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Review: Penelope & 3 Tips to Build Confidence

My return flight from Columbus to Newark is delayed 4 hours. Lucky for me I have my laptop & the Columbus airport has free wireless. MacBook + Wireless + Netflix on Demand = a very happy Dena. 😉

I decided to watch Penelope because I’ve been meaning to watch it for awhile & I am so glad that I did.

Cristina Ricci is one of my favourite actresses. I didn’t quite know what to expect—was it a children’s movie? But after watching it, I can say that I was most pleasantly surprised. While it was admittedly somewhat corny, the cinematography was beautiful & the film’s message was priceless. I highly recommend the film, especially to young people with self-esteem issues & to souls like me who simply love romantic fairytales.

[Warning: Spoilers ahead.]

Penelope is the story of a young woman plagued by an ancient family curse. Her wealthy great, great grandfather did wrong by a servant girl. The servant girl’s mother was a witch & so cursed the man’s family. The first girl-child born into the family would have the face of a pig. Generation after generation passed and no girl-child was born… Until Penelope that is.

The only way that Penelope can reverse the curse & ditch the pig-face is to be loved by one of her own kind (old money). Penelope’s mother keeps her locked away from the rest of the world & forces her to spend her life in search of a suitor to undo the spell. The tale unravels with gorgeous, fairytale-esque scenery & the heartwarming development of the heroine, Penelope. In the end, she undoes the curse herself by loving herself—pig-face & all.

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While the movie may not be to everyone’s liking, the message is universal. Before we can live the life that we dream of living, we must first truly love ourselves. Self-love is the foundation of real happiness. Without self-love, we will spend our lives chasing a dream, like a dog chasing his tail.

Here are 3 simple ways to build your confidence & begin loving yourself:

1. Practice gratitude. Much of your self-loathing stems from the fact that you are not satisfied with yourself—your body, your career, your strengths, and so on. By practicing gratitude, you will shift the focus from being unsatisfied to being grateful. The more grateful that you are, the more you will realize how many blessings you really have & how wonderful you are. For example, rather than complaining about the fact that you’ve recently gained some weight, be grateful for your strong legs that allow you to walk, and your good eyes that allow you to see, and so on. Before you know it, you will be so grateful for the amazing body that you inhabit.

2. Stop the blame game & practice acceptance. Attributing blame—whether to yourself or to others—accomplishes nothing. For example, blaming your mother for your wide hips is useless. Likewise, blaming & beating yourself up for your recent layoff is useless. Rather than assigning blame, accept what is. Accept that your genetics are what they are and that layoffs can happen to anyone. Then, begin to focus on the positive. Be happy that you are only born with wide hips and not missing a limb. Seize the layoff as an opportunity to score your dream job.

3. Always do your best. Live your life in such a way that you give your all to everything that you do. Understand that your best will be different from day to day. Your best will be one way after you’ve had a good night of rest & a healthy breakfast. Your best will be another way when you are sick with the flu & bedridden for a week. Regardless of your condition, make an effort to give everything your best shot. Knowing that you always do your best, will build your confidence immensely. Accept your best for what it is & believe that it really is good enough, because it is.

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    3 Super Simple Ways to Reduce Stress, Improve Health, & Live Happy

    Want to know how you can cut your stress in half?

    How about if there were two things you could change that would drastically alter your stress levels for the rest of your life?

    Now I bet you really want to know, right?

    What if I told you that doing these simple things will not only decrease your stress levels, but will also make you happier and decrease your risk of heart attack, ulcers, & high blood pressure?

    Ready for this? Four words: Stop Rushing, Take Vacation.

    Yes, that’s it. It’s really quite simple, but the results that you will see if you make these changes will amaze you.

    The Problems
    So why is rushing & a lack of vacation such a huge problem? Well, rushing every now and then wouldn’t really be such a problem. But in today’s society, the reality is that we don’t just rush every now and then. We rush all of the time.

    We are constantly hurrying from one thing to the next, multitasking, with our minds in five different places at once. We browse the Web in multiple Windows. We watch television while surfing the Web. We talk on our house phones while texting on our cell phones/iPhones/Blackberrys. While we’re driving to work, we’re planning our days, who we’ll see at each meeting, and what we’re having for dinner. While we’re eating dinner, we’re checking our email, responding to emails, and thinking about what’s on TV that night. While we’re watching TV that night, we’re thinking about everything we’ve got to do tomorrow. You get the picture…

    The Facts
    The United States is one of (if not the) most stressful, fast-paced, uptight societies in existence. The “American way” of rush, rush, rush has huge negative implications. And sadly, the rest of the world is beginning to follow suit. It’s not a good path to be on.

