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Healthy, Happy Habits in 2011 (Two-Thousand & Heaven!)

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Whether you like resolutions or not, the start of a new year is a good time to implement positive change.  You can throw out the old calendar (and old memories) and start a new journey with a clean slate.

Not surprisingly, most people (88% according to one study) don’t keep resolutions.  So rather than making resolutions, I suggest slowly implementing positive change into your routine.  Here are some tips for creating changes that last:

1.  Be specific. The more specific you are, the more likely you are to implement lasting change.  Here are a couple examples of wrong and right.  Wrong: I resolve to read more.  Right:  I will read one book per month until April.  Wrong:  I need to start exercising and eating better.  Right:  I will take one yoga class per week and walk for fifteen minutes of my lunch hour.

2.  Start slow. Gradual lifestyle adjustments are far easier to implement and maintain than drastic overhauls.  Notice the examples above—one book per month and one yoga class per week.  Small lasting change is far better than massive unsustainable change.

3.  Do it with love. As you set out on your journey to a healthy, happy year, make sure that your goals involve love & passion.  If you hate to exercise, but love to meditate, try yoga instead of weightlifting.  If you want to travel but hate airplanes, start researching travel by train.  Find options that meet your needs and make you happy.  It’s the best way to create lasting change without getting burnt out by February 1st.

So what about me?  2010 was a beautiful & terrible year for me.  It had a lot of ups & downs.  I’m hoping to do a year in review post in the near future but at the moment my priority is to leap into 2011 with love.  I know where I want to be and I am willing to put in the work to get there.  Here is my list of healthy, happy ambitions for 2011:

Bubble baths. I recently re-discovered the magick of a good, hot bubble bath.  Fill the tub with piping hot water & delicious smelling bubbles and you’ve got a little piece of heaven on earth.  So far I’ve taken two in 2011 which is double what I took in 2010.  I’m off to a great start!

  • Warm bath water dilates your blood vessels and improves circulation
  • Water’s curative powers can relieve achy joints and relax sore muscles
  • Bubbles & oils in the bathtub are an easy form of aromatherapy (try lavender & vanilla for relaxation)

Specific goal: One bubble bath per week!

Bubble Bath, Rose Petals

Minimalism. In 2010 I adopted a minimalist lifestyle.  It was one of the greatest decisions that I ever made.  Minimalism allows me to remove the crap from my life and make room for beauty.  I applied minimalism to my possessions but also to my lifestyle.

I’ve gotten a bit lazy on the minimalism front toward the end of 2010.  I’m making a reignited effort to get back on track in 2011.

Specific goal: Inventory one room in the house per month.  Reduce possessions & clutter by 50% by May 2011.

Minimalist Kitchen

Exercise & Yoga. I’m not going to make excuses.  The truth is that exercise fell off of my plate in 2010.  While there were a couple of month-long stretches of activity, there was way too much time spent without it.  I know I can do better and more importantly, I want to do better.  When I actually get to exercising, I feel amazing.  The challenge is getting to it and making time for it.

The trick will be to create a realistic, manageable schedule and stick to it.

Specific goal: Hatha Yoga every Wednesday night.  Cardio at the gym every Friday afternoon.

Juicing & Raw. The benefits of juicing and a raw food diet are endless.  Increased energy, improved mood, boosts to the immune system, and healing power are just a few of the many benefits.  In 2010, I made a valiant effort to go 50% raw but then the holidays floated in and I fell off course.

2011 is going to be my year.  I just got a brand new juicer and I’m ready to give it another go.

Specific goal: 50% raw for one meal every day gradually increasing over time.  Fresh fruit/vegetable juice for breakfast minimum three days per week.

Fruit & Vegetables

Reading & Writing. The Internet is stealing my time!  If I could look back and quantify the time that I “wasted” online  last year, I would end up in tears.  Twitter, Tumblr, and Facebook, I love you dearly but enough is enough.  I am not going to abandon these social networking sites altogether but I have to cut back and create more time for reading (books, not blogs!) and writing.  Reading & writing are critical to my happiness and success.

Specific goal: 30 minutes per day devoted solely to reading.  30 minutes per day devoted solely to writing.

So that’s it friends!  These are my healthy, happy ambitions for 2011.  Of course there are a lot more floating around in my head, but this is where I’m going to start.  I will make a follow-up post in a couple of months to let you know how I’m doing.

