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Book Review & Giveaway: Radio Shangri-La

Lisa Napoli was in the grip of a mid-life crisis when a chance encounter led her to the adventure of a lifetime. Leaving behind her job in public radio and her life in Los Angeles, she moved to the tiny Himalayan Kingdom of Bhutan to volunteer at the country’s first youth radio station. Along the way, she found the world is a beautiful and complicated place, and learns to appreciate life in a way she never imagined.

When I received an email asking me to review this book, I was really excited by the title and the description; but to be perfectly honest, I had no idea where (or even what) Bhutan was! As soon as I started reading, however, I fell in love with Bhutan and with Radio Shangri-La’s heroine, Lisa Naploli. And I learned that Bhutan is, in fact, a real & wonderful place.

There were two elements of this book that fascinated me—Bhutan’s culture/Buddhism and Lisa’s journey.


Bhutan & Buddhism

Although I was clueless when I started the book, after reading it I had a wealth of knowledge about the happiest kingdom on earth. Lisa does an incredible job of taking her readers to this magical, faraway land. The book is a memoir/travel guide/history book all wrapped up in one. Right from the start, Lisa pulls us into her adventure and paints a stunning picture of Bhutan. The more I read, the more I found myself falling in love with this strange & wonderful country. Its focus on happiness really spoke to me:

Instead of measuring its economic progress by calculating the gross national product…His Majesty created a different scale. He proclaimed this philosophy, ironically, periodically, “Gross National Happiness.”

As evidenced in Lisa’s descriptions, Bhutan is a truly beautiful country:

Bhutan’s tourist industry sold the place as the last Shangri-la, and it became clear what I saw out the van that this was indeed a land that time and rampant development had forgotten. Rolling hills punctuated by spectacular mountains, vast expanses of meticulously terraced land and the clearest river rushing through, interrupted only occasionally by a cluster of unusual-looking houses … Every mountain and valley was so picturesque… some sort of fairy tale, with endless miles of untouched land and vistas of mountains and trees so lush it’s hard to imagine they’re real.

One of my favourite things about Bhutan is its obvious commitment to the environment. I find it truly extraordinary when a country is willing to put the health of the environment in front of the health of the economy. What a truly inspirational concept!

As part of Bhutan’s continuing environmental stewardship, the King announced that plastic bags would be banned—for the good of the plant and, ultimately, all people.

The last thing that really struck me about Bhutan’s culture is the intense focus on connectedness & relationships.

That Bhutan was guided by intense spirituality, by connection to home and community, held great allure. I was tired of sleep-deprived, stressed-out, too-busy people who shirked downtime in the service of making money so they could buy more stuff…

Most compelling to me were the underlying principles of the religion: Compassion for all beings, and the interconnectedness of everyone. The ideals of wisdom and knowledge. Self reliance. Acceptance and forgiveness. What you possessed and achieved wasn’t important.

Lisa’s Journey

Early on in the story, we learn that a horrific act of violence was committed against Lisa when she was a young woman. Reading the details of this event sent chills down my spine. Yet, it is a hugely important piece of what shaped her into the woman that she is. As she reflects on her journey and on the incredible string of events that led her to Bhutan she realizes:

And in some strange way it is because of that night, not despite of it, that I could be here.

Her ability to understand that all things—even the most difficult things that happen to us—are necessary, is truly inspirational. As we get deeper into Lisa’s journey we watch her transform from a woman lost, confused, and desperate into a woman beaming with light, gratitude, and positivity.

The Buddhists would say that everything you need is right here, within you. There’s no need to seek outside yourself for the answers. Nothing—no place, no person—can complete you or make you happy.

Everything is always in a state of flux. Nothing lasts forever—not triumph, love, no happy feeling, no state of sadness. Clinging to a person or place or moment in time was futile and unwise and led to suffering; so did wanting things to be different than they were.

Over the course of the story Lisa not only learns to accept her circumstances as a middle-aged, unmarried, childless woman; but she learns to love herself unconditionally. Toward the end of her first trip to Bhutan, Lisa purchases a Bhutanese ring. When the the shop owner explains that the ring is a wedding ring, Lisa smiles.

I am married to myself. Who else do I really need? It has taken me forty-three years to feel whole, to believe that nothing, really, is missing. Now is what matters, right now, I have all I need … Every time I catch a glimpse of my hand, I have a tangible reminder to celebrate. And to thank Bhutan for having cinched my feelings tight.

I’ve learned that the ingredients for happiness are simple: giving, loving, and contentment with where you are and who you are.

The generous publishers of Radio Shangri-la have offered to give away TWO FREE copies of this book to my readers! If you would like to receive a copy, just leave a comment below. Be sure to include your email address. Next week, I will choose two commenters at random to receive these free copies.

