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Life Update: The Next Chapter

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Sometimes life gives us exactly what we need, exactly when we need it. It can be hard to recognize. Life crashes in on us in frenzied waves. It feels like we’re drowning. But when we slow down, count our blessings, and breathe—often, we find that we are surrounded with everything that we need.

The past couple of years have been a roller coaster for me. In September 2010 I left my career in association management and hopped on a plane to Paris. I pursued my passion for motivational speaking. I traveled around the country for speaking engagements & had an amazing time. It was an incredible experience but I realized that motivational speaking is not for me—at least not full-time. I will continue to book “select” speaking engagements but I don’t want to make a career of it.

I also thought about going back to school to become a teacher. I have my Bachelor’s degree in English Writing and felt that teaching would be a great fit. I’m getting married in June and with each day that passes I become more of a homebody. I love our little home on our little mountain. Teaching would offer me a good schedule, close to home and I could focus on English language and literature—things that I am passionate about. However, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that jumping through the graduate school hoops and acquiring more debt less than a year before I get married/try to start a family, isn’t such a great idea.

For all of these reasons and a few others, I started job hunting about six months ago. I found out that the job market is as terrible as everybody says it is. I had a really hard time getting even a call back. Friends and family tried to help but nothing was panning out. I had a job but it wasn’t sustainable for the long-term and my finances were slipping deeper into the red every month.

Then one day I heard about an opening at an association not too far away. When I read the job description I was floored to find that it was so similar to what I’d been doing for the three years after graduating college that I was, indeed, the perfect candidate. I scored an interview and the rest was history. Tomorrow (by the time this is posted it will be today) is my first day at the new job.

Just when I started to feel scared and confused, the Universe opened a beautiful new door for me. There are so many wonderful things about this new opportunity. I will be getting to work with volunteers again which is something that I truly love to do and am very good at. It is a step up professionally (a mid-senior level position) and I will be making a nice salary which will allow me to pay down my student loan debt (within a year if I practice a frugal lifestyle!).

There is a small part of me that worries about going back into the Monday to Friday cubicle nation, but in the end, I know that this is exactly what I need at this stage in my life’s journey. I have learned so much about myself in the last two years that I do not run the risk of falling into the auto-pilot, corporate zombie lifestyle. Conscious, thoughtful living is a part of me now. I am so excited about this next chapter of my path! Wish me luck, friends.

xo,
Dena

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    My Journey to Financial Freedom | Part 2: The Climb

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    Three years ago, I was nearly $60,000 in debt. I had a Bachelor’s degree that didn’t appear to be worth its weight in salt and a job that couldn’t cover a fraction of my monthly bills. I was terrified.

    Today, I am closer to complete financial freedom than I ever dreamed possible. Last week, I paid off my last remaining credit card balance. This two-part post is a celebration of this incredible milestone in my journey.

    In part one, I explained how I got to that terrible place. In part two, I will explain how I’m getting out of it (and how you can do it, too).

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    1. Change the way you think about spending money. For most of my life, I believed that money was made to be spent. I believed that I *deserved* to spend every dollar that I earned on some material thing that would “make me happy.” I coveted material possessions—clothes, jewelry, electronics, cars. What I realize now is that money is not meant to be spent. You only need to earn enough money to survive. You should have enough money to buy only what you need. There is no need for excess.

    “You’re not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank. You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fuc*ing khakis.” (Fight Club)

    This shift in mindset is hard to adjust to at first. You may not like the reactions that you receive from people. Believe me, I’ve been called cheap a few times, but I pay no mind to it. I would choose cheap over poor any day.

    2. Keep a budget. I highly recommend using Mint.com. I started using it in September and it has been one of the most transformational and useful tools throughout my journey to financial freedom. It allows you to sync up all of your accounts (loans, checking, savings, etc.) in one place. Then it keeps track of every transaction that you make and sorts/organizes all of the data for you. It allows you to track your spending over time and by category. It gives you incredible perspective and insight about where your money goes each month/year. It has been a truly eye-opening experience for me.

    If you’re unwilling to try Mint, you can keep a budget on a spread sheet or even by hand. However, the important thing is to be completely conscious about where every dollar you spend is going.

    3. Use a debit card. To reap the full Mint.com experience you should use a debit card for every purchase you make. Using the debit card will automatically flag each transaction you make into the appropriate category. So if you go to Shoprite, it will get marked as groceries. If you go to Home Depot it will get marked as home. If you stop at the gas station it will get marked as automobile, and so on.

    I use my debit card (linked to my checking account) for almost every single transaction that I make. I also have all of my monthly bills (like my auto insurance, utilities, and gym membership) automatically debited from the same checking account each month. It makes keeping track of my spending that much easier. Plus, I do not like dealing with cash. The debit card is quick, easy, and is accepted almost everywhere now.