    Here are some statistics about minimum vacation days around the world:

    Austria — 35 days
    Brazil — 30 days
    Finland — 35 days
    Sweden — 32 days
    Ukraine — 24 days
    United States — 7 days
    (Source: http://nationmaster.com)

    7 days? Really? WTF United States!?!?!?

    Every year Expedia.com launches an intense Vacation Deprivation survey to gather the facts & the effects of American Vacation Deprivation.

    Check out these stats:

    Notice that despite earning the least amount of annual vacation days, Americans will still leave an average of 3 days unused! This goes to show that so many Americans don’t even use the little vacation time that they get! Not good.

    Why is Vacation So Important?
    Let’s talk about mental health.

    • 34% of Americans say they come back from vacation feeling better about their jobs and are even more productive.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling rested and rejuvenated after vacation.
    • 53% of employed U.S. adults say they come back feeling reconnected with family after vacation.

    It’s no big secret that work can be stressful. Even if you absolutely adore your career, you still have the occasional (or frequent) challenging day. If you refuse to take a breather every now & then, you are putting your mental health and your relationships at risk.

    Obesity, heart disease, high blood pressure, ulcers, anxiety, depression, and so on are all symptoms of stress. Stress causes cortisol to build up in your body, the cortisol is then stored as dangerous fat. In addition to all of the physical symptoms of stress, there is the issue of rushing around. When you are rushing nonstop from place to place, it’s easy to stop for fast-food because you don’t make the time to cook nutritious meals for yourself and your family.

    If you look at the rates of obesity around the globe, you probably won’t be shocked to see where the United States fits in.

    That’s right, numero uno. Not a good place to be in this case. Americans are the most obese individuals in the world. A sad fact to note considering that we are also some of the richest people, with some of the most vast & diverse availability to nutritious & wholesome food. (Please watch Food, Inc. for more information on this topic.)

    Turning the Tide
    The facts are straightforward. Constant rushing & vacation deprivation will cause you harm. Here are 3 super simple ways that you can combat these harmful habits.

    1. Practice efficient time management. Keep a calendar and don’t overbook yourself, no exceptions. We all have a ton of stuff that we want to get done, but we have to prioritize. Choose the tasks that mean the most to you and will provide you with the best ROI (return on investment). Don’t commit to anything that doesn’t benefit you, your career, your family, or your friends in a big way. Your time is precious and you should treat it as such.

    2. Use your vacation time, all of it. No matter how many days that your company allots for vacation, make sure and use it. If your company tends to be on the real stingy side with vacation, don’t be afraid to set a confidential meeting with your HR director to point out the importance of sufficient vacation time. Sufficient vacation time is mutually beneficial — you will feel better and thereby, your performance will improve. Win – Win!

    Likewise, if you work for yourself, make sure to pencil in enough time for R & R.

    3. Breathe. When you are rushing, you are most likely breathing shallow. Shallow breathing causes rapid heart rate & conversely, deep breathing causes a slower heart rate. Take time to observe your breathing throughout the day. If you find yourself shallow breathing, take a deep breath in through your nostrils. Let the air flow through your chest & deep into the pit of your stomach. Allow your stomach to expand, like a balloon, as it fills with air. Then slowly exhale through your nose and expel all of the air from your body. Breathe in deeply again, allowing the air to fill your stomach as before. Each time you inhale, take in the positive energy & light around you. Let it fill & calm your soul. Each time you exhale, push out your negative energy & fear. Continue to do this until you feel calm.

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    Slow down, be in the now.

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  7. No matter how far I fly into the world of story, I make many returns to the basic seven arcs–most of which are fairy tales. Beauty and the Beast taught me that something must first be loved to become beautiful; Cinderella–the humble will be exalted; Penelope? Perhaps we forget that–in the world history’s most individualistic society–that we are born into a system of pain and triumph, to which we are inheritors. It is not up to us to rewrite history, but to practice a life of grace as part of an ancient family system. 

    Thanks for the review Dena. 

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