Note: All of the beautiful photographs in this post came from Lisa’s website.

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    Review: Tribes by Seth Godin

    On a recent flight, I began reading Seth Godin’s Tribes. On the return flight, I finished it. It was my introduction to Seth Godin—no idea why I hadn’t found him sooner!—and what an introduction it was. The book blew me away. It is the best book on leadership and change management that I’ve ever read. While the content is sure to inspire change of the greatest sort within any organization—from business to church, non-profit to learning institution—it is also of incredible value to individuals.

    In this post I want to share some of my favourite pieces from Tribes as well as some of my own insights.

    Whether you want to create positive change in the world, in the workplace, or simply in your own, I recommend that you read the book for yourself. It is a relatively easy read, spliced up into short, digestible chapters. I got through it in a few hours. But it is absolutely packed with revolutionary ideas, suggestions, and real-life examples of people making a difference and leading tribes in today’s world.

    Many people are starting to realize that they work a lot and that working on stuff they believe in (and making things happen) is much more satisfying then just getting a paycheck and waiting to get fired (or die).

    I’ve begun to think of my generation as the Fight Club generation. Tyler Durden said it best, “We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.” I think Tyler and Seth’s sentiments are one and the same. Our parents (or maybe you) were raised to believe that you needed to grow up, go to school, get a job, and stay there. Work hard, save money, vacation once a year, and retire as soon as possible.

    Well, the Fight Club generation doesn’t want to hear that nonsense. We want gratification now. We don’t want to spend 40 hours a week miserable just so that we can collect a paycheck twice a month. We don’t want to spend half a lifetime at a job that we hate just so we can get fired or die one day! We believe that we can be happy now. We can pursue our passions, make a difference in the world, live out our dreams, and be successful all at once. And… we are right. We can do it. There are people doing it every single day. I love Tribes because it tells the stories of those people and more importantly, how they got there and how we can do it, too.

    Somewhere along the way, perhaps when twenty thousand Ford workers lost their jobs in one day, or when it became clear that soft drink companies were losing all their growth to upstarts, the factory advantage began to fade.

    The reason why the “school-job-suffer-retire” model worked for so long was because it was safe, it was comfortable. Human beings like to feel safe. It feels good to know that you will get a check once every couple weeks. It feels safe to know that you can walk into the office every morning and the lights will turn on and the computer will turn on. The peace of mind in trading your hours for dollars seems worth it when you have to put food on a table and a roof over someone’s head. But, guess what, that model isn’t really proving to be so safe after all.

    The recent tanking of the economy has really shaken things up. People are losing their jobs at rapid rates, unemployment is way up. Ethics have been violated, corruption runs rampant, and people don’t feel safe anymore. We want to take matters into our own hands. We want to create the lives of our dreams and be completely independent. We are doing it every day.

    In unstable times, growth comes from leaders who create change and engage their organizations, instead of from mangers who push their employees to do more for less.

    Now, more than ever, each of us has an opportunity obligation to become a leader, to create change, and to make a positive difference. The ever-evolving world of social media and the Web—Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Wikipedia, Google—give us instant access to an unthinkable quantity of information and resources. When we learn how to leverage those resources we can become unstoppable. When we teach others to leverage those resources our tribes can become unstoppable. It is a great time to be a leader, and it is also the right time.

    Leadership is scarce because few people are willing to go through the discomfort required to lead. This scarcity makes leadership valuable. It’s uncomfortable to propose an idea that might fail. If you’re not uncomfortable in your work as a leader, it’s almost certain you’re not reaching your potential as a leader.

    Change = pain. If there is anything that I have learned over the past three years, it is this. Human beings are creatures of habit. When asked why things are done a certain way, most people will always respond the same way: “Because that’s the way we’ve always done it.” It is safe, it is comfortable. Our profits may be plummeting, our staff may be miserable, our customers may be disgusted—but this is the way we’ve always done it! Don’t try to mess with our traditions! Right? Wrong!

    Success takes dedication, hard work, persistence, and change. Dedication, hard work, and persistence can be painful. Some people are cut out for it and some people aren’t. The people that are, are the leaders. Being a leader is not comfortable and it’s not supposed to be. Being a leader takes character.

    Believe it or not, anyone can do it. “No one is born charismatic. It’s a choice, not a gift” (Tribes).

    Change almost never fails because it’s too early. It almost always fails because it’s too late.

