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    My Journey to Financial Freedom | Part 2: The Climb

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    Three years ago, I was nearly $60,000 in debt. I had a Bachelor’s degree that didn’t appear to be worth its weight in salt and a job that couldn’t cover a fraction of my monthly bills. I was terrified.

    Today, I am closer to complete financial freedom than I ever dreamed possible. Last week, I paid off my last remaining credit card balance. This two-part post is a celebration of this incredible milestone in my journey.

    In part one, I explained how I got to that terrible place. In part two, I will explain how I’m getting out of it (and how you can do it, too).

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    1. Change the way you think about spending money. For most of my life, I believed that money was made to be spent. I believed that I *deserved* to spend every dollar that I earned on some material thing that would “make me happy.” I coveted material possessions—clothes, jewelry, electronics, cars. What I realize now is that money is not meant to be spent. You only need to earn enough money to survive. You should have enough money to buy only what you need. There is no need for excess.

    “You’re not your job. You’re not how much money you have in the bank. You’re not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fuc*ing khakis.” (Fight Club)

    This shift in mindset is hard to adjust to at first. You may not like the reactions that you receive from people. Believe me, I’ve been called cheap a few times, but I pay no mind to it. I would choose cheap over poor any day.

    2. Keep a budget. I highly recommend using Mint.com. I started using it in September and it has been one of the most transformational and useful tools throughout my journey to financial freedom. It allows you to sync up all of your accounts (loans, checking, savings, etc.) in one place. Then it keeps track of every transaction that you make and sorts/organizes all of the data for you. It allows you to track your spending over time and by category. It gives you incredible perspective and insight about where your money goes each month/year. It has been a truly eye-opening experience for me.

    If you’re unwilling to try Mint, you can keep a budget on a spread sheet or even by hand. However, the important thing is to be completely conscious about where every dollar you spend is going.

    3. Use a debit card. To reap the full Mint.com experience you should use a debit card for every purchase you make. Using the debit card will automatically flag each transaction you make into the appropriate category. So if you go to Shoprite, it will get marked as groceries. If you go to Home Depot it will get marked as home. If you stop at the gas station it will get marked as automobile, and so on.

    I use my debit card (linked to my checking account) for almost every single transaction that I make. I also have all of my monthly bills (like my auto insurance, utilities, and gym membership) automatically debited from the same checking account each month. It makes keeping track of my spending that much easier. Plus, I do not like dealing with cash. The debit card is quick, easy, and is accepted almost everywhere now.

    Whether or not you use Mint.com it is a good idea to use a debit card simply because you can review all of your purchases and purchase amounts on your monthly statement. Trying to keep track of receipts is a hassle that I don’t have time for.

    4. Pay off credit cards and cut them up. Paying off my credit cards was my first priority. For awhile I tried “credit card surfing.” Let me just tell you from experience, it’s overrated and it really doesn’t work. The idea is that you surf from credit card to credit card by transferring balances. A lot of companies will give you 0% APR for 6 months if you transfer your balances over to them. After the 6 months, you “surf” to a new card with another promotional rate.

    The problem with this tactic is that it gets messy quickly, it becomes difficult to keep up with, and if you lose track you will end up getting burned by high APRs, finance fees, cancellation fees, etc. Also, it probably doesn’t look great on your credit report if you’re opening up a new card every 6 months or so.

    It is much safer and wiser to just stop using credit cards! My theory is simple and has taken me very far: If you can not afford to buy it, then you can not afford it. Period. It is simple logic.

    5. Eat in. This is one of the easiest changes to make, but it also comes with an enormous, positive impact. When I started closely tracking my spending habits, I was shocked to see how much I was spending on eating out. A meal at a decent restaurant goes for about $25 per person. If you eat out twice a week, that is $3,120 a year. If you grab lunch out during the work week, it’s about $8 a day. That’s $2,080 a year. Put those together and you could be spending $5,200 a year or more on dining out! That is outrageous and completely unnecessary.

    Since I started eating in and packing lunches, I’ve taken my monthly food spending from $500 down to $200 or less! Over time, that means enormous savings. Check out 5dollardinners.com for some awesome, inexpensive recipes. I love it! Also, investing in a crock pot was one of the wisest decisions I ever made—chili, sausage & peppers, and goulash will be your new (delicious, cheap) best friends. (Here are some more tips for eating healthy & mindfully.)

    6. Direct deposit money into savings every month. This is my final—and perhaps most important—tip. When I began my journey to financial freedom, I opened a savings account with ING Direct. It is an easy-to-use online savings account and it gives you interest on the money that you save. It also allows you to set up easy direct deposits.

