time to observe your breathing throughout the day. If you find yourself shallow breathing, take a deep breath in through your nostrils. Let the air flow through your chest & deep into the pit of your stomach. Allow your stomach to expand, like a balloon, as it fills with air. Then slowly exhale through your nose and expel all of the air from your body. Breathe in deeply again, allowing the air to fill your stomach as before. Each time you inhale, take in the positive energy & light around you. Let it fill & calm your soul. Each time you exhale, push out your negative energy & fear. Continue to do this until you feel calm.

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    Slow down, be in the now.

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  1. I definitely have to check out this book! My book is The Secret and like you, I’ll find myself drifting and then pick up this book and everything just works out again.

    1. I can’t believe that I never read The Secret. I know so many people that swear by it. You have to check out TFA… it’s really amazing. 🙂

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