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Life Update: The Next Chapter

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Sometimes life gives us exactly what we need, exactly when we need it. It can be hard to recognize. Life crashes in on us in frenzied waves. It feels like we’re drowning. But when we slow down, count our blessings, and breathe—often, we find that we are surrounded with everything that we need.

The past couple of years have been a roller coaster for me. In September 2010 I left my career in association management and hopped on a plane to Paris. I pursued my passion for motivational speaking. I traveled around the country for speaking engagements & had an amazing time. It was an incredible experience but I realized that motivational speaking is not for me—at least not full-time. I will continue to book “select” speaking engagements but I don’t want to make a career of it.

I also thought about going back to school to become a teacher. I have my Bachelor’s degree in English Writing and felt that teaching would be a great fit. I’m getting married in June and with each day that passes I become more of a homebody. I love our little home on our little mountain. Teaching would offer me a good schedule, close to home and I could focus on English language and literature—things that I am passionate about. However, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that jumping through the graduate school hoops and acquiring more debt less than a year before I get married/try to start a family, isn’t such a great idea.

For all of these reasons and a few others, I started job hunting about six months ago. I found out that the job market is as terrible as everybody says it is. I had a really hard time getting even a call back. Friends and family tried to help but nothing was panning out. I had a job but it wasn’t sustainable for the long-term and my finances were slipping deeper into the red every month.

Then one day I heard about an opening at an association not too far away. When I read the job description I was floored to find that it was so similar to what I’d been doing for the three years after graduating college that I was, indeed, the perfect candidate. I scored an interview and the rest was history. Tomorrow (by the time this is posted it will be today) is my first day at the new job.

Just when I started to feel scared and confused, the Universe opened a beautiful new door for me. There are so many wonderful things about this new opportunity. I will be getting to work with volunteers again which is something that I truly love to do and am very good at. It is a step up professionally (a mid-senior level position) and I will be making a nice salary which will allow me to pay down my student loan debt (within a year if I practice a frugal lifestyle!).

There is a small part of me that worries about going back into the Monday to Friday cubicle nation, but in the end, I know that this is exactly what I need at this stage in my life’s journey. I have learned so much about myself in the last two years that I do not run the risk of falling into the auto-pilot, corporate zombie lifestyle. Conscious, thoughtful living is a part of me now. I am so excited about this next chapter of my path! Wish me luck, friends.

xo,
Dena

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    Is Your Resume a Hallmark Card?

    This is a guest post by David Pinkley, The Resume Sage.

    How do you describe yourself in your resume: team player?…quick learner?…detailed oriented? Do you really believe those self-proclaimed descriptions? Consider this: so does everyone else. That’s the problem. When it comes to describing ourselves we use the same words as everyone else. I know this because in 15 years working as a professional resume writer and executive recruiter I’ve seen nearly 40,000 resumes. Virtually all of them used works like: high energy, results oriented, uniquely qualified, detailed oriented, out-of-the-box thinker…and the list goes on. I call these Hallmark words.

    What is a Hallmark word? Example: You go to the store to buy a greeting card for your Sweetie whose birthday is approaching. You are overwhelmed because there are so many cards to choose from. You select your first one and it says something like: “May you experience all things bright and beautiful on your special day. Happy Birthday.” It’s a nice try but the message is contrived so we put the card back and pick another. The second one says: “Here’s a card just for you. You’ve always been tried and true. Happy Birthday.” Again, nice words but the message isn’t meaningful. (Who writes this stuff!?) You repeat this process numerous times until you find one with a message that resonates: “It just always felt right…and it always will. Happy Birthday.” Found it. You’re done.

    Hallmark words are words that look great on paper but don’t have any real meaning. It’s the same with resumes. Certain words look great on resumes but they are meaningless. If everyone says they’re a quick learner those words become diluted. (Whether it’s true or not is irrelevant.) Using Hallmark words on your resume will make it seem just as contrived as most greeting cards. The reader (i.e. hiring manager) won’t believe your message and will continue reading other resumes in search of one that resonates.

    The reality is we really don’t know how to describe ourselves. So we borrow words from other resumes and convince ourselves that these words really describe us. We don’t realize they have no meaning. Great resumes find authentic ways to communicate familiar themes. How do you do that?

    If you are really honest with yourself – you probably don’t know what you really do anyway. The only way to discover exactly what makes you unique is to look closely at your job. This takes introspection and self examination; a process most people dread because it seems like hard work – hence why most resumes are homogeneous. This is difficult to do for yourself. Self examination is much easier if you do it with someone else. But that’s another post.

    Blow the dust off your resume and take a look at the words you’ve used to describe yourself. Are they Hallmark words? If they are, you need to recognize that you are not saying anything unique. And no matter how true they are, they are not as meaningful or impactful as you think.

    Have questions? Contact David Pinkley at (704) 358-6000 or david@theresumesage.com. To learn more visit: www.TheResumeSage.com

    David Pinkley is the founder of The Resume Sage, a custom resume writing service. The Resume Sage critiques and writes resumes for accomplished professionals and executives. Those who work with The Resume Sage are purposeful about navigating their careers. They need more than just strong writing skills; they are seeking insights about how to differentiate themselves from their peers/competitors.

    David is a sought-after public speaker and has been featured on local news and NBC’s national news. He earned a B.S. degree from the University of Michigan and started his career in Chicago as a CPA at Ernst & Young and at Bank of America. He has lived and worked as an executive recruiter for 15 years in Charlotte, Raleigh, New York and Hong Kong.

9 Comments

  1. What a great attitude to go into a new job with. You recognize a situation and take the best option available and find just the right thing for you. Wishing you much good luck knowing that with your good attitude, you will make your own luck. 

  2. It’s inspiring to read that you had the courage to leave your job to try something like motivational speaking. I’m always afraid I’m never going to have the courage to do that, to really try to get out of there and try new career paths, but I think I should trust the universe a little 😉

    Best of luck, hope you love it!

  3. This is going to be a great year for you, definitely! Everyone seems to be having these realigning life 2.0 moments. Love it.

  4. Dena, congratulations! This organization is so fortunate to have you, and I know it sets your mind at ease. I’ve sensed your desire to feel settled for a while, and I’m so happy you found the perfect opportunity. 

  5. Sounds like things are really going great for you. Best of luck Dena!! I always love reading about what people are doing, about to do and that they are loving it!

  6. I hope that your new job is going well, Dena. If not, it will just add to your current body of evidence and help you flourish in the future.

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