
On a recent flight, I began reading Seth Godin’s Tribes
. On the return flight, I finished it. It was my introduction to Seth Godin—no idea why I hadn’t found him sooner!—and what an introduction it was. The book blew me away. It is the best book on leadership and change management that I’ve ever read. While the content is sure to inspire change of the greatest sort within any organization—from business to church, non-profit to learning institution—it is also of incredible value to individuals.
In this post I want to share some of my favourite pieces from Tribes
as well as some of my own insights.
Whether you want to create positive change in the world, in the workplace, or simply in your own, I recommend that you read the book for yourself. It is a relatively easy read, spliced up into short, digestible chapters. I got through it in a few hours. But it is absolutely packed with revolutionary ideas, suggestions, and real-life examples of people making a difference and leading tribes in today’s world.
Many people are starting to realize that they work a lot and that working on stuff they believe in (and making things happen) is much more satisfying then just getting a paycheck and waiting to get fired (or die).
I’ve begun to think of my generation as the Fight Club
generation. Tyler Durden said it best, “We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.” I think Tyler and Seth’s sentiments are one and the same. Our parents (or maybe you) were raised to believe that you needed to grow up, go to school, get a job, and stay there. Work hard, save money, vacation once a year, and retire as soon as possible.
Well, the Fight Club
generation doesn’t want to hear that nonsense. We want gratification now. We don’t want to spend 40 hours a week miserable just so that we can collect a paycheck twice a month. We don’t want to spend half a lifetime at a job that we hate just so we can get fired or die one day! We believe that we can be happy now. We can pursue our passions, make a difference in the world, live out our dreams, and be successful all at once. And… we are right. We can do it. There are people doing it every single day. I love Tribes
because it tells the stories of those people and more importantly, how they got there and how we can do it, too.
Somewhere along the way, perhaps when twenty thousand Ford workers lost their jobs in one day, or when it became clear that soft drink companies were losing all their growth to upstarts, the factory advantage began to fade.
The reason why the “school-job-suffer-retire” model worked for so long was because it was safe, it was comfortable. Human beings like to feel safe. It feels good to know that you will get a check once every couple weeks. It feels safe to know that you can walk into the office every morning and the lights will turn on and the computer will turn on. The peace of mind in trading your hours for dollars seems worth it when you have to put food on a table and a roof over someone’s head. But, guess what, that model isn’t really proving to be so safe after all.
The recent tanking of the economy has really shaken things up. People are losing their jobs at rapid rates, unemployment is way up. Ethics have been violated, corruption runs rampant, and people don’t feel safe anymore. We want to take matters into our own hands. We want to create the lives of our dreams and be completely independent. We are doing it every day.
In unstable times, growth comes from leaders who create change and engage their organizations, instead of from mangers who push their employees to do more for less.
Now, more than ever, each of us has an opportunity obligation to become a leader, to create change, and to make a positive difference. The ever-evolving world of social media and the Web—Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Wikipedia, Google—give us instant access to an unthinkable quantity of information and resources. When we learn how to leverage those resources we can become unstoppable. When we teach others to leverage those resources our tribes can become unstoppable. It is a great time to be a leader, and it is also the right time.
Leadership is scarce because few people are willing to go through the discomfort required to lead. This scarcity makes leadership valuable. It’s uncomfortable to propose an idea that might fail. If you’re not uncomfortable in your work as a leader, it’s almost certain you’re not reaching your potential as a leader.
Change = pain. If there is anything that I have learned over the past three years, it is this. Human beings are creatures of habit. When asked why things are done a certain way, most people will always respond the same way: “Because that’s the way we’ve always done it.” It is safe, it is comfortable. Our profits may be plummeting, our staff may be miserable, our customers may be disgusted—but this is the way we’ve always done it! Don’t try to mess with our traditions! Right? Wrong!
Success takes dedication, hard work, persistence, and change. Dedication, hard work, and persistence can be painful. Some people are cut out for it and some people aren’t. The people that are, are the leaders. Being a leader is not comfortable and it’s not supposed to be. Being a leader takes character.
Believe it or not, anyone can do it. “No one is born charismatic. It’s a choice, not a gift” (Tribes
).
Change almost never fails because it’s too early. It almost always fails because it’s too late.
The time for change is now, my friends. If not now, when? There has never been a time where the need for positive change was more urgent. If you do not realize that this moment is all you have, then you do not have anything. This is it. After this moment, nothing is promised—not tomorrow, not next week, not your 81st birthday. You have this moment and you alone get to decide what you do with it. Yes, you can surf Facebook for a few more hours and stalk out your ex-boyfriend’s life for awhile more. You can also sit on the couch with a six-pack and watch The Jersey Shore marathon on MTV. …But if you asked me, I’d tell you that you’ve got more important things to do. Whether you’ve been waiting to pitch a great idea to your boss, waiting to take a proactive approach to your health, or waiting to embark on that 6 month “vagablogging” journey; stop waiting!