    I started out small, depositing $50 a month into my savings. As I learned to keep my budget tighter and tighter, I increased the amount that I put into my savings each month. Currently, I am putting away $500+ per month and hope to get closer to $1,000 per month in the very near future.

    When you direct deposit the funds, it comes out automatically. It is painless because you don’t have to do a thing. Because it’s automatic, after awhile you don’t even notice that it’s missing. (I remember reading that on another blog several months ago and thinking, “Are you out of your mind?! I’m not going to miss it? Yea right!”) But I can honestly say that after a few months, you adjust to the missing money. You truly do not miss it once it becomes normal for that amount to be deposited into savings automatically each month.

    It has been one of the best decisions that I’ve made and because I’ve worked so hard to get to this place—I don’t touch that money! I am keeping it there for a rainy day or to pay off my student loans someday in one fell swoop.

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    As I stated at the start of this post, three years ago I was almost $60,000 in debt; I was twenty-three years old; and I was scared to death. Today, I have my finances under control! I am on the road to financial freedom and you can get here, too. Truly, it is not as hard as it seems. With common sense and a bit of dedication, it will happen. Paying off my last credit card balance was like taking chains off of my wrists for the first time in seven years. The feeling was completely priceless. If I can do it, anybody can.

    So, what are your financial goals? Have you ever been in financial prison? How did you free yourself? If you’re still there, what are you going to do to break free?

60 Comments

  1. Great post Dena. You’re so right when you start making the saving, instead of the spending, automatic it soon grows…and grows.

    Very, very inspiring 🙂

    1. @ Laura – Thank you so much for your kind words! Yes. After awhile saving becomes like an addiction. You can’t wait to see that number in your savings account growing & growing. I never though I would see ME become addicted to saving (and not spending)! But it is amazing what we can accomplish with some goal-setting & dedication.

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  5. Absolutely awesome Dena!!! What a story and what a how-to post!! I’ve learned to love the prospects of positive thinking, believing in yourself, and visualizing the reality that you want. It is those small steps that really transform a persons thought process. The negative thoughts people often have about themselves generally translate into reality because they start believing them. Once that happens the road to independence seems hopeless, therefore giving the person no reason to even try. One of the most important things I have learned about myself is that, often times, I am my own worst enemy. It is I, that limits my abilities and successes more than anyone else eve could. Once I learned that about myself, my life began to take a drastic and purposeful turn in the right direction. It was one of the most rewarding lessons EVER!!

    Great post Dena! Keep inspiring others to take control and grow into something they never thought possible!! I LOVE IT!!

    Evolution YOU-NIVERSITY baby!!! 🙂

    1. @ Brad – Thank you so much for your incredible, inspirational comment! You are so wonderful. I have said it before & I will say it again: I am so grateful to have friends like you. Your story & wisdom have been beautiful guiding forces to me throughout my own journey.

      I am so happy to hear that the power of positive thinking has been having such a profound impact on you, too. We are blessed to be creating these lives & to be helping other people get on their own paths. Thank you so very much — as always — for your support! 😉

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  16. Hey Dena I loved this post. I am working on getting my finances in order ad well I am working on paying off my credit card debt so I Amin a debt management right now. I am still in school so my student loans arenot going any where but I have found that I spend on fast-food and other things. I need to be more positive about what I want and stop being so pessimistic. I def loved your tips and congrats on having an abundant amount in your savings account I do not any savings and I need to realize that I need to save something and it will grow I had an ing direct account a very long time ago will have to open another one I will start to think differently about saving and my needs vs my wants

    1. @ Michelle – Thank you for your comment. I am so happy to hear that you are working to get your finances in order. It is such an important part of out health & well-being. I am not saying that we have to be wealthy, but we shouldn’t have to live with debt hanging around our necks, or with compulsive spending habits.

      You are right, taking a positive approach toward your situation will help you move forward. Visualize where you want to be and then take yourself there. You can do it! 🙂

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  23. Awesome post, (I know it’s old but i’m going through the archives for the first time ever) I was saving 1 thousand a month at one point too but somewhere along the way I lost control of my budget even though I just got a raise, I seem to feel like I have less money. I recently celebrated my first 10k saved, also!

    1. I know how you feel. Sometimes, when you start to make more, you also start to SPEND more. It’s a difficult habit to break. The key (in my experience) has been to stick to a budget/lifestyle and don’t start over-spending just because of the salary increase.