Now it’s your turn! What are your healthy, happy ambitions for 2011?  Let me know in the comments.  We can help keep each other on track.

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    Letting Go of the Past: Forgiveness

    Last week, I finished listening to Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now. It had been on my “to-read” list for years, when by a stroke of fate a dear friend offered to lend me her audio copy. I plan to do a full review of the book in the coming weeks but for now I want to focus on one important element—forgiveness of the past.

    Recently I started thinking about the first twenty-five years of my life. In The Power of Now, we learn that to live in the future or the past is to suffer. The only way to exist in true harmony is to live in the now. After all, the past is not real, the future is not real. The past and the future only exist in our minds. The only thing that is truly and completely real, is the now.

    The challenge with this, however, is that until we can accept, understand, and move on from the conditioning of the past, we can not experience true freedom. And in order to truly accomplish this, we must experience true forgiveness of the past—forgiving others & ourselves completely.

    As I reflected upon these truths, I realized that I have been holding on to a tremendous amount of pain from my own personal history. There is so much past that continues to haunt me and impact me in the now. One of the greatest sources of pain revolves around my former lifestyle.

    I spent so much of my life caught up in a false sense of self. I spent incredible amounts of money on material possessions that I now perceive as worthless (clothes, jewelry, useless electronics, etc.) For some reason, I fell into the marketing. I bought it—all of it. (You can read more about my journey into financial prison and my subsequent journey out in previous posts.)

    But that’s not really the point, the point is that I ended up here. I can sit around and feel sorry for myself, angry that so much of my life was wasted, frustrated that I’ve only paid off a fraction (albeit a substantial fraction) of my debts so far; but if I did all of that where would it get me? It wouldn’t get me anywhere except maybe on a private jet to my own personal pity party. No thank you.

    Instead of wallowing, I am grateful. Grateful that I have come this far. Grateful that I’ have learned these lessons and changed the direction of my life by the age of 25 (soon-to-be 26). Grateful to be surrounded by a community of people that support me and believe in me. Grateful to have discovered my life’s true purpose and passion. Grateful to be doing what I love (even if only part of the time). Grateful to be safe, secure, healthy, strong, and beautiful.

    As I move through these emotions of gratitude for what I have now and what I am now, I find that the pain of my history slips away. I believe that I am finally on a path toward true forgiveness of the past. The reality is that it happened. I made mistakes, like all fallible human beings do. However, without making those mistakes, I may never have come to this place, to this now.

    The past grants us wisdom & grace. The memories that haunt us the most, are usually the memories that taught us the greatest lessons. Forgiveness will come from acceptance. So, the trick to true forgiveness is true acceptance. Once we can accept our past unconditionally, we can live fully in the now.

    I am making my way on this journey slowly. For most of my life, I focused almost entirely on the past—heart breaks, mistakes, errors in judgment, loss, failures, and so on—but that was a tragic mistake. What I now know is that the past is gone, the only thing that matters is now. And likewise, the future is a distant place that exists only in my mind. The only thing that matters is right now.

    Transforming the way that I think has been a challenging process, but I have come a tremendous distance already and I will keep on pushing forward, always.

    Now I ask you, reader, what pieces of your past are you holding on to? Are you willing to accept those pieces unconditionally so that you may truly forgive and live in harmony & light? Will you join me on this journey?

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    1. @ Andra – Three cheers for bath time! OMG. I don’t know how I went so long without it. 2011 is our year to get our lovely derrieres in gear + to take long, hot baths in celebration. XO

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  6. Hi Dena,

    I enjoy your writing style, and your thoughts.

    I am with you 100% on the positive change idea rather than resolutions and I love the positive changes you endeavour to make this year.

    My positive changes this year include continuing to live smokefree, I have given up alcohol. I would like to take up a dance class, a martial arts class, learn Tai Chi and adopt a minimalist approach to possesions and life such as your 2nd positive change.

    I wish you all the best in your changes and look forward to your update post.

    Keep growing…

    1. @ Joshua – Thank you so much for stopping by. I am really glad that you’ve found me. I was just reading about your journey over at your blog and it’s fantastic! I love your positive change plans for the year. I have always wanted to take a martial arts class, too. Perhaps you have inspired me. 🙂

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