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SWAN Saturday: Stop Making Excuses

SWAN (Stop Wasting Away Now) Saturday is a weekly dose of inspiration from me to you. Each week I will make a short video post about something on my mind. The posts will be unscripted & shot straight from my soul. Stop wasting away now, life’s too short!

(If you can’t see the video, click here.)

This week I want to talk about making excuses because for the past six months, I’ve been doing just that. For the past six months, I’ve been wanting to make a video post, but it just hasn’t happened. Why? Because I keep making excuses!

Every time I am ready to record a post or even post a recorded post, I come up with some awful excuse and refuse to move forward. I’ve delete every post thus far because they’re “not perfect”. I tell myself that the post is not relevant or too long or that I look like an idiot or any number of other excuses.

Have you ever done this to yourself? Have you ever allowed fear or insecurity to keep you from doing something that you really wanted to? I sure have. I’m ready to stop, starting right now.

Lately I’ve made several big decisions in my personal and professional life. My courage has inspired me to stop making excuses. The truth is that there is no reason to allow fear to rule your life. There is no reason to make excuses if there is something that you really want to do. I am done making excuses about why I should not share a video post! I will not allow insecurity to run my life.

So what have you been putting off? What have you been making excuses about? Do you want to seek out a new relationship? Quit your job? Lose weight? Today I am giving you permission to stop. Stop wasting away now! Stop making excuses and just do it.

If you want to go to Costa Rica and volunteer on a sustainable farm — then do it! Book the flight, make the arrangements, take the time and go. Whatever is holding you back, push it out of your way, let go, and move forward. Recognize that there is no reason to be afraid. Fear is unnecessary (read more) and most of the time it is completely irrational. Do not let irrational fear be the thing that stops you from creating the life of your dreams.

Stop worrying about being judged. Stop holding yourself back because that’s what society is telling you to do. Anything that you can dream up, you can accomplish! Define your goals. Let go of your fear. Take a giant step and push the button. In my case, it’s going to be hitting the publish button when I share this post with you!

xo,
D.

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    My Journey to Financial Freedom | Part 2: The Climb

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    Three years ago, I was nearly $60,000 in debt. I had a Bachelor’s degree that didn’t appear to be worth its weight in salt and a job that couldn’t cover a fraction of my monthly bills. I was terrified.

    Today, I am closer to complete financial freedom than I ever dreamed possible. Last week, I paid off my last remaining credit card balance. This two-part post is a celebration of this incredible milestone in my journey.

    In part one, I explained how I got to that terrible place. In part two, I will explain how I’m getting out of it (and how you can do it, too).

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    1. Change the way you think about spending money. For most of my life, I believed that money was made to be spent. I believed that I *deserved* to spend every dollar that I earned on some material thing that would “make me happy.” I coveted material possessions—clothes, jewelry, electronics, cars. What I realize now is that money is not meant to be spent. You only need to earn enough money to survive. You should have enough money to buy only what you need. There is no need for excess.

    “You’re not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank. You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fuc*ing khakis.” (Fight Club)

    This shift in mindset is hard to adjust to at first. You may not like the reactions that you receive from people. Believe me, I’ve been called cheap a few times, but I pay no mind to it. I would choose cheap over poor any day.

    2. Keep a budget. I highly recommend using Mint.com. I started using it in September and it has been one of the most transformational and useful tools throughout my journey to financial freedom. It allows you to sync up all of your accounts (loans, checking, savings, etc.) in one place. Then it keeps track of every transaction that you make and sorts/organizes all of the data for you. It allows you to track your spending over time and by category. It gives you incredible perspective and insight about where your money goes each month/year. It has been a truly eye-opening experience for me.

    If you’re unwilling to try Mint, you can keep a budget on a spread sheet or even by hand. However, the important thing is to be completely conscious about where every dollar you spend is going.

    3. Use a debit card. To reap the full Mint.com experience you should use a debit card for every purchase you make. Using the debit card will automatically flag each transaction you make into the appropriate category. So if you go to Shoprite, it will get marked as groceries. If you go to Home Depot it will get marked as home. If you stop at the gas station it will get marked as automobile, and so on.

    I use my debit card (linked to my checking account) for almost every single transaction that I make. I also have all of my monthly bills (like my auto insurance, utilities, and gym membership) automatically debited from the same checking account each month. It makes keeping track of my spending that much easier. Plus, I do not like dealing with cash. The debit card is quick, easy, and is accepted almost everywhere now.

    Whether or not you use Mint.com it is a good idea to use a debit card simply because you can review all of your purchases and purchase amounts on your monthly statement. Trying to keep track of receipts is a hassle that I don’t have time for.

    4. Pay off credit cards and cut them up. Paying off my credit cards was my first priority. For awhile I tried “credit card surfing.” Let me just tell you from experience, it’s overrated and it really doesn’t work. The idea is that you surf from credit card to credit card by transferring balances. A lot of companies will give you 0% APR for 6 months if you transfer your balances over to them. After the 6 months, you “surf” to a new card with another promotional rate.