    Whether or not you use Mint.com it is a good idea to use a debit card simply because you can review all of your purchases and purchase amounts on your monthly statement. Trying to keep track of receipts is a hassle that I don’t have time for.

    4. Pay off credit cards and cut them up. Paying off my credit cards was my first priority. For awhile I tried “credit card surfing.” Let me just tell you from experience, it’s overrated and it really doesn’t work. The idea is that you surf from credit card to credit card by transferring balances. A lot of companies will give you 0% APR for 6 months if you transfer your balances over to them. After the 6 months, you “surf” to a new card with another promotional rate.

    The problem with this tactic is that it gets messy quickly, it becomes difficult to keep up with, and if you lose track you will end up getting burned by high APRs, finance fees, cancellation fees, etc. Also, it probably doesn’t look great on your credit report if you’re opening up a new card every 6 months or so.

    It is much safer and wiser to just stop using credit cards! My theory is simple and has taken me very far: If you can not afford to buy it, then you can not afford it. Period. It is simple logic.

    5. Eat in. This is one of the easiest changes to make, but it also comes with an enormous, positive impact. When I started closely tracking my spending habits, I was shocked to see how much I was spending on eating out. A meal at a decent restaurant goes for about $25 per person. If you eat out twice a week, that is $3,120 a year. If you grab lunch out during the work week, it’s about $8 a day. That’s $2,080 a year. Put those together and you could be spending $5,200 a year or more on dining out! That is outrageous and completely unnecessary.

    Since I started eating in and packing lunches, I’ve taken my monthly food spending from $500 down to $200 or less! Over time, that means enormous savings. Check out 5dollardinners.com for some awesome, inexpensive recipes. I love it! Also, investing in a crock pot was one of the wisest decisions I ever made—chili, sausage & peppers, and goulash will be your new (delicious, cheap) best friends. (Here are some more tips for eating healthy & mindfully.)

    6. Direct deposit money into savings every month. This is my final—and perhaps most important—tip. When I began my journey to financial freedom, I opened a savings account with ING Direct. It is an easy-to-use online savings account and it gives you interest on the money that you save. It also allows you to set up easy direct deposits.

    I started out small, depositing $50 a month into my savings. As I learned to keep my budget tighter and tighter, I increased the amount that I put into my savings each month. Currently, I am putting away $500+ per month and hope to get closer to $1,000 per month in the very near future.

    When you direct deposit the funds, it comes out automatically. It is painless because you don’t have to do a thing. Because it’s automatic, after awhile you don’t even notice that it’s missing. (I remember reading that on another blog several months ago and thinking, “Are you out of your mind?! I’m not going to miss it? Yea right!”) But I can honestly say that after a few months, you adjust to the missing money. You truly do not miss it once it becomes normal for that amount to be deposited into savings automatically each month.

    It has been one of the best decisions that I’ve made and because I’ve worked so hard to get to this place—I don’t touch that money! I am keeping it there for a rainy day or to pay off my student loans someday in one fell swoop.

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    As I stated at the start of this post, three years ago I was almost $60,000 in debt; I was twenty-three years old; and I was scared to death. Today, I have my finances under control! I am on the road to financial freedom and you can get here, too. Truly, it is not as hard as it seems. With common sense and a bit of dedication, it will happen. Paying off my last credit card balance was like taking chains off of my wrists for the first time in seven years. The feeling was completely priceless. If I can do it, anybody can.

    So, what are your financial goals? Have you ever been in financial prison? How did you free yourself? If you’re still there, what are you going to do to break free?

9 Comments

  1. What a great attitude to go into a new job with. You recognize a situation and take the best option available and find just the right thing for you. Wishing you much good luck knowing that with your good attitude, you will make your own luck. 

  2. It’s inspiring to read that you had the courage to leave your job to try something like motivational speaking. I’m always afraid I’m never going to have the courage to do that, to really try to get out of there and try new career paths, but I think I should trust the universe a little 😉

    Best of luck, hope you love it!

  3. This is going to be a great year for you, definitely! Everyone seems to be having these realigning life 2.0 moments. Love it.

  4. Dena, congratulations! This organization is so fortunate to have you, and I know it sets your mind at ease. I’ve sensed your desire to feel settled for a while, and I’m so happy you found the perfect opportunity. 

  5. Sounds like things are really going great for you. Best of luck Dena!! I always love reading about what people are doing, about to do and that they are loving it!

  6. I hope that your new job is going well, Dena. If not, it will just add to your current body of evidence and help you flourish in the future.

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