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Speak Your Truth

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At the end of the day, you have to be able to lay your head down on the pillow and feel good about the things you’ve said, the things you’ve done, and the person that you are.

Life is all about making choices. All day, every day, we are faced with decisions. Should I hit the snooze button or go for a walk? What will I eat for breakfast? Should I participate in the office drama or keep my head down? Will I use my free-time to work on my novel or watch television? And on and on it goes, every moment is a new opportunity to make a choice.

One of the most important choices that we have to make is what we will stand for and what we will stand against. This is tricky because sometimes standing for or against anything can be difficult and even controversial. However, it’s really important that we do it anyway. For a long time, I was afraid to speak out on issues that I felt strongly about. I was afraid of being judged, misunderstood, or rejected. But there came a time in my life when I decided that it was important to put my fears aside and speak my truth.

Some of the issues that I feel strongly about are mental illness; conservation; gay marriage; and animal rights. These are examples of topics that can be controversial. I have had disagreements on these issues. And yes, it can be uncomfortable. But it’s incredibly important, too.

I don’t like to argue. I avoid talking politics. But when the time is right, I always say what is in my heart. Sometimes I am afraid. Sometimes my voice shakes. But I know that at the end of the day, I have to lay my head down on the pillow and feel good about me.

Today I encourage you to think long and hard about the issues that matter to you. Know where you stand. When the time comes, don’t be afraid to speak your truth.

In love & light,
Dena

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    Is Your Resume a Hallmark Card?

    This is a guest post by David Pinkley, The Resume Sage.

    How do you describe yourself in your resume: team player?…quick learner?…detailed oriented? Do you really believe those self-proclaimed descriptions? Consider this: so does everyone else. That’s the problem. When it comes to describing ourselves we use the same words as everyone else. I know this because in 15 years working as a professional resume writer and executive recruiter I’ve seen nearly 40,000 resumes. Virtually all of them used works like: high energy, results oriented, uniquely qualified, detailed oriented, out-of-the-box thinker…and the list goes on. I call these Hallmark words.

    What is a Hallmark word? Example: You go to the store to buy a greeting card for your Sweetie whose birthday is approaching. You are overwhelmed because there are so many cards to choose from. You select your first one and it says something like: “May you experience all things bright and beautiful on your special day. Happy Birthday.” It’s a nice try but the message is contrived so we put the card back and pick another. The second one says: “Here’s a card just for you. You’ve always been tried and true. Happy Birthday.” Again, nice words but the message isn’t meaningful. (Who writes this stuff!?) You repeat this process numerous times until you find one with a message that resonates: “It just always felt right…and it always will. Happy Birthday.” Found it. You’re done.

    Hallmark words are words that look great on paper but don’t have any real meaning. It’s the same with resumes. Certain words look great on resumes but they are meaningless. If everyone says they’re a quick learner those words become diluted. (Whether it’s true or not is irrelevant.) Using Hallmark words on your resume will make it seem just as contrived as most greeting cards. The reader (i.e. hiring manager) won’t believe your message and will continue reading other resumes in search of one that resonates.

    The reality is we really don’t know how to describe ourselves. So we borrow words from other resumes and convince ourselves that these words really describe us. We don’t realize they have no meaning. Great resumes find authentic ways to communicate familiar themes. How do you do that?

    If you are really honest with yourself – you probably don’t know what you really do anyway. The only way to discover exactly what makes you unique is to look closely at your job. This takes introspection and self examination; a process most people dread because it seems like hard work – hence why most resumes are homogeneous. This is difficult to do for yourself. Self examination is much easier if you do it with someone else. But that’s another post.

    Blow the dust off your resume and take a look at the words you’ve used to describe yourself. Are they Hallmark words? If they are, you need to recognize that you are not saying anything unique. And no matter how true they are, they are not as meaningful or impactful as you think.

    Have questions? Contact David Pinkley at (704) 358-6000 or david@theresumesage.com. To learn more visit: www.TheResumeSage.com

    David Pinkley is the founder of The Resume Sage, a custom resume writing service. The Resume Sage critiques and writes resumes for accomplished professionals and executives. Those who work with The Resume Sage are purposeful about navigating their careers. They need more than just strong writing skills; they are seeking insights about how to differentiate themselves from their peers/competitors.

    David is a sought-after public speaker and has been featured on local news and NBC’s national news. He earned a B.S. degree from the University of Michigan and started his career in Chicago as a CPA at Ernst & Young and at Bank of America. He has lived and worked as an executive recruiter for 15 years in Charlotte, Raleigh, New York and Hong Kong.

3 Comments

  1. You’re right about how and when we should speak the truth, we don’t have to go out in the streets with a bullhorn to express our opinions, but, when asked, we should feel no qualms about saying what we believe in. I believe in peace, I believe in conservation, I believe in treating people the right way and I believe that we should live and let live; we don’t need to impose our thoughts and beliefs on others. I try to see the good in people and sometimes I am disappointed, but, not believing in the basic good in people is too depressing to consider. So, I am optimistic we will somehow achieve peace, fairness, goodwill and find a way to help others help themselves. 

    1. thank you so much, lou! you are wonderful. you never cease to inspire me with your positive outlook, your words of wisdom, and your generous spirit.

  2. Dena, I really love this post. I think it rings true for a number of interactions that I have had, including WITH you! This message is so important, and one day when you are a teacher, I hope that you can convey this to your students. 

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