There is really nothing in your way. There are no problems and no obstacles. Any anxiety that you might have stems from your past or your future; but your past and your future are not real! The only thing that is real is this moment, right now. The past and the future are in your head. No matter what you think is standing in your way, you can find a way around it. If you can’t get on the next flight to Melbourne (to start your career as a kangaroo-catcher) then sit down and figure out how you are going to make it happen. Right now.
I’m frequently asked about getting credit. People want to know how to be sure they get credit for an idea, especially when they have a boss who wants to steal it. Or they want to know how to be sure to give me credit for an idea in a book or a blog post of their own.
Real leaders don’t care.
If it’s about your mission, about spreading faith, about seeing something happen, not only do you not care about credit, you actually want other people to take credit.
There’s no record of Martin Luther King, Jr., or Gandhi whining about credit. Credit isn’t the point. Change is.
Stop worrying about the obstacles and start taking action. Stop worrying about who is going to get credit and start making a difference.
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What I loved most about Tribes
is that it left me feeling like anything and everything is possible. The book is full of stories about ordinary people who did (and do) extraordinary things every single day. These people don’t let fear stop them. They become leaders and they create & inspire change. Every person is capable of this. You are capable of this! What do you want to do? Are you ready to become a leader? I say yes. Yes you are!
Dena,
I’ll say it again… you are so brave for posting your pictures. And you are beautiful! I might have to get brave myself and post my pictures in the forums. Even though I’m more like 50 lbs from where I want to be, I know the support and seeing the change for myself in coming weeks will help keep me on track.
I love the idea of doing meditation, stretching, and light activity in the morning too. I have a hard time getting up, but it’s a much better way to start your day!
@ Stephanie – Thank you so much, love! You are so sweet. I was terrified this morning at 6:59 a.m. just a minute before the post went live. But then I remembered my purpose. If I can inspire just one person with this journey then I will have succeeded!
Hope to see your pictures in the forum! Be brave! Be fearless! Much love. XO
@ Brad – Another 3.4 pounds?! That’s awesome! I am so proud of you. Thank you so much for inspiring me to post these pictures. I never would have done it without you motivating me. 🙂
@ Lou – Woo hoo. Glad to hear that the challenge has moved you to push just a little bit harder. You are an inspiration for all of us. Thanks for the words of encouragement. It means a lot! 😉
Let’s do it Dena!! This is gonna rock!
I just weighed in and lost another 3.4 pounds since last week. Woo hoo!!
My goals this week are:
-Drink more water!
-Drink less diet soda.
-Add Kenpo X or some form of cardio to my P90X muscle workouts.
-Focus on sodium intake.
-Eat 5 small meals daily.
Great start and just wonderful incentives for all of is by posting your photos! Rooting for you and I went a little harder at the gym this morning thinking about the Challenge.
I forgot to post my mini-goals for this week. Here they are!
1) Do strength training and core work 3 times this week in addition to my running.
2) Eat at least 3 servings of fruits & veggies each day
3) Spend 15-30 minutes playing outside with my dogs each day after work. This will help me unwind and let go of my work stress so I can focus on other things.
I also forgot to say I love the Lion and the gazelle quote too. I’ve used it when referring to paying off debt. While in debt the person in debt is the gazelle and the creditor is the Lion. If you want to get away from the lion you better damn sure be running! LOL
This is such an amazing, amazing post, Dena!! I love that your goals are so specific and realistic (i.e. you’re not trying to lose 5 lbs. a week). I have seen a lot of my friends embark on fitness challenges with goals that are simply too lofty … and as you mentioned, why torture ourselves or set ourselves up for failure?
I am more than confident than your 8 lb. weight loss goal is realistic and perfectly attainable. Who knows, you might even surprise yourself and lose more! Of course as your body composition changes, that becomes so much more satisfying than the weight difference (this is what I find anyway; my weight rarely fluctuates very much, I experience more compositional changes.)
All my love. I will be rooting for you every step of the way!
(As someone who is 8 days “off” of her training schedule due to vomiting/coughing her brains out, I am very envious of you right now. I wish that I could move for longer than 2 minutes without sitting down and hacking up a glass of phlegm. :/ )
@ Kristin – Thank you so much! I was so nervous about making this post — my first set of accountability pictures. Yikes. 😉 But it’s been such a relief & I know that is inspiring positive change in others. I’ve received really positive response in comments & private messages.
I am so proud of myself & it’s just going to get better from here. I am so grateful for your support. I hope you get well soon, love! XO
This is fantastic! All helping each other with the support to achieve our goals 🙂
I am going to join in from the blog and not the forum if that is ok? (I don’t know how to use a forum) :S
Goodluck everyone!! 🙂
p.s Dena you look pretty great as it is so I’m more than confident in you!! 🙂
@ Mint – So glad that you are joining in the challenge. The forums are pretty easier to figure out once you log in. Click on any of the topic areas to join in the chat. If you need help with anything else, shoot me an email!
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement! I’m so excited. 🙂