    The problem with this tactic is that it gets messy quickly, it becomes difficult to keep up with, and if you lose track you will end up getting burned by high APRs, finance fees, cancellation fees, etc. Also, it probably doesn’t look great on your credit report if you’re opening up a new card every 6 months or so.

    It is much safer and wiser to just stop using credit cards! My theory is simple and has taken me very far: If you can not afford to buy it, then you can not afford it. Period. It is simple logic.

    5. Eat in. This is one of the easiest changes to make, but it also comes with an enormous, positive impact. When I started closely tracking my spending habits, I was shocked to see how much I was spending on eating out. A meal at a decent restaurant goes for about $25 per person. If you eat out twice a week, that is $3,120 a year. If you grab lunch out during the work week, it’s about $8 a day. That’s $2,080 a year. Put those together and you could be spending $5,200 a year or more on dining out! That is outrageous and completely unnecessary.

    Since I started eating in and packing lunches, I’ve taken my monthly food spending from $500 down to $200 or less! Over time, that means enormous savings. Check out 5dollardinners.com for some awesome, inexpensive recipes. I love it! Also, investing in a crock pot was one of the wisest decisions I ever made—chili, sausage & peppers, and goulash will be your new (delicious, cheap) best friends. (Here are some more tips for eating healthy & mindfully.)

    6. Direct deposit money into savings every month. This is my final—and perhaps most important—tip. When I began my journey to financial freedom, I opened a savings account with ING Direct. It is an easy-to-use online savings account and it gives you interest on the money that you save. It also allows you to set up easy direct deposits.

    I started out small, depositing $50 a month into my savings. As I learned to keep my budget tighter and tighter, I increased the amount that I put into my savings each month. Currently, I am putting away $500+ per month and hope to get closer to $1,000 per month in the very near future.

    When you direct deposit the funds, it comes out automatically. It is painless because you don’t have to do a thing. Because it’s automatic, after awhile you don’t even notice that it’s missing. (I remember reading that on another blog several months ago and thinking, “Are you out of your mind?! I’m not going to miss it? Yea right!”) But I can honestly say that after a few months, you adjust to the missing money. You truly do not miss it once it becomes normal for that amount to be deposited into savings automatically each month.

    It has been one of the best decisions that I’ve made and because I’ve worked so hard to get to this place—I don’t touch that money! I am keeping it there for a rainy day or to pay off my student loans someday in one fell swoop.

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    As I stated at the start of this post, three years ago I was almost $60,000 in debt; I was twenty-three years old; and I was scared to death. Today, I have my finances under control! I am on the road to financial freedom and you can get here, too. Truly, it is not as hard as it seems. With common sense and a bit of dedication, it will happen. Paying off my last credit card balance was like taking chains off of my wrists for the first time in seven years. The feeling was completely priceless. If I can do it, anybody can.

    So, what are your financial goals? Have you ever been in financial prison? How did you free yourself? If you’re still there, what are you going to do to break free?

11 Comments

  1. Hey Dena I loved your video post I realize that I make excuses about trying to find a less stressful job or a bigger home because I am too comfortable and am afraid…

    1. @ Michelle – Thank you so much for sharing, love! Let go of the fear. Contentment (comfort) does not mean happiness! Sometimes the greatest things in life require a bit of risk.

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  4. This is a somewhat ridiculous fear. Ridiculous because fear is to be faced headon, like a bull, I pass my days waving my red shirt for them to come at me so as to face them. But when it comes to writing; that which is of my very blood and guts, I’ve still yet to send it to publishers, competitions, newspapers or literary magazines.
    A part of says…wait, you are not ready yet. Keep sculpting, it inside of you until it is ready. Another, that I’m not yet able to produce anything of actual form (my longer pieces are rare and unnatural)..in fact, I sieze up and all my words become forced and artificial when I set about actually writing something of a greater scale..even short stories.
    What is wasting time? How can we define what time is wasted and what is waiting, building, crafting?

    1. @ Jass – First, thank you for being here & for sharing your fear. It means so much to me to have other people share with me, I feel much less alone. Second, to address this fear — being a “writer/poet” for most of my life, I’ve always been surrounded by other writers. What I have found is that among writers, your fear is common. And it is not ever the fear of sending the work to a publisher, but rather the fear is of something else, something very specific: rejection.

      As a writer who has sent out many a piece to be published, I know that the worst part is not the assembly of the piece, or even the waiting after the piece has gone out, but rather it is the cold, dark rejection. The “thank you but we can not use your piece at this time.” The beauty of this fear is that it is easily overcome. After the pinch of a couple rejections you will either overcome the fear or give up on making submissions and choose to write simply for yourself.

      I’ve seen your work, Jass, and it is lovely beyond anything I could describe here. Talking about sculpting and the size and the seizing up are all excuses. My advice is to stop making them, and send something out. Your work is shining and the rest of the world deserves to see it. And you deserve to put it out there in all its glory.

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  6. Thanks Dena, I really enjoy all your posts so far, and looking forward to more
    Keep up the good (inspiring) work!
    Mrs. H

    1. @ Mrs. H – Thank you so much for stopping by & for the wonderful, positive feedback! You are so sweet. Have a wonderful weekend & come visit again soon. XO

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