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Healthy, Happy Habits in 2011 (Two-Thousand & Heaven!)

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Whether you like resolutions or not, the start of a new year is a good time to implement positive change.  You can throw out the old calendar (and old memories) and start a new journey with a clean slate.

Not surprisingly, most people (88% according to one study) don’t keep resolutions.  So rather than making resolutions, I suggest slowly implementing positive change into your routine.  Here are some tips for creating changes that last:

1.  Be specific. The more specific you are, the more likely you are to implement lasting change.  Here are a couple examples of wrong and right.  Wrong: I resolve to read more.  Right:  I will read one book per month until April.  Wrong:  I need to start exercising and eating better.  Right:  I will take one yoga class per week and walk for fifteen minutes of my lunch hour.

2.  Start slow. Gradual lifestyle adjustments are far easier to implement and maintain than drastic overhauls.  Notice the examples above—one book per month and one yoga class per week.  Small lasting change is far better than massive unsustainable change.

3.  Do it with love. As you set out on your journey to a healthy, happy year, make sure that your goals involve love & passion.  If you hate to exercise, but love to meditate, try yoga instead of weightlifting.  If you want to travel but hate airplanes, start researching travel by train.  Find options that meet your needs and make you happy.  It’s the best way to create lasting change without getting burnt out by February 1st.

So what about me?  2010 was a beautiful & terrible year for me.  It had a lot of ups & downs.  I’m hoping to do a year in review post in the near future but at the moment my priority is to leap into 2011 with love.  I know where I want to be and I am willing to put in the work to get there.  Here is my list of healthy, happy ambitions for 2011:

Bubble baths. I recently re-discovered the magick of a good, hot bubble bath.  Fill the tub with piping hot water & delicious smelling bubbles and you’ve got a little piece of heaven on earth.  So far I’ve taken two in 2011 which is double what I took in 2010.  I’m off to a great start!

  • Warm bath water dilates your blood vessels and improves circulation
  • Water’s curative powers can relieve achy joints and relax sore muscles
  • Bubbles & oils in the bathtub are an easy form of aromatherapy (try lavender & vanilla for relaxation)

Specific goal: One bubble bath per week!

Bubble Bath, Rose Petals

Minimalism. In 2010 I adopted a minimalist lifestyle.  It was one of the greatest decisions that I ever made.  Minimalism allows me to remove the crap from my life and make room for beauty.  I applied minimalism to my possessions but also to my lifestyle.

I’ve gotten a bit lazy on the minimalism front toward the end of 2010.  I’m making a reignited effort to get back on track in 2011.

Specific goal: Inventory one room in the house per month.  Reduce possessions & clutter by 50% by May 2011.

Minimalist Kitchen

Exercise & Yoga. I’m not going to make excuses.  The truth is that exercise fell off of my plate in 2010.  While there were a couple of month-long stretches of activity, there was way too much time spent without it.  I know I can do better and more importantly, I want to do better.  When I actually get to exercising, I feel amazing.  The challenge is getting to it and making time for it.

The trick will be to create a realistic, manageable schedule and stick to it.

Specific goal: Hatha Yoga every Wednesday night.  Cardio at the gym every Friday afternoon.

Juicing & Raw. The benefits of juicing and a raw food diet are endless.  Increased energy, improved mood, boosts to the immune system, and healing power are just a few of the many benefits.  In 2010, I made a valiant effort to go 50% raw but then the holidays floated in and I fell off course.

2011 is going to be my year.  I just got a brand new juicer and I’m ready to give it another go.

Specific goal: 50% raw for one meal every day gradually increasing over time.  Fresh fruit/vegetable juice for breakfast minimum three days per week.

Fruit & Vegetables

Reading & Writing. The Internet is stealing my time!  If I could look back and quantify the time that I “wasted” online  last year, I would end up in tears.  Twitter, Tumblr, and Facebook, I love you dearly but enough is enough.  I am not going to abandon these social networking sites altogether but I have to cut back and create more time for reading (books, not blogs!) and writing.  Reading & writing are critical to my happiness and success.

Specific goal: 30 minutes per day devoted solely to reading.  30 minutes per day devoted solely to writing.

So that’s it friends!  These are my healthy, happy ambitions for 2011.  Of course there are a lot more floating around in my head, but this is where I’m going to start.  I will make a follow-up post in a couple of months to let you know how I’m doing.

Now it’s your turn! What are your healthy, happy ambitions for 2011?  Let me know in the comments.  We can help keep each other on track.

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    Review: The Power of Now

    The Power of Now had been on my “to-read” list for years when, by a stroke of fate, a dear friend offered to lend me her audio copy. Based on my general understanding of the book and its content (prior to reading it) I felt that I would enjoy it; however, I was completely unprepared for the way that the book would speak to me, transform my perspective, and change my life.

    The Unreal Past & Future

    In The Power of Now, we learn that to live in the future or the past is to suffer. The only way to exist in true harmony is to live in the now. After all, the past is not real, the future is not real. The past and the future only exist in our minds.

    When I first heard this concept I refused to believe or comprehend it. Of course my past is real, I thought. Of course my future is real, too. How dare someone suggest that it is not? My ego lashed out; but then I thought more about it. I listened, opened my mind, and realized that it was true. I am going to ask you to walk through an exercise with me to help you understand.

    Let’s recall a memory in which you are eating something. Let’s say, for example, it’s a hot summer day and you’re licking an ice cream cone. Now, where ever you are—right now, present moment, not in the memory—I’d like you to stick your finger right into the ice cream and then throw it to the floor. Can you do that? Can you touch that ice cream cone from your memory? No, of course you can’t (unless you’re on hallucinogenics but that’s another story).

    The fact is that right now you can not touch that ice cream cone and therefore it is not real. It may seem real in your memory—in your mind—but it is not really “real”…not here, not now, not in existence. It is only a memory and it only exists in your mind.

    This principle is also true for the future. Imagine any future scenario in your mind. You win the lottery. You get fired from your job. You purchase a house. You fall off of a cliff. You can play each of those scenes out in your head. You can fill in as much detail as you like. You can mentally experience the future, but the truth remains that the future scenario isn’t “real”. You can’t actually reach out and touch anything in the future right now. The future only exists in your mind.

    When I finally grasped this concept I was shocked & amazed. It seems simple, but somehow I had been missing it for my entire life! To me, the past and the future were as real as the present. The past happened to me. The future was going to happen to me. I held on to these concepts for dear life. But then I realized the truth… the past and the present are not that important. They’re not even real. They are only in my head.

    You might be feeling a bit angry right now. (I know because I was at this point.) You might be thinking, How dare you claim that my past is not real? I’ve suffered, I’ve lived, I’ve triumphed, I’ve done X, Y, and Z. And my future, that is real too! I am going to do things 1, 2, 3, and so on!

    Your Ego Feeds on the Past & Future

    Well, my friend, I am not sorry to break it to you. That voice of anger is fueled by fear and the fear is coming from your ego.

    For your entire life, your ego has been calling the shots. He rules you by fear—fear over your past and fear over your future. So long as you believe in the reality of your past and your future, your ego has control over you. It uses every thing that ever happened in the past against you. It uses everything that you hope to happen in the future against you.

    There is only one way to overcome your ego and that is to live completely in the now. Let go of the past and the future. Be fully present in this moment.

    It is not easy. You’ve spent your entire life ruled by your ego, living in the past and present. But while it’s not easy, it is possible. It’s entirely possible for you to begin living entirely in the present moment, entirely in peace, love, & light, entirely free from the chains of your ego.

    The Power of Now is an excellent book and if you truly listen to every word and practice its teachings in your daily life, you will succeed. It has been quite a journey for me already and I’ve only been on it for a few weeks now! I am experiencing life in ways that I never dreamed possible. You can do it, too.

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    Here are some of my favourite pieces from The Power of Now along with my interpretations of each.

    You have it already. You just can’t feel it because your mind is making too much noise.
    Eckhart Tolle tells us that that many people ask him to “give” them his gift. His response is always the same, You already have it.

    This is entirely true. Each of us already has the immense power of now within. Tolle nor anyone else can “give” that to us—but what he can do (and does in the book) is to show you how to harness the power in your own life.

    Not to be able to stop thinking is a dreadful affliction; but we don’t realize it because almost everyone is suffering from it. So, it is considered normal.
    After reading (listening to) The Power of Now, I realized that yes, the modern human being is suffering from a debilitating disease: compulsive over thinking.

    It is so obvious to me now! How many millions of people are suffering from anxiety, depression, and so on? Most of these individuals are suffering as such simply because of compulsive over thinking.

    When we stop our compulsive, ego-driven thoughts, we live in harmony. Sadly, however, most people just don’t know how to stop those thoughts.

    We must become the silent observer, as Tolle describes in the book. The first step to overcoming the compulsive thoughts is to recognize them, to be the silent observer of your mind.

    To see, but not see. To hear, but not hear.
    Have you ever had a moment, an hour, or a day where you were entirely mindless?

    For example, you are driving along the road completely spaced out from reality and suddenly you “wake up” and you don’t know where your head has been for some stretch of time. You know that you must have been seeing and aware, because you didn’t crash your vehicle. But you weren’t really there. You were seeing but not seeing.

    Another example, you are in conversation with a friend or loved one and you begin zoning out. You hear words coming out of her mouth, but when she finally stops talking, you realize that you have no idea what she just said. You were listening, but you weren’t really there. You were hearing but not hearing.

    This is what it means to see, but not see; to hear, but not hear. It is living life in an unconscious state, on autopilot. Most likely you are daydreaming about the unreal past or future. You can overcome this state of nothingness and time wasting by harnessing the power of now and being fully present in each moment.

    Humanity is under great pressure to evolve because it is the only chance for the survival of our species.
    “Humanity is under great pressure to evolve because it is our only chance of survival as a race. This will affect every aspect of your life and close relationships in particular. Never before have relationships been as problematic and conflict ridden as they are now. As you may continue to pursue the goal of salvation through a relationship, you will be disillusioned again and again. But if you accept that the relationship is here to make you conscious instead of happy, then the relationship will offer you salvation, and you will be aligning yourself with the higher consciousness that wants to be born into this world. For those who hold to the old patterns, there will be increasing pain, violence, confusion, and madness.”

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    I could write ten posts about The Power of Now and I would only begin to scratch the surface. The book is extremely intensive. Tolle’s language is thick and weighted with meaning. The content is formatted as question and answer for the sake of clarity—but it is still heavy reading. As I mentioned earlier, I listened to the audio book and I would highly recommend this format. I have heard that reading the text can be confusing and I can understand why.

    The audio book does span several hours, but it is entirely worth every moment. If you can not afford to buy the audio book, you should consider borrowing it from your local library.

    If you decide to read or have read this book, I would love to hear your thoughts. Whether or not you decide to, I hope that you will consider the ideas that I have shared in this post.

    Thinking about being somewhere else uses up your precious, present moments. Be here now. —Wayne Dyer

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    1. @ Andra – Three cheers for bath time! OMG. I don’t know how I went so long without it. 2011 is our year to get our lovely derrieres in gear + to take long, hot baths in celebration. XO

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  6. Hi Dena,

    I enjoy your writing style, and your thoughts.

    I am with you 100% on the positive change idea rather than resolutions and I love the positive changes you endeavour to make this year.

    My positive changes this year include continuing to live smokefree, I have given up alcohol. I would like to take up a dance class, a martial arts class, learn Tai Chi and adopt a minimalist approach to possesions and life such as your 2nd positive change.

    I wish you all the best in your changes and look forward to your update post.

    Keep growing…

    1. @ Joshua – Thank you so much for stopping by. I am really glad that you’ve found me. I was just reading about your journey over at your blog and it’s fantastic! I love your positive change plans for the year. I have always wanted to take a martial arts class, too. Perhaps you have inspired me. 🙂

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