    The time for change is now, my friends. If not now, when? There has never been a time where the need for positive change was more urgent. If you do not realize that this moment is all you have, then you do not have anything. This is it. After this moment, nothing is promised—not tomorrow, not next week, not your 81st birthday. You have this moment and you alone get to decide what you do with it. Yes, you can surf Facebook for a few more hours and stalk out your ex-boyfriend’s life for awhile more. You can also sit on the couch with a six-pack and watch The Jersey Shore marathon on MTV. …But if you asked me, I’d tell you that you’ve got more important things to do. Whether you’ve been waiting to pitch a great idea to your boss, waiting to take a proactive approach to your health, or waiting to embark on that 6 month “vagablogging” journey; stop waiting!

    There is really nothing in your way. There are no problems and no obstacles. Any anxiety that you might have stems from your past or your future; but your past and your future are not real! The only thing that is real is this moment, right now. The past and the future are in your head. No matter what you think is standing in your way, you can find a way around it. If you can’t get on the next flight to Melbourne (to start your career as a kangaroo-catcher) then sit down and figure out how you are going to make it happen. Right now.

    I’m frequently asked about getting credit. People want to know how to be sure they get credit for an idea, especially when they have a boss who wants to steal it. Or they want to know how to be sure to give me credit for an idea in a book or a blog post of their own.

    Real leaders don’t care.

    If it’s about your mission, about spreading faith, about seeing something happen, not only do you not care about credit, you actually want other people to take credit.

    There’s no record of Martin Luther King, Jr., or Gandhi whining about credit. Credit isn’t the point. Change is.

    Stop worrying about the obstacles and start taking action. Stop worrying about who is going to get credit and start making a difference.

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    What I loved most about Tribes is that it left me feeling like anything and everything is possible. The book is full of stories about ordinary people who did (and do) extraordinary things every single day. These people don’t let fear stop them. They become leaders and they create & inspire change. Every person is capable of this. You are capable of this! What do you want to do? Are you ready to become a leader? I say yes. Yes you are!

26 Comments

  1. This sounds so lovely, Dena. My knowledge of Bhutan barely extends beyond knowing it’s a country- just your post has been enlightening! I would love to enter to win a copy.

    P.s. Writing you an email right now!

    1. @ Tessa – Thank you so much, Tessa. I am really glad that you enjoyed the post. I just got your email & I am SO excited!! I literally did a happy-dance at my desk. 😀 I’ll be writing back soon. XO

      @ Roberta – Thank you so much for the compliment & for stopping by! Best of luck. 🙂

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  5. Dena, i can’t wait to read this book. I am currently studying buddism and the Tao, so now you have me intrigued with this book.

    Dawn

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  7. Hi, Dena. I’m on the tour for Radio Shangri-la also and thought I’d drop by. Love the photos you used from Lisa website. NIce reading your review. Her journey was an amazing one.
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    1. @ Harvee – Thank you so much! I’m really glad that you decided to stop by. You are right — Lisa’s journey was truly inspiring. I really loved her photographs, too. I am going to head over to your blog now & take a peek. Hope you’ll stop by again soon.

  8. I think Buddhism is gaining in popularity. A few years ago, I never heard anything about it. Then, I heard Tiger Woods talking about it in one of his press conferences. Now, recently, I’ve heard you and Alison talking about it. The book is probably something Alison would enjoy. She reads books all the time, but I never do.

    1. @ Scott – I’ve been fascinated with Buddhism for many years. I identify with the Buddhist principles of karma & rebirth. In recent years, I’ve started to study Taoism as well and I find that I relate with it even more. The Three Jewels of the Tao are: compassion, moderation, and humility. I lead my life with these principles at the forefront of my mind. Both religions are inspirational. I’m happy to hear that they are gaining in popularity.

      Thanks so much for commenting and good luck to you & Alison in the random selection! 🙂

  9. Sounds like a cracking read Dena, I’m enjoying where evolution has come from! Started reading life of pi yesterday and this sounds like it would be right up my alley.

    P.S. Just catching up on your couchsurfing in Paris, sounds great!

  10. This book was a perfect choice for your site. What an adventure Lisa had not only in Bhutan, but, within her own life! She is a very brave woman with a zest for life, even in the face of adversity. She should serve as a great example for those who do not know their purpose in life. She also teaches us that you can remake your life at any age, if you are willing to take that first step.

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  13. @ Andrew – It is so great to see you here, my friend! How have you been? I miss you! When will you start blogging again? 🙂 So grateful for your comment. Stay in touch.

    @ George – You are so right about the book. It was so incredibly inspiring to share in Lisa’s story through her words. I love that she teaches us that we can remake our lives at any age. Such a message of hope! Thanks so much for stopping by.

    @nfmgirl – You are counted in! Thanks a million.

    @ Lisa – Thank you so much for the opportunity! I’m really glad you enjoyed the review.

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  17. I’ve already added this book to my gift list this holiday season and would be soooo appreciative of a free copy! (:

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