      Thanks so much for sifting through the archives, I really appreciate your presence. <3

  24. Thank You. After evaluating my bank account, my spending habits, and my credit report…This is what I needed to push me forward. Change is good and at times, change is what necessary.

  25. I will catch you in ten months… I am going on a cruise to Europe (my goal) and spending ONLY what I save from my 10,000 account. It is my one big dream purchase that I won’t apologize for, and I’m putting it out there so I am accountable to my dream (saving the money, and going on the cruise).

    1. Hi Trina — I started life coaching after I overcame anxiety and depression. I wanted to help others to do the same. 🙂

  26. Very inspiring just accidentally ran onto your blog and love it! By the dates of the first few comments I can tell this was written a few years back but i’m just wondering if you and your husband have kept this up. My wife and I started our savings journey and Mint.com is the best. We have reached the 10k mark but our ultimate goal is 100k!! Wish us luck!

    1. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂 Yes, this was years ago. We are still saving. 🙂 Simple living has helped greatly over the years. Best of luck in your quest to 100K!

  27. Hi i have seen your post a few weeks ago and it made me put some of your tips into practice and i must say that i feel much better for it, i have saved this in my favs and read it a couple of times a week ,thank you you have helped me get on the path to a better future.

  28. Great post. I’m retired on a fixed income. I pay myself $10 to $20 a day from my checking account to my savings. It might sound silly but each of us have to discover our own way of managing, and with a click of a mouse it’s easy. If that money stays in my checking account, I’m going to spend it and I know it.

  29. I absolutely LOVED reading this blog! It was very informing..each tip was very helpful. I took notes and plan on using each and everyone to my advantage to start saving and get on the road to financial freedom! I appreciate you taking the time out to write this blog!! I loved it! Thanks so much!!!!! I’ll be back in 6 months to let you know how your advice helped me save $10,000!!!!

    xoxoxoxo

    Mercedes!!! 🙂

  30. Thank you for this post,.. while it will take me longer to reach my first goal of $10K+ (12 months @ $850 mo) This Post gave me the added enthusiasm I needed to get focused and start saving! I enjoy watching the account grow & also paying down CC debt. Once my credit cards are paid off i’ll fully fund my savings and can reach the next milestone ($25K) faster!!

  31. Thank you for this post!! Im currently attempting to save 10k in the same amount of time. I have 64k worth of loans and a 50k salary job. I wanted to know how did you manage to pay your loans and save at the same time?

    Thank you in advance

  32. Great work on this! I changed my lifestyle when I decided to be a stay at home parent with my LEO husband. Practicing minimalism like you mentioned was super important! I wish more people thought like this and realized that there are more important things in life like family and love in life! Have fun in Paris!

  33. This doesn’t make any sense to me. I make less than $10,000 a year and you spend more than that in 6 months.

    1. I’m not sure that I understand your line of reasoning here, but this advice certainly is only applicable given certain income ranges. Also, I don’t spend more than 10K in six months. That would definitely completely destroy my budget.

  34. Hi! I am so glad to have found this 🙂 thank you for inspiring me to get my financial butt in shape! I agree with everything you’re suggesting. I do have a question – how did you manage paying off your credit cards and saving at the same time? I feel like this is where I get hung up the most. Thanks!

  35. Thanks for the inspirational post on how to save your money. I got a job now and was thinking of buying the latest gadget again but I now I know what my needs and wants. So I think I’d rather save it for my future.

  36. I am so happy that I stumbled upon this amazing article! I am 25 and I am finally at a point in my life where I am seeking financial freedom. I recently started a new job that pays pretty well so this is the perfect opportunity for me to pay off my debt and save like nobody’s business. I am A entrepreneur at heart so I took this job with a savings goal in mind so that I wont have to be stuck here for long but i refuse to leave without meeting my savings goal/ start up cost for my jewelry small business. Thank you for this beautiful insight! I feel Like I can do it after reading this 💗

    -Sydney

  37. This was super helpful! Thank you so much for sharing your advice 🙂 “spend responsibly and spend when it leads to long-term happiness instead of instant gratification” is my new life motto now! 🙂

  38. Seriously??? Visualization and thinking about abundance??? How about having a job… you neglect to even mention that as one of the steps… This is absurdly impractical. Not to mention the blatant sales attempt for Mint.

    1. Haha. Thanks for reading. No sales attempt. I didn’t even collaborate with Mint on this post. It’s just a tool that I used to use and found helpful. Cheers, mate and happy